- Aug 18, 2010
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In the mail today I received a letter from the school that my oldest attends (he's 13) that they themselves sent to his mom, my ex-girlfriend. In the letter it states that my son has missed 23 days of school and that they are starting to investigate the reason for his absences. He is also failing the majority of his classes.
I know that he had been out a week and a half a couple weeks ago because of the flu and subsequent pneumonia. He had also been sick a couple other times keeping him out a day or two, but he has been absent a total of 23 days. I know that he fights with his mom about going to school and she just throws up her hands and gives up and lets him stay home because she has my 4 other kids to get off to school and I guess can't continue to fight with him about going.
Now I have talked with him about his attendance record many times, but my talking holds no weight since I live 1200 miles away. What I say goes in one ear and out the other. He wants to stay home and play on the computer all day long. I would take it away from him, but again, I'm not there, so it's left up to his mom.
She isn't alone as the guy that she left me for lives with her, but beyond yelling at them (I heard him on a few occasions when talking with them) I don't know what he is doing to help. My hope is that he's doing more than just yelling.
Beyond talking to him I don't have a clue what else to do. His mom doesn't exactly communicate with me when things go wrong. I have asked her to help me to help her by telling me so we can both put up a united front so to speak.
The end result is that if his attendance doesn't improve they will call CPS and from there I'm not sure what CPS will do.
I pray for my children every night and their mom. As mentioned I have talked with him many times. I have talked with his counselor and he said for me to speak with him and that is all he recommended.
I guess I need to know what more I can do? I am at a loss for what to do.
I know that he had been out a week and a half a couple weeks ago because of the flu and subsequent pneumonia. He had also been sick a couple other times keeping him out a day or two, but he has been absent a total of 23 days. I know that he fights with his mom about going to school and she just throws up her hands and gives up and lets him stay home because she has my 4 other kids to get off to school and I guess can't continue to fight with him about going.
Now I have talked with him about his attendance record many times, but my talking holds no weight since I live 1200 miles away. What I say goes in one ear and out the other. He wants to stay home and play on the computer all day long. I would take it away from him, but again, I'm not there, so it's left up to his mom.
She isn't alone as the guy that she left me for lives with her, but beyond yelling at them (I heard him on a few occasions when talking with them) I don't know what he is doing to help. My hope is that he's doing more than just yelling.
Beyond talking to him I don't have a clue what else to do. His mom doesn't exactly communicate with me when things go wrong. I have asked her to help me to help her by telling me so we can both put up a united front so to speak.
The end result is that if his attendance doesn't improve they will call CPS and from there I'm not sure what CPS will do.
I pray for my children every night and their mom. As mentioned I have talked with him many times. I have talked with his counselor and he said for me to speak with him and that is all he recommended.
I guess I need to know what more I can do? I am at a loss for what to do.