Ladies what do you think about Prenuptial agreements

Agnieska

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As Christians we should be dedicated to making our marriages work and regarding them as permanent relationships.

However, outside the church, people often enter into marriage with a kind of "well, if it doesn't work out..." kind of mentality. They often don't see marriage as for life, but rather as a longish term relationship to enjoy while it lasts. Hence the need for pre-nups.

If a guy proposed to me and then insisted on a pre-nup - I would walk! To me it says either he isn't serious, or he doesn't trust me.
 
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Not Christian, but personally, I think it's unwise to go into a marriage without one if you actually have assets to protect.

It doesn't mean you don't trust your potential spouse, nor does it mean you aren't serious. I compare it to the acrobats at the circus who swing around and talk on tight ropes...They don't do it without a net. No matter how much they've practiced, no matter how good they are, strong they are, how good their balance is, how much they trust one another. Some may go years and years, or their entire acrobat career without falling. But one slip and if that net isn't there, then somebody's going to have to scrape brains off the floor.
 
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I think it's unwise to go into a marriage without one if you actually have assets to protect.

It doesn't mean you don't trust your potential spouse, nor does it mean you aren't serious. I compare it to the acrobats at the circus who swing around and talk on tight ropes...They don't do it without a net. No matter how much they've practiced, no matter how good they are, strong they are, how good their balance is, how much they trust one another. Some may go years and years, or their entire acrobat career without falling. But one slip and if that net isn't there, then somebody's going to have to scrape brains off the floor.

Pretty much this.
 
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There's absolutely no way I can wrap my head around that, so I guess I'll just have to agree to disagree.
Yeah, me neither. That said, if a split were to happen, I would much rather take care of things just the two of us personally, rather than having any legal stuff involved.
 
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Read what Jesus had to say about taking people to court, then try to wrap it again.
A prenup would actually fall in line with Matt. 5:25 by compromising with your opponent to avoid trouble. That's not to say you have to have one though.
 
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If, let's say, both my parents died and they left me with the only valuable thing they could leave me, for instance - a home or something similar...

I'd have more problem with a woman who would not sign a pre-nup with regard to such things. I'd be asking myself..."uh...does she think that she has a right to my inheritance by virtue only of being married to me for a time, and which she has not contributed anything at all to? "

I would ask this question because Prenuptial agreements only go into effect when there is a break up or divorce. If we are still married, there's no issue, everything I have is hers.

But if we are not married, I cannot predict why this has happened. The person I married at the time may have been trustworthy, loyal, committed, faithful, etc. But people change, and how they change is not always something I have influence over.

I don't see pre-nups as a recipe for failure, I see them like I see insurance policies. When you step into a motor vehicle you do not expect to be maimed in a horrible accident, but you have the insurance policy in case what you do not expect happens anyway.

Divorces and breakups are very often bitter and vengeful. People do things out of character because of strong emotions. This is where pre-nups come into play. In the course of a happy and faithful marriage, all they are is a useless piece of paper that will never be used.
 
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Agreed, I see pre-nup as an insurance policy. I feel fortunate that my ex-wife, while I'm still disappointed she was saying "It's just completely unrealistic for two people to stay together for a lifetime" only 9 months after we said "I do", she didn't try to take advantage. We agreed to leave with what we came in with, and she rejected the attorney's suggestion of asking for half of my 401K and pension. In her mind, they were mine before we met, and she isn't going to take it just because we were married briefly.

Unfortunately, I've heard horror stories of messy divorces that screw guys financially. Maybe for me, the litmus test of a potential mate is if I'm convinced that I don't need a pre-nup. The last woman I dated dropped a few too many clues that she wanted to marry into money and make babies. I can't decide whether it was her hinting at the MINIMUM size of an engagement rock or the words "Oh, you'll buy me a convertible, right?" that stuck out more. In both cases, we had only been dating about a month. Yikes.
 
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