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Quick Marriages
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I've read your posts before about you and your husband. It sounded like a beautiful relationship. I'm sorry for your loss, but I'm happy that you got to love him and him you and that you speak about him well
. God bless you.
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Quick marriages are either dreams come true or nightmares made reality. It can be hard to differentiate between connecting with someone you're going to be with for the long term and someone who tantalises you for the moment.
9 months, from first meeting to marriage, is the shortest i've witnessed.
9 months, from first meeting to marriage, is the shortest i've witnessed.
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memoriesbymichelle
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I've read your posts before about you and your husband. It sounded like a beautiful relationship. I'm sorry for your loss, but I'm happy that you got to love him and him you and that you speak about him well
Awe! Thank you! No relationship is perfect, but it was pretty good. I think we were good for each other.
I also think that some people, when they find "the one" they just somehow instinctively know it and it works.
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Socktastic
we have sinned in thought, word and deed
My cousin married someone within 12 weeks of knowing them.
That was interesting.
That was interesting.
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Thunder Peel
You don't eat a peacock until it's cooked.
I think a lot of these happen in Christian circles because of sexual desire and/or purity struggles. Not always, but obviously this is a bigger deal to most Christians, especially if they're saving sex for marriage.
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Amber.ly
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My brother started dating his wife in January, got engaged in February and got married in April.
They knew each other growing up though and only lost touch for a few years before reconnecting in a whirlwind kind of way.
Fast isn't always a mistake and slow isn't always the better way.
They knew each other growing up though and only lost touch for a few years before reconnecting in a whirlwind kind of way.
Fast isn't always a mistake and slow isn't always the better way.
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aloou
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So true. And I find comfort in the people who have known me forever. I can easily see that working out well.
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Interesting that the issue of time length is being talked about with those stories.
How about talking about how those people who got burned picked people they should have never been involved with to begin with? Just odd that the conversation is about time to get married and not the quality of people we choose.
As others have said, quick doesn't always mean bad and long doesn't always mean better. I have my preference just as everyone else has.
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You don't have to feel that way. You are choosing to feel that way. And you are making a tremendously wrong judgment of others by doing so. I don't understand the sort of attitude that dredges up the worst of the worst examples of humanity and then treats everyone else as if they are the same way.
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It's not the wait but the people.
The problem is, in the society we base dating on hiding who someone is by playing a cat and mouse game, so you can waste YEARS weeding through all the pretend garbage to get at the real person, which is why "short" time spans to marriage seem so odd.
But if both people approach a relationship honest and open without the games, there is no reason to be shocked at a quick wedding. You can save a lot of time when you cut through the useless garbage of this world.
If the two people are honest and open and willing to commit to each other after 2 weeks or 2 years, who is to judge them?
The problem is, in the society we base dating on hiding who someone is by playing a cat and mouse game, so you can waste YEARS weeding through all the pretend garbage to get at the real person, which is why "short" time spans to marriage seem so odd.
But if both people approach a relationship honest and open without the games, there is no reason to be shocked at a quick wedding. You can save a lot of time when you cut through the useless garbage of this world.
If the two people are honest and open and willing to commit to each other after 2 weeks or 2 years, who is to judge them?
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PetLuv
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My parents married 9 months after meeting - engaged 3 months after. Married now for 36 years.
I personally prefer the faster relationships. After ending my most serious relationship that was about 18 months I vowed right then that I would never put more than a year into someone without it progressing in some degree.
IMO - if you hold off on engagement/marriage than there is a reason that you(or the other) sees it is not a good fit and I'm not wasting my time in such a way again.
I personally prefer the faster relationships. After ending my most serious relationship that was about 18 months I vowed right then that I would never put more than a year into someone without it progressing in some degree.
IMO - if you hold off on engagement/marriage than there is a reason that you(or the other) sees it is not a good fit and I'm not wasting my time in such a way again.
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Jupiter Drops
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I heard from a friend that there was once a couple who met within a week and got married right off the bat. They're still married, I hear.
Some people can even meet someone for a day and get married.
It's about how committed you are and if you're ready to take the responsibilities of another person. It doesn't matter if you only knew that person for about a decade. Some people will put on that facade you thought you knew till after the wedding's over.
Some people can even meet someone for a day and get married.
It's about how committed you are and if you're ready to take the responsibilities of another person. It doesn't matter if you only knew that person for about a decade. Some people will put on that facade you thought you knew till after the wedding's over.
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