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FreeSpirit74: Yes, I really appreciate you talking to me, but the truth is, that I WILL do it regardless, but I am trying to get my parents to aprove, and I think I have got my dad where he is okay with it (I have trouble knowing because he had a stroke when I was seven, almost eight, so he has trouble talking), and my mom is really proud of the fact that I want to go to West Point, she just doesn't know that there is an Army commitment. And like I said, she is going to find that out soon regardless of whether or not I tell her. My friend's dad asked my mom if I have a death wish. And she is telling EVERYONE, and people ask me about what I want to do a lot, because we are at a new church, and I am in almost all new settings, so that is the kind of thing that people ask me a lot, so I have a huge oppurtunity to talk about it, and I love doing it. And my mom knows that West Point has a huge connection as far as the Army goes. It was her suggestion that I buy this Army bracelet the day before yesterday at a craft show. I am just having trouble telling her that I am going to be making a twelve year commitment, starting when I am seventeen, but making the commitment when I am sixteen. I mean, she says now, that is two years away, how can you know what college you are going too at sixteen. So how is she going to take it that I am going to be making a 12 year commitment (including West Point) when I am sixteen? That is what I am most worried about.God Bless,Ashleigh
 
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My friend's dad asked my mom if I have a death wish.
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Don't listen to people who talk this sort of way, that's a horrible way of looking at such an honorable service as serving your country and being military as not a death wish, most service members never ever see combat and they aren't supposed to. But being willing to is why the military is such an honorable thing, because we need people who are and so few people are or do.

Don't bother your parents about this any more than you have to. When the time comes do what you believe you should do, your parents love you, honor you and they will most likely support and respect your decision whatever it is. Don't make it a big deal right now. They know that your career and future is your own, they know that and they probably won't fight you over it. No one loves you and respects you like your parents do. Don't get the idea in your head that they are against you.
 
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Thank you, and I don't. He is the only one to have acted this way. Yes, I definitely agree.
Thanks. I know this is true, but my mom is almost in denial, and I do need to get into JROTC before West Point so it has to come up soon.
I told her about the army commitment, and as I said, I think that she is in denial.
God Bless,
Ashleigh
 
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Thanks so much to every one who has talked to me through this. I did tell my mom that West Point means an eight year army commitment, and she
basically said by the time it was time for me to decide whether to really do this I would have changed my mind. But the truth is, I have never prayed
so hard, or been so serious about anything. She wanted to be a psycologist, so she trys to analyze everything, and now she is convinced that I just
want to make something of myself, and be in something dangerous. She is normally extremely positive, but she started talking about how stiff the
requirements were and basically telling me that chances were good I wouldn't get in. She was more positive about me wanting to be an
Olympian/proffesional athlete, than she is about this. She keeps asking me if I would rather she act really upset, because she isn't since it is so far
off. The truth is, I would, because that is what I was expecting. What is a little bit funny is, my friends mom is acting more upset than mine. She
said "but that's a military academy," when my mom told her. So the truth is, I guess hse is just in denial. I just want her behind me on this. And she
is making it clear that I won't be changing her mind on the issue of women in the military, so I am sitting here thinking that she doesn't approve and
she is going to have an Army Officer for a daughter. Thanks, and I am DEFINITELY still open to advice, it really has helped.
God Bless,
Ashleigh
 
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Ashleigh21 said:
FreeSpirit74: Yes, I really appreciate you talking to me, but the truth is, that I WILL do it regardless, but I am trying to get my parents to aprove, and I think I have got my dad where he is okay with it (I have trouble knowing because he had a stroke when I was seven, almost eight, so he has trouble talking), and my mom is really proud of the fact that I want to go to West Point, she just doesn't know that there is an Army commitment. And like I said, she is going to find that out soon regardless of whether or not I tell her. My friend's dad asked my mom if I have a death wish. And she is telling EVERYONE, and people ask me about what I want to do a lot, because we are at a new church, and I am in almost all new settings, so that is the kind of thing that people ask me a lot, so I have a huge oppurtunity to talk about it, and I love doing it. And my mom knows that West Point has a huge connection as far as the Army goes. It was her suggestion that I buy this Army bracelet the day before yesterday at a craft show. I am just having trouble telling her that I am going to be making a twelve year commitment, starting when I am seventeen, but making the commitment when I am sixteen. I mean, she says now, that is two years away, how can you know what college you are going too at sixteen. So how is she going to take it that I am going to be making a 12 year commitment (including West Point) when I am sixteen? That is what I am most worried about.God Bless,Ashleigh
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Why are you ashamed of joining the army?

My father is a military veteran and he was never ashamed to fight in the Gulf War in the 1990s.

Being that I am the daughter of a past sergeant (spelling?) is probably why I am not ashamed of the military at all.

But he is retired now.
 
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Ashleigh21 said:
Thank you, and I don't. He is the only one to have acted this way. Yes, I definitely agree.
Thanks. I know this is true, but my mom is almost in denial, and I do need to get into JROTC before West Point so it has to come up soon.
I told her about the army commitment, and as I said, I think that she is in denial.
God Bless,
Ashleigh
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I find your mother's shame to be rather silly, but that is just my opinion.
 
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BlueLioness

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briareos said:
Don't listen to people who talk this sort of way, that's a horrible way of looking at such an honorable service as serving your country.
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Yeah I was just thinking the same thing. You should never be ashamed of serving your country, if the opportunity arises.

I rather think that that is a noble, worthy, and honorable cause.
 
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