Will you marry for financial stability/money?

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it was a comparison of values. for example, I would never go slumming. but then we have different ideas of just who would count as slumming it with.

For the record, I have never and will never go "slumming."

And I apologize if the phrase comes off as vulgar.
 
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This makes me sad :(. I don't know what to type here.......would you say Mother Teresa or Paul had no ambitions, goals or motivations?

Don't pay her any attention :) she's probably loving all the attention as is :thumbsup: the apple doesn't fall far from the tree is her perception so you can see she why she feels the way she does.
 
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Will you marry for financial stability/money?


1 Corinthians 7:33-34
33 But he that is married careth for the things that are of the world, how he may please his wife. 34 There is difference also between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman careth for the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit: but she that is married careth for the things of the world, how she may please her husband.
 
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Nope, wouldn't marry for money. Gainfully employed, or looking, is all I ask.

TBH, not sure I want an especially ambitious woman too. Not that it's a deal breaker, but too much ambition or materialism can definitely lead to a number of negatives in terms of character, time, stress etc.

I sort of feel bad for the guys out there that choose a field or career because of it's social/economic status, and not really like it, all so that they can make a lot of $$ and do the cleaver family thing. Sure, it's important to be able to feed yourself, shelter and clothe your family, but to have the latest gadgets and doodads, a fancy car, a McMansion, a boat and all that other stuff? Those are the kinds of things one needs a "good job" for.

Personally, whether I'm serving fries, driving a taxi, a self made millionaire or the CEO of a large fortune 500 company, I don't want a wife who's chief concern is my income level. What if, after a number of years making X amount of $$ in a "good job", I decide I hate it, can't stand the stress, conclude that the service or product is immoral or unethical, and decide to demote myself? How would a wife who loved me act? Would she understand? Or would she be only thinking about the loss of lifestyle?
 
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How much money are we talking about here anyways? If we're talking something like 200,000 dollars a year they'll most likely look over you as quickly as you'd dismiss the poorer guy.
 
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I understand you toasty so much!

I respect a man who works hard and even if its just what he can do at the moment. In my family there are a lot of hard working men who don't make a lot of money but they work very hard to take care of their families.
I want to be with someone where we can support each other and raise a family, even if we are struggling I rather be by someone side in the good and bad.

Thanks! It's one of the most frustrating things when people assume that because you're not "using your degree," or doing something white collar, that you have no goals or ambition, and that you don't intend to stay there forever. And that's so true; if you're willing to work hard to support your family despite making little money, it's a sign of good character.

Isn't there always a job crisis in the U.S.? That is not an excuse to not have goals in life.

My sister briefly dated a coal miner. She really liked him, but she readily agreed with me when I told her that he wasn't an appropriate match (based on their differences in education/socioeconomic background/occupation). Sure, a girl or guy can go slumming if they want, but if you think a good marriage will be made from it, then you are delusional. Large disparities between partners will usually led to marital problems down the road.

There wasn't always a jobs crisis in the US, but this isn't the Economic History thread.
I get what you're saying, to a degree, but occupation and background do not always equal character. Coal mining is probably a career job, and not something you do for a couple summers to work your way through college, but there's still a major difference between someone who's temporarily doing something they're overqualified for (but wants to move up) and someone who doesn't have the education or training for something better, nor the desire to obtain it.
Would you like to define "slumming?"
 
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To make myself financially stable? heavens, no! I have a good job and do pretty well for myself. But, I'm also not going to marry a guy that is going to be a drain on me. I'd rather marry someone that has similar drive and ambition that I do and is also gainfully employed or is on the way. But what about hard times, Ellie? Yes, it's true my future husband and I could fall on hard times where one or both of us lose our jobs or whatever. I don't think my b/f and I would love eachother less in those times, but I also think we both would do what we could to earn something or contribute to our life together and to not value each other solely based on what we are earning.
 
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I never knew coal miners were lazy and unmotivated..
I'll have to ask my lumberjack buddy if he is the lazy too.


..Gonna be hard though, since he rotates through two different job sites and all. Lazy bugger.
 
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No. I am fairly stable on my own, so I know I wouldn't. I don't have that greed for more money, and I am lucky enough to be comfortable.

Money doesn't mean that much to me - I have what I need, and am fortunate enough to buy things I want too, but I would never put money above love. Though, I do wonder what I would think if my situation was different.

The idea that someone would marry me for financial stability worries me.
 
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