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ROCD Question - Please Help.

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I have dated my girlfriend a little over a year. I felt like I was really in love with her and was wanting to propose within the next year. The other day I woke up and felt like I didn't have the feelings for her like I once did. Is this ROCD or have I really fell out of love with her? I really want it to be ROCD and I want to still truly love her and don't want to fall out of love with her or break up with her. Please help.
 
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I have dated my girlfriend a little over a year. I felt like I was really in love with her and was wanting to propose within the next year. The other day I woke up and felt like I didn't have the feelings for her like I once did. Is this ROCD or have I really fell out of love with her? I really want it to be ROCD and I want to still truly love her and don't want to fall out of love with her or break up with her. Please help.

Sounds like ROCD to me, man. Feelings come and feelings go, but the mere fact that you still want to love her and don't want to leave her speaks volumes about how you really feel about her. Don't act rashly, okay? :)

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I have dated my girlfriend a little over a year. I felt like I was really in love with her and was wanting to propose within the next year. The other day I woke up and felt like I didn't have the feelings for her like I once did. Is this ROCD or have I really fell out of love with her? I really want it to be ROCD and I want to still truly love her and don't want to fall out of love with her or break up with her. Please help.

Yeah, it really sounds like ROCD here. And besides, love isn't just a feeling; it's a choice. I can choose to love my siblings, for instance, even when I don't necessarily like them. The sole fact that you want to still be with her and marry her speaks volumes about your real feelings about this. :)
 
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