Men who only desire women for sex.

xhayatox · Aug 3, 2012

Am I the only sensible guy around anymore? I am constantly surrounded by other male coworkers at my job who talk relentlessly about having sex with other women, and all this disgusting crap. I don't see why it's such a motivating prospect. Why is sexual gratification so desirable for certain people? Personally, I am just hoping to meet a girl that I can establish a genuine relationship with. I just want love. Companionship. Sex is not a priority at all for me. It will never be. I don't understand how some people are so consumed by it. I just don't know. Too many people nowadays are looking for somebody to sleep with, rather than finding somebody worth waking up too. Am I weird for not caring about sex?

ILoveJesus1 · Aug 3, 2012

I personally do not think you are wierd at all. I am female and I have the same views as you on this. I personally think you have very desirable values. And I definitely think you will find a girl who appreciates what kind of person you are.

GNJ · Aug 3, 2012

Every snowflake is different. Some men just really like sex and they talk about it a lot with their friends who also really like sex.

You're not "weird" for not caring about sex, just different to those guys. No better or worse.

Eudaimonist · Aug 3, 2012

xhayatox said:
Am I the only sensible guy around anymore?

Not at all. I can fully understand that you are looking for a relationship instead of merely looking for sex. I'm the same way.

eudaimonia,

Mark

selfinflikted · Aug 3, 2012

xhayatox said:
Am I the only sensible guy around anymore? I am constantly surrounded by other male coworkers at my job who talk relentlessly about having sex with other women, and all this disgusting crap. I don't see why it's such a motivating prospect. Why is sexual gratification so desirable for certain people? Personally, I am just hoping to meet a girl that I can establish a genuine relationship with. I just want love. Companionship. Sex is not a priority at all for me. It will never be. I don't understand how some people are so consumed by it. I just don't know. Too many people nowadays are looking for somebody to sleep with, rather than finding somebody worth waking up too. Am I weird for not caring about sex?

Sex is a big deal for most people, so you are probably in the minority not caring about it. It's just the nature of our biology. That said, it makes you no better or worse than anyone else. I'm sure there are women out there who share your views and with whom you can be in a satisfying relationship.

Jade Margery · Aug 3, 2012

xhayatox said:
Am I the only sensible guy around anymore? I am constantly surrounded by other male coworkers at my job who talk relentlessly about having sex with other women, and all this disgusting crap. I don't see why it's such a motivating prospect. Why is sexual gratification so desirable for certain people? Personally, I am just hoping to meet a girl that I can establish a genuine relationship with. I just want love. Companionship. Sex is not a priority at all for me. It will never be. I don't understand how some people are so consumed by it. I just don't know. Too many people nowadays are looking for somebody to sleep with, rather than finding somebody worth waking up too. Am I weird for not caring about sex?

First: How old are you, and how old are they?

I ask because the younger guys are, the more interested in sex they tend to be, and the more eager they are to one-up or show off to each other. It could well be that some of them are more interested in love than sex too, but around their male buddies they've got it in their heads that they should be all about the poontang or they won't be cool. Or, you happen to know a bunch of jerks. Either way, wringing your hands about how sad the world is "nowadays" while seeking back-patting affirmation for 'being the rebel' and 'not following the crowd' isn't really an ethics and morality issue.

Gadarene · Aug 3, 2012

xhayatox said:
Am I the only sensible guy around anymore? I am constantly surrounded by other male coworkers at my job who talk relentlessly about having sex with other women, and all this disgusting crap. I don't see why it's such a motivating prospect. Why is sexual gratification so desirable for certain people? Personally, I am just hoping to meet a girl that I can establish a genuine relationship with. I just want love. Companionship. Sex is not a priority at all for me. It will never be. I don't understand how some people are so consumed by it. I just don't know. Too many people nowadays are looking for somebody to sleep with, rather than finding somebody worth waking up too. Am I weird for not caring about sex?

Constant one-up-manship (bad choice of words, perhaps) of any kind, in any group, is immature and tiresome.

There's nothing inherently wrong or insensible with only seeking sexual gratification if that's what both parties (or more) want. There are certainly people who want more than that.

Puptart · Aug 3, 2012

Essentially you're stereotyping all the men of the world into a little box based on the things you personally have heard in your lifetime. That doesn't exactly cut it. There are plenty of guys who are interested in legitimate relationships with a purpose. You also have to take into account the idiocy of men in packs

Who, as the above poster pointed out, may enjoy one-upping each other in an immature and tiresome fashion, be it truthful words out of their mouths or not.

CaliforniaSun · Aug 3, 2012

xhayatox said:
Am I the only sensible guy around anymore? I am constantly surrounded by other male coworkers at my job who talk relentlessly about having sex with other women, and all this disgusting crap. I don't see why it's such a motivating prospect. Why is sexual gratification so desirable for certain people? Personally, I am just hoping to meet a girl that I can establish a genuine relationship with. I just want love. Companionship. Sex is not a priority at all for me. It will never be. I don't understand how some people are so consumed by it. I just don't know. Too many people nowadays are looking for somebody to sleep with, rather than finding somebody worth waking up too. Am I weird for not caring about sex?

Short answer: Yes!

Monogamous or not, sex is important.

On a serious note, you may wan't to have your testosterone levels checked.

ann216 · Aug 3, 2012

I am a female and dont care at all about it

selfinflikted · Aug 3, 2012

I am a male and care a great deal about it.

wanderingone · Aug 3, 2012

Jade Margery said:
First: How old are you, and how old are they?

I ask because the younger guys are, the more interested in sex they tend to be, and the more eager they are to one-up or show off to each other. It could well be that some of them are more interested in love than sex too, but around their male buddies they've got it in their heads that they should be all about the poontang or they won't be cool. Or, you happen to know a bunch of jerks. Either way, wringing your hands about how sad the world is "nowadays" while seeking back-patting affirmation for 'being the rebel' and 'not following the crowd' isn't really an ethics and morality issue.

What she said..

but also.. if you have no sex drive at all then you might want to have a physical, but if what you mean by being interested in sexual gratification is that you are interested, but not interested in getting it instantly or by any means necessary, and also aren't interested in making your personal experiences or desires topics for public consumption then you're just being you and there are people like you, just like there are guys like your coworkers.

quatona · Aug 4, 2012

xhayatox said:
Am I the only sensible guy around anymore? I am constantly surrounded by other male coworkers at my job who talk relentlessly about having sex with other women, and all this disgusting crap. I don't see why it's such a motivating prospect. Why is sexual gratification so desirable for certain people? Personally, I am just hoping to meet a girl that I can establish a genuine relationship with. I just want love. Companionship. Sex is not a priority at all for me. It will never be. I don't understand how some people are so consumed by it. I just don't know. Too many people nowadays are looking for somebody to sleep with, rather than finding somebody worth waking up too. Am I weird for not caring about sex?

Why is it important to you that either you or the others must be "weird" or not "sensible"?

On another note:
"Too many people nowadays are looking for somebody to sleep with" (emphasis added)
"Nowadays", as opposed to when exactly?

ann216 · Aug 4, 2012

guys have sex on the mind 24/ 7 its the way there are. me sex isnt importanant and I am a girl

quatona · Aug 4, 2012

ann216 said:
guys have sex on the mind 24/ 7 its the way there are.

I´m a guy and I don´t have sex on my mind 24/7. Should I be concerned? Anything wrong with me? Should I see a doctor? Am I transsexual?

CounselorForChrist · Aug 4, 2012

I'm the same way. Women are not meat to me. Do I like sex? Of course, but its not the most important thing in the world to me. I only want it when I am married. Of course the thing is when it comes to marriage, we need to make sure the other person likes or doesn't like sex.

Because if you don't like sex or don't even really enjoy it, make sure you marry someone like yourself. Because people who do like sex that are stuck with people who don't...it wall cause marital problems.

ann216 · Aug 4, 2012

I meant some guys not all sorry for hurting your feelings

CaliforniaSun · Aug 4, 2012

ann216 said:
I am a female and dont care at all about it

Perhaps you've never had a reason to care?

CounselorForChrist · Aug 4, 2012

Perhaps you've never had a reason to care?

I think people that have not had sex to easily say "I don't care about it". Once you have had it, you see its wonderful. Of course I've met some who have had TERRIBLE partners so it makes them hate sex. Its why you have to take time to learn about each others body so it can become incredible. If you don't both then especially for women its just boring.

Gadarene · Aug 5, 2012

xfreakazoidx said:
I think people that have not had sex to easily say "I don't care about it". Once you have had it, you see its wonderful. Of course I've met some who have had TERRIBLE partners so it makes them hate sex. Its why you have to take time to learn about each others body so it can become incredible. If you don't both then especially for women its just boring.

I agree, but I think both 'sides' of this debate overrate sex - either by saying it's so awesome you should get as much of it as possible or by saying it's so awesome it should be sheltered till a very specific point in your life.

Neither really seem applicable, it's fun, but it's not everything. As always the ideal seems somewhere in the middle.

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