This has been the most difficult area for me to swallow in the christian faith. Fundamentalists ban all forms of sexual activity before marriage. Liberals are a bit more well liberal in this area and I am undecided. My past was filled with promiscuity and constant lust. I never want to go down that road again. It formed out of early rejection from women and friends..I never developed healthy stable relations and only thought I was worth the short term physical stuff. Anyhow just before finding christ I was in a more lengthy relation with more substance and would consider her to have been a girlfriend. Although due to circumstances it didnt last I do very much miss being in that relationship. I have done my research and heard the debate from both sides on the pre-marital sex thing and it is a tough one. My main goal is to get married, but I would love to be able to date in a normal fashion..where sex is part of the progression. The most difficult thing for me is that I am in the military and constantly moving around..and I dont know how I would find a marriage partner w/o dateing. I am going to try some christian dateing sites and see how they work. Anyways I am torn on the issue and never really understood how it came to be such a big part of the religion..I mean things are just not the same noe as biblical times. I am not getting hitched at the age of 13 and going on immediately to raise a family. It just doesnt all fit for todays times.