Why Did God put This Girl In My Life?

GodIsGood24 · Jun 11, 2012

I'm 19 years old. I have a friend who I believe is absolutely amazing in my eyes. We're best friends, too. However, I have been in love with this girl for 3 years now. It's just that she drives me crazy. At times she acts like she likes me. Other times she acts like we're only friends.
She hurts me so much with these conflicting emotions of hers. We've already discussed our feelings, but she told me that she wasn't looking for a boyfriend. Little did I know, she was already talking to another guy. She lied to me.
The problem is that I love her too much to let her go. I don't really care about the things she has done, as I have forgiven her in my heart already. I always forgive her, and endure the moments when she hurts me because I'm patient and understanding and strongly believe that this love I have for her is too strong to be daunted and destroyed.
I love her so much it hurts. I know I should just walk away from such a woman, but I believe that she's one of the greatest blessings in my life from God. I believe that if I give her up its a direct slap in the face to God. I cherish what we have, and thank God for her many, many times. I want to know why God has put such a woman in my life. I love her, but she hurts. Sometimes she's a blessing, other times she's a curse. Please help me, Christians. I can use your words in this particular storm in my life. God bless.

paul1149 · Jun 11, 2012

The girl is in your life to develop your character, by you walking away from her romantically. If she is be the right one, then this is not the right time. You need to give her space to work out her conflicting emotions. You need to give her time to consider her lying. You need to stand on your own without her, because she is not a source of peace and understanding to you; quite the opposite. If you don’t respect yourself, she will not respect you. You are the temple of the Holy Spirit.

But the wisdom from above is first pure, then peaceable, gentle, open to reason, full of mercy and good fruits, impartial and sincere.
And a harvest of righteousness is sown in peace by those who make peace. -Jam 3.17-18

HolySpiritWOF2 · Jun 11, 2012

GodIsGood24 said:
I'm 19 years old. I have a friend who I believe is absolutely amazing in my eyes. We're best friends, too. However, I have been in love with this girl for 3 years now. It's just that she drives me crazy. At times she acts like she likes me. Other times she acts like we're only friends.
She hurts me so much with these conflicting emotions of hers. We've already discussed our feelings, but she told me that she wasn't looking for a boyfriend. Little did I know, she was already talking to another guy. She lied to me.
The problem is that I love her too much to let her go. I don't really care about the things she has done, as I have forgiven her in my heart already. I always forgive her, and endure the moments when she hurts me because I'm patient and understanding and strongly believe that this love I have for her is too strong to be daunted and destroyed.
I love her so much it hurts. I know I should just walk away from such a woman, but I believe that she's one of the greatest blessings in my life from God. I believe that if I give her up its a direct slap in the face to God. I cherish what we have, and thank God for her many, many times. I want to know why God has put such a woman in my life. I love her, but she hurts. Sometimes she's a blessing, other times she's a curse. Please help me, Christians. I can use your words in this particular storm in my life. God bless.

praying for you and her.... that GOD would fill you each with HIS goodness and wisdom and peace and truth.... so that both of you would each know for sure what HIS will is for you.... and that each of you would walk close with GOD.... and in the perfect ways that HE has set before you each... and that you are both covered by the blood of JESUS.... to walk in HIS protection from any harm.... or error.... GOD BLESS you....

ps..... it might be a good idea.... if you choose.... to give your emotions and feelings about her to the LORD.... and ask HIM to fill you with HIS feelings and emotions.... so that you can get clarity and peace.... even if she is the one for you.... things would go better if you kept yourself filled with GOD and HIS thoughts and feelings.... HE can do that anytime you ask HIM to....

pdudgeon · Jun 12, 2012

having walked in the girl's shoes, i can tell you that since this has been a 3+ year relationship she does care for you and value you and you have a special place in her life that no one else holds. on the other hand, she probably views your relationship differently than you do at this time.

if you are committed to her and value her, then it's a matter of waiting until her heart catches up to yours.
how you do that waiting is up to you. whether you stay close and be there for her in the ups and the downs or whether you withdraw to a safer distance but still keep in touch is something for you to decide.

you are not the only person to whom this has happened. some people in this situation split and go their ways only to meet up again later in life. others in this situation wait faithfully for their fulfillment, and the other person's heart to realize that what they are looking for is right before them; so close that only the absence made them realize what they had. still others go thru life and choose never to marry another person than the one they love, remaining true in their hearts for a lifetime.

All of those are viable choices, but you are the only person who can decide which choice is best for the both of you.
it is literally the choice of a lifetime, so make it carefully. :hug:

Optimax · Jun 12, 2012

GodIsGood24 said:
I'm 19 years old. I have a friend who I believe is absolutely amazing in my eyes. We're best friends, too. However, I have been in love with this girl for 3 years now. It's just that she drives me crazy. At times she acts like she likes me. Other times she acts like we're only friends.
She hurts me so much with these conflicting emotions of hers. We've already discussed our feelings, but she told me that she wasn't looking for a boyfriend. Little did I know, she was already talking to another guy. She lied to me.
The problem is that I love her too much to let her go. I don't really care about the things she has done, as I have forgiven her in my heart already. I always forgive her, and endure the moments when she hurts me because I'm patient and understanding and strongly believe that this love I have for her is too strong to be daunted and destroyed.
I love her so much it hurts. I know I should just walk away from such a woman, but I believe that she's one of the greatest blessings in my life from God. I believe that if I give her up its a direct slap in the face to God. I cherish what we have, and thank God for her many, many times. I want to know why God has put such a woman in my life. I love her, but she hurts. Sometimes she's a blessing, other times she's a curse. Please help me, Christians. I can use your words in this particular storm in my life. God bless.

If you were truly in her heart she would be committed to you.

Will she ever be?

There is a three year of history that includes much heart break for you and she continues to seek elsewhere.

Will it change? I do not know.

Your decision?

Are you prepared to continue with the heart break for a chance that her heart will commit to you?
:hug:

HolySpiritWOF2 · Jun 12, 2012

wise words from everyone....

one thing for sure GodIsGood.... GOD is good... HE has good plans for your life.... which include a wife if you so desire.... proverbs says: a man that finds a wife finds a good thing: and receives favor from the LORD.

this woman may be the one for you .... or she may not be.... it is unwise to be lead by just emotion.... and it is equally unwise to be led ONLY by what your eyes see.... a life partner is way too serious a decision to make a mistake on....

i have heard many testimonies of good marriages where the man first knew she was the one.... and she disagreed.... and later the LORD told her that he was the one.... sooo.... PRAISE GOD... GOD worked it all out....

but i have also heard testimonies of bad marriages where before marriage one person pressed the issue.... and the other person caved in.... and then much later after they were married they were extremely unhappy.... and actually unsuited for each other....

the fact that this girl tells you she ISN'T looking for a boyfriend.... and then is talking to another guy.... indicates to me that she loves you as a best friend.... but for private reasons she doesn't want more....

it also indicates that she doesn't feel strong enough to tell you straight out her reasons why she doesn't want more with you....

seeking GOD to find out if she is the one... or if HE has another.... would be first.... meaning draw really near to GOD and keep your spiritual life strong... so that you are not fooled....

while you are waiting for the answer to that question.... ask GOD to re-focus your heart/love on HIM fully.... so that you are connected ONLY to someone that returns your affection.... it is harmful to you to have your heart connected/tied to someone that doesn't return your affection....

silently from your heart set her free.... ask GOD to help you break your heart free from her.... make room only for GOD right now.... and see how she responds.... you don't neccessarily have to break fellowship with her.... but you should break your heart free from her....

you may just be too aggressive/persistant in your desire for her.... and she may just be backing away to get some breathing room.... even if your actions are not aggressive.... your heart might be.... and she could be picking up on that....

think of how you would feel think behave if she wasn't in your life.... and you were seeking GOD for your mate.... imagine how that would feel and act out.... that is the kind of detachment you need right now.... so that you can find GOD'S choice for you....

if you do that.... you may discover that she changes and starts to respond to you with equal affection.... or you may discover that she wanders away to find someone else.... in either case ALL that really matters is that you get GOD'S wonderful choice of a mate.... trust HIM.... HE does have someone....

in any case it might be good for you to speak this WORD of GOD over your life... "a man who finds a wife finds a good thing and receives favor from the LORD. i ask you LORD in the name of JESUS to help me find that wife YOU promised. give me the wisdom and faith i need to see this happen in my life. increase YOUR character and goodness in my life so that i would be an excellent husband. thank you LORD in the name of JESUS for all of this. i receive it by faith. i am trusting YOU as the best FATHER ever WHO will arrange a suitable marriage for me."

praying for you GodIsGood....

CindyisHis · Jun 13, 2012

She's 'talking' to another guy? Maybe you're reading more into this than there is. I don't know.

Let me tell you about a girl I know. She talks to guys probably more than girls in the youth group because the girls either talk about 'girlie' things - makeup, malls, etc. - and she can't stand this subject but rather prefers deeper things. She also finds some of the girls untrustworthy. So though she like one of the boys far more, truly loves him in her heart, he is everything she has prayed for, she still has other male friends she talks to, one of which wants so bad to be her boyfriend. When the one she truly loves sees her talking to him, he gets mad, for no reason.

What am I saying? No one knows what's in the heart of another person. She loves one, but talks to others and maintains friendships with many of them. She is waiting to date til she is older. She will not kiss till she's married.

The one she loves? He does not want to date. He is focusing on the Lord at the risk of losing her, though we 'think' he loves her too.

No one knows what is in the heart of another. Take things one day at a time.

Keep your heart and your eyes set on the Lord. When I was single the mistake I made was getting my eyes on that 'special person'. Keeping the Lord first and relishing in His love can keep us from snares.

I pray the Lord guides you and gives you peace in this. He wants the best for you. He has great things and great plans for you. Be glad in rejoice in that. And be glad and rejoice that He will lead you, for the steps of a good man are ordered by the Lord. May He make you way plain and your path clear.

hislegacy · Jun 13, 2012

GodIsGood24 said:
I'm 19 years old. I have a friend who I believe is absolutely amazing in my eyes. We're best friends, too. However, I have been in love with this girl for 3 years now. It's just that she drives me crazy. At times she acts like she likes me. Other times she acts like we're only friends.
She hurts me so much with these conflicting emotions of hers. We've already discussed our feelings, but she told me that she wasn't looking for a boyfriend. Little did I know, she was already talking to another guy. She lied to me.
The problem is that I love her too much to let her go. I don't really care about the things she has done, as I have forgiven her in my heart already. I always forgive her, and endure the moments when she hurts me because I'm patient and understanding and strongly believe that this love I have for her is too strong to be daunted and destroyed.
I love her so much it hurts. I know I should just walk away from such a woman, but I believe that she's one of the greatest blessings in my life from God. I believe that if I give her up its a direct slap in the face to God. I cherish what we have, and thank God for her many, many times. I want to know why God has put such a woman in my life. I love her, but she hurts. Sometimes she's a blessing, other times she's a curse. Please help me, Christians. I can use your words in this particular storm in my life. God bless.

That's not what you said a year ago

GodIsGood24 said:
I am 18 years old and I just started my faith in Christianity few years ago. I have no one to talk to about this problem so I am asking to see if my fellow Christians may help me.

I have always wanted a girlfriend. I never got one in my life. It's not even that I'm not attractive, as girls say I'm cute all the time. I've been praying to God for a girlfriend for a couple years now, and he has not answered my prayers. I have been patient. And I have grown in the Lord. I thought that maybe God did not want to bless me with a girlfriend because He thought I wasn't ready. I have grown in abundance both spiritually and naturally. I continue to pray, and He still has not answered my prayers. I want to know why God has yet to bless me with a girlfriend? It's been the absolute strongest desire of my heart to have one. Am I meant to not ever be someone in my life at all?

I think there's more here than what you are sharing.

Short answer, I don't believe for one minute God has brought her into your life. I think your own desires have.

CindyisHis · Jun 14, 2012

That could be possible, Simply Put.

However, God is Good, be assured the Lord has someone if you have that desire.

I would say this - Seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things will be added to you.

Do not get sidetracked by women. Learn the lesson from Solomon. Solomon loved the Lord when He was young. He was deeply committed to Him and relied on Him to lead the people as king. Yet when he grew older he built alters to many foreign gods, who are not gods. What turned his heart? Was it his great wealth? Surprisingly it was not. It was women.
1 Kings 11:2 They were of the very nations of whom the Lord said to the Israelites, You shall not mingle with them, neither shall they mingle with you, for surely they will turn away your hearts after their gods. Yet Solomon clung to these in love.

Guard your heart with all diligence. Let nothing turn your heart away from the one who loves you most and is your salvation. He can do for you greater than you can do for yourself. Be patient.

Alive_Again · Jun 18, 2012

The greatest thing you can do for yourself and the Lord is to get rock solid in the Spirit. Spend some time apart and ask Him to strengthen the things that are of Him. Don't go there with any preconceived notions and ask Him to take the reigns of your heart and soul with a strong hand.

Anyone can be deceived and take up things of the enemy or lay down things God has for our lives. Even the angels were deceived, so the power of deception is very real. Finding the place where you're free from witchcraft manipulation in the soulish realm will help you achieve the place in Him where decisions are guided without distraction.

Break every ungodly soul tie with everyone in your life and every word curse spoken over you, by either yourself (usually inadvertently) or others in the name of Jesus. Ask God to restore your soul and free you from spirits that manipulate. Ask Him for the soundness of one who enters into the pavillion of His love. Set your love upon Him and resist the devil. Ask for wisdom and understanding and believe you have it before you hear and see it with your spirit. Make sure you wait on the Lord and allow Him to reform you and He can alert you of manipulative forces that are not of Him. He can also confirm provision for your life. Avail yourself of prophetic ministry and from the peace of the anointing, judge and hold fast to that which is good.

Many a person has wasted years floundering and tossed by winds that distract you from the ministry He has for your life. Judge everything by the fruits and declare that which robs your peace as an enemy!

Stay close to what He's doing and let God be the steadying force of your life. He's faithful to do what He says He will do and we have not because we ask not. We must find that place of solace and remove the influencing ties that pull us and move from the peace and solidity of the winds of the Spirit.

HolySpiritWOF2 · Jun 18, 2012

praying for you to find the woman GOD has for you.... it maybe seems complicated.... or hopeless.... but GOD has someone..... it is a good thing you desire.... prepare to receive GOD'S best in this area.... prepare yourself for GOD to cause you to be HIS best for someone....

tm2cruz · Jun 27, 2012

GodIsGood24 said:
I'm 19 years old. I have a friend who I believe is absolutely amazing in my eyes. We're best friends, too. However, I have been in love with this girl for 3 years now. It's just that she drives me crazy. At times she acts like she likes me. Other times she acts like we're only friends.
She hurts me so much with these conflicting emotions of hers. We've already discussed our feelings, but she told me that she wasn't looking for a boyfriend. Little did I know, she was already talking to another guy. She lied to me.
The problem is that I love her too much to let her go. I don't really care about the things she has done, as I have forgiven her in my heart already. I always forgive her, and endure the moments when she hurts me because I'm patient and understanding and strongly believe that this love I have for her is too strong to be daunted and destroyed.
I love her so much it hurts. I know I should just walk away from such a woman, but I believe that she's one of the greatest blessings in my life from God. I believe that if I give her up its a direct slap in the face to God. I cherish what we have, and thank God for her many, many times. I want to know why God has put such a woman in my life. I love her, but she hurts. Sometimes she's a blessing, other times she's a curse. Please help me, Christians. I can use your words in this particular storm in my life. God bless.

In my opinion, talking to another guy doesn't mean she wants a boyfriend. Even if she lied, it's her choice. you're still young, the Lord wants you to know that only him you can trust your feelings and trust Him to bring the girl to you according to His will. It's good you experienced pain of rejection, that shows you to understand the Lord's heart like how His own children rejected Him even He loves them unconditionally.
The girl is not perfect, also you are not perfect. She makes mistakes, you also do. just pray for her for the Lord's will for her and for you.
I also want to share this journal/blog to you and hope it helps.

The Real Move-On (Mainly Based On Relationships) by *tm2cruz on deviantART

SavedByGrace3 · Jun 28, 2012

I am going to suggest something that you may not want to hear. Why would you think that God put this girl in your life?

Personally, I rather doubt God sets up people like this. I think His word to the vast majority of us is "Find a mate that you love and who loves you. This is your choice. Marry and have joy together for I will bless you in this."

If in fact God sets up couples like this, why would Paul tell us to not marry if we could bare it? That would be bad advise if in fact God was setting people up with each other. Sounds to me like he is leaving this up to you and in this case, the decision is based on self control.

1 Corin 7
8 But I say to the unmarried and to widows that it is good for them if they remain even as I.
9 But if they do not have self-control, let them marry; for it is better to marry than to burn with passion.

GodIsGood24 said:
I'm 19 years old. I have a friend who I believe is absolutely amazing in my eyes. We're best friends, too. However, I have been in love with this girl for 3 years now. It's just that she drives me crazy. At times she acts like she likes me. Other times she acts like we're only friends.
She hurts me so much with these conflicting emotions of hers. We've already discussed our feelings, but she told me that she wasn't looking for a boyfriend. Little did I know, she was already talking to another guy. She lied to me.
The problem is that I love her too much to let her go. I don't really care about the things she has done, as I have forgiven her in my heart already. I always forgive her, and endure the moments when she hurts me because I'm patient and understanding and strongly believe that this love I have for her is too strong to be daunted and destroyed.
I love her so much it hurts. I know I should just walk away from such a woman, but I believe that she's one of the greatest blessings in my life from God. I believe that if I give her up its a direct slap in the face to God. I cherish what we have, and thank God for her many, many times. I want to know why God has put such a woman in my life. I love her, but she hurts. Sometimes she's a blessing, other times she's a curse. Please help me, Christians. I can use your words in this particular storm in my life. God bless.

GodIsGood24 · Jul 25, 2012

About a month and a half has passed since I put this thread up. My entire heart and soul thank you all for posting Godly and inspirational advice here on this thread. Your prayers and spiritual advice has changed my life in short time. I no longer feel resentment, for I have learned to find peace with God. I no longer hold a grudge in my heart, for I have learned to find the power of forgiveness within myself. God has taught me that I am not perfect, so how can I expect her to be perfect too?
I am still learning everyday as I walk with God. One thing God has revealed to me lately is that Satan is the king of deception, and if I do not trust in Him I will surely be lead down the wrong paths in life. I am still waiting for the woman God is preparing for me in my life. When she comes, I am sure that God will let me know. Keep praying for me everyone. I will be a sophomore in college, so you can only imagine the temptations I go through everyday. I thank God for the spiritual family that has been formed through this thread. God bless, and have a blessed day!

P.S. I love these bible verses. They have gotten me through this tough time in my young life.
"Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat, or about your body, what you will wear. For life is more than food, and the body more than clothing. Consider the ravens: the neither sow nor reap, they have neither storehouse nor barn, and yet God feeds them. Of how much more value are you than the birds!" ( Luke 12:22-24)

KimberlyAA · Jul 25, 2012

If she lied to you ... then is she worth your love for her? I think it's important not to "latch on" too much especially if she hurts you often. I don't see how you could be happy if you enjoy her sometimes and other times she's more of a curse than a blessing. If she doesn't make her feelings toward you clear, then you shouldn't wait on her cause you might end up unhappy. Unless you believe she's worth waiting on ... entirely up to you.

Alive_Again · Jul 25, 2012

.. I no longer feel resentment, for I have learned to find peace with God. I no longer hold a grudge in my heart, for I have learned to find the power of forgiveness within myself..

That is so beautiful to forgive.

..I am still waiting for the woman God is preparing for me in my life. When she comes, I am sure that God will let me know. Keep praying for me everyone.

None of your prayers are wasted on her (if you're praying for her), or yourself to be prepared and fit to be the vessel He wants to give to her.

...I will be a sophomore in college, so you can only imagine the temptations I go through everyday. I thank God for the spiritual family that has been formed through this thread. God bless, and have a blessed day!

I'm up at a college a lot myself. Many of God's creatures wandering around and I keep myself in something of a "bubble" of faithfulness to God and to my wife when I see them. I am reserved for them and I am grateful for the provision God has for me.

I want to say that although my wife had the classic "crush" thing working, and I loved her and was very drawn to her, I received what she felt (and more) AFTER I got married to her. God turned up all the knobs and God will do the same for all of those He joins together. Make sure the peace is there and don't be like the world in your show of affection. Be reserved like her father was standing nearby (because He is!). Keep seeing her in your spirit and keep praying for her. Be encouraged that you have a holy duty to "birth" the heavenly desires God places within your heart. Don't lose patience and rejoice that a provision is made for you!

I was just typing an excellent reconciliation prayer I was reading, right before I read your post. I thought that I would post it here and people might be surprised what God brings up sometimes when we ask who we might need to forgive. We are told to keep our hearts with diligence. Here's one for all of us and the Lord who is pleased when we forgive and bless...

“Oh Lord, I come before your throne of Grace with a contrite heart. I ask to be forgiven of my trespasses as I now wholly forgive those who have trespassed against me. Create in me a clean heart and renew a right spirit within me. I beam out mercy and forgiveness to all who have harmed, hurt, and shamed me; those who have offended, persecuted and criticized me; who have taken advantage of me or perpetrated an injustice upon me, and all those who have cheated me monetarily. I ask you, Oh, Lord, to forgive them for doing these things to me. I now release all those people from the judgment and condemnation which I have held them in through the words of my mouth. Lord, Jesus, I ask you to cleanse me from all bitterness, resentment, and unforgiveness which I have held in my heart for these people who have wronged me in all those ways. I ask you, Holy Spirit, to bring all these people to my remembrance. I will speak their names in faith believing they are forgiven. I now release them into the reconciling power of the Cross of Calvary which brings total deliverance and healing to our bodies, souls, and spirits.”

Beto2010 · May 9, 2016

Im going to be completely honest with you man. Because I was in your situation. Don't get mad and see if what I say is true. I use to like a friend of mine(maybe even love) and it sucked when she didn't like me back. Because I couldn't see myself being friends with her knowing I had feelings for her. BUT, then I realized that it wasn't my feelings for her but MY insecurities. I never felt love and she was the first girl to give me attention. You said that she said "I'm not looking for a boyfriend" That was a nice way of telling you she was interested. I asked myself the same thing "God, why did she come into my life?" But I realized that this kind of thinking is not healthy for a man. You also said that you've liked her for 3 years. I think that's too long to be waiting. Heal your pain, your insecurities and once you truly love yourself you won't be chasing girls but leading your life and women will like that. Look up unconditional love healing with Simon Wing-Lung. I've done talk therapy but that never helped. Once you heal your heart, you'll get over her, be grateful that you met her but realize she's not the only one. The girl I liked was cute, great personality but I realized that I liked her so much because that's where I found happiness that I've never felt. Hope this gave you a new perspective. Heal yourself while you are still

hislegacy · May 9, 2016

The poster God is good has not been online since 2012. FYI

Razare · May 11, 2016

GodIsGood24 said:
The problem is that I love her too much to let her go.

That's not love. These are feelings that get going in your heart, but it's not love (agape).

For a mate in life you want to go by agape, not eros. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Greek_words_for_love

What you got is passion in the heart. That's eros. It makes you stupid in the head too.

Me? When that happens to me now at the age of 32, I nip it right off the bud. I kill that with greater passion than eros.

But really, if you're kind to a woman because she's cute, that is licentiousness and it's evil basically.

That said, you're young, so it's not like you know all this yet. But if you have wisdom, you'll use your head to kill your heart passion, and go in a different direction. The alternative is learning by hard knocks.

Either way it ends. She lied, it's over, that was it. When you arrive in situations like that, they're called red flags. When a person displays a red flag, that means their rate of failure at a relationship with you is greater than 99%. It's certain failure, and you might only try to stick with it, if you both have a kid together or something.

I don't really care about the things she has done, as I have forgiven her in my heart already.

Forgiveness should never equal trust. They are not the same. You should forgive all, but trust is earned. If you want to trust liars, then you get to learn that lesson. Go right ahead. You'll learn.

Give me the most attractive woman ever, with the best personality ever and she lies to me once, pffft. It's over. One chance. If you want to date playa's go right ahead. They'll burn you.

this love I have for her is too strong to be daunted and destroyed.

Eros (mating passion) is destroyed according to the Bible.

At the resurrection people will neither marry nor be given in marriage; they will be like the angels in heaven. - Matthew 22:30

I know I should just walk away from such a woman, but I believe that she's one of the greatest blessings in my life from God.

God doesn't promote lusts and senselessness which opposes wisdom.

Proverbs 7 -
21 So she seduced him with her pretty speech
and enticed him with her flattery.
22 He followed her at once,
like an ox going to the slaughter.
He was like a stag caught in a trap,
23 awaiting the arrow that would pierce its heart.
He was like a bird flying into a snare,
little knowing it would cost him his life.
24 So listen to me, my sons,
and pay attention to my words.
25 Don’t let your hearts stray away toward her.
Don’t wander down her wayward path.
26 For she has been the ruin of many;
many men have been her victims.
27 Her house is the road to the grave.
Her bedroom is the den of death.

I believe that if I give her up its a direct slap in the face to God.

Aha! I see. You think God brought her to you. No, see God doesn't expect us to marry people who lie (and probably manipulate too if they are lying.)

No, see, God says we don't owe anything to anyone, not even God, except love. We owe love to God and we owe love to our neighbor. But this is not passion of the heart but it is 1 Corinthians 13... love is patient, love is kind, love does not envy, it does not boast, it does not seek its own.

And so maybe you have exemplified those qualities to her, but another component of love is to never allow people to take advantage of you because that's promoting sin in their life. If I buy drugs for a friend, I'm not loving my friend.

Likewise, if you don't distance yourself from a liar, or you put up with it, you're enabling, and not acting in love.

Love rejoices in the truth, and the truth is that respect is earned, and we should not be tugged and swayed to and fro by feeling. God wouldn't want us living like that.

Beto2010 · May 11, 2016

God has nothing to do with it. It's just a girl that came into your life to teach you about yourself. Honestly, she might see you as friend because of the energy and vibe you give off. A real man who loves himself will give what he has to another girl that will give it to him in return. You can't waist your years on her. BUT, if you stay in contact with her, you never know, maybe something can happen. I'm not saying completely give up and ignore her. In just saying have pride to move forward.

Why Did God put This Girl In My Life?

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