Dealing with Rage

luckiecharms · Jan 26, 2003

How do you guys deal with anger? When I get really angry I tend to take it out on the people I love and I regret it. It feels like my anger is turning to hatred. I recently sent a hate note to my mom because i was really angry and I hurt her feelings really bad I dont know how to apologize to her. Im surprised she still cares about me after all the things Ive done. Sometimes i get so angry i tear everyone apart I feel like im going to explode then the anger could pass as quick as it came. how can i deal with this I dont want to hurt anyone else.

OracleX · Jan 26, 2003

Hey Luckie!

Have hope. Anger and rage can be defeated.

I stuggled with both really hard about 8 years ago, but God did grant me victory.

I would love to help you in any way I can. If you like I can tell you how God got me through. He used some unsual things to pull me through.

I will be praying for you. Rage is such a horrible thing to stuggle with. It brings on some much self hate and can make you so very misrible.

panterapat · Jan 26, 2003

Just tell them what you told us- but add an apology and a hug.

Stormy · Jan 26, 2003

The note idea that you had was good. Sometimes it helps me to see more clearly and get rid of my anger by venting it on paper.

But the trick is not to deliver it.

Mothers are resilient. Give her some hugs. :hug:

luckiecharms · Jan 26, 2003

thanks for the advice.

Mr.Cheese · Jan 27, 2003

I agree with talking to your parents about it.

GodOwnsMe · Jan 27, 2003

mhhhhh ... I'm not doing this good at the moment I just smashed a knife :/ ... eh it wasn't like I wanted to hurt anyone... I was like just touching my sister's nose w/ it ya know I sometimes tip on it with a finger when she's a kidding around or something....didn't mean to even touch her but I acccidently did.... I was already angry and stuff cause blah I don't wanna get into this but when she reacted like eh you..... blah k I'm getting kinda bitter again but ya know I DIDN'T MEAN TO DO ANYTHING BUT SHE'S MAD OR PRETENDING TO BE I SO CAN'T DEAL W/ THAT KINDA STUFF AT THE MOMENT so I threw the knife on the ground, pretty heavy I guess.....

pray to God to keep you calm, remember you love these people & if it gets too bad...maybe go out... try to relax or cry it out to God.... :hug:

& ask for forgiveness and trust Him to completely forgive you

He loves you, rely on Him

God Bless you sista :hug:

ZiSunka · Jan 28, 2003

Originally posted by luckiecharms
How do you guys deal with anger? When I get really angry I tend to take it out on the people I love and I regret it. It feels like my anger is turning to hatred. I recently sent a hate note to my mom because i was really angry and I hurt her feelings really bad I dont know how to apologize to her. Im surprised she still cares about me after all the things Ive done. Sometimes i get so angry i tear everyone apart I feel like im going to explode then the anger could pass as quick as it came. how can i deal with this I dont want to hurt anyone else.

Rage can be a symptom of a serious chemical imbalance in the brain. If your rage is unexplainable or out of control, you need to see your doctor right away and let him give you a good work up. Rage is seldom tied to actual righteous anger, or even immaturity. The logner you wait to get help, the harder it is to treat.

OracleX · Jan 28, 2003

James 1:19-20
This you know, my beloved brethern.  But everyone must be quick to hear, slow to speak and slow to anger; for the anger of man does not achieve the righteousness of God."

There is a time for anger, that is true, but the Word has something to say on that.

Ephesians 4:26
"Be angry, and yet do not sin; do not let the sun go down on your anger."

Very few times in our lives when we get anger can most express it without sinning or hurting others.  If you can not express it without sinning then you need to take steps to heal the anger and the hurt inside.

Christ has called us to love one another.  Love will see you through your times of hurt and anger.  Christ on the cross was being killed for His love, and yet He did not express anger to those who put Him on the tree.

1 Corinthians 13:5
"[Love] does not act unbecomingly; it does not seek its own, is not provoked, does not take into account of wrong suffered."

 

As for the other comments you made, I will pray that the Holy Spirit will help deal with your hurt and your anger.  Hell is real, and real people go to hell.  But not all will be sent there.  Christ died to save us, to heal us and to free us from our human desires.  May you seek out Christ, He is seeking out you.

With all respect and love,

OracleX

luckiecharms · Jan 28, 2003

Im always angry because of certain things wrong in my life. I dont know how to deal with it because i dont want anyone to know and everything i do my parents have to notice. They thought something was wrong because I always ran so i stopped running.

Blessed-one · Jan 28, 2003

prayers definitely help. I could feel the emotions draining out of me when i concentrated on praying; or, if you were finding it really hard to control, you should seek help from a mentor at church and look for christian counseling. Pray for selfcontrol and patience... these two fruits of the Holy Spirit would do very well to control your anger.

Praying for you.

daughter of the king · Jan 28, 2003

i used to be all calm be now i will go into a rage or cry. but then i will take it out on to myself weather its my fault or not.

Katya · Jan 29, 2003

Katya · Jan 29, 2003

The only way that I could deal with my inconsumable rage, was to take a baseball bat to a punching bag. It was the only safe way for my family and myself to deal with it. Now I just write it all down. People deal differenty with their rage and anger. You just have to find the best way for you.

GateKeeper · Jan 29, 2003

I always listen to music. Music helps more than anything for me

Caedmon · Jan 29, 2003

This is some really hard stuff. I get really angry at things that I can't control. I feel cheated a lot. I feel "imperfect" a whole bunch. I get irritated at people that make jokes toward me and people that drive aggressively on the road. Most of the time it builds up until I'm totally raging inside, and then I eventually break down and cry it out until it goes away.

I find that music does NOT help. When I get angry, I put the radio on the nearest station with heavy rap or heavy rock. And with lyrics like, "Get the 'f' out da way", "I don't give a 'f' ", and "She 'f'n hates me", (even though it's "edited"), I tend to get more aggressive on the road, myself. It's way too easy to tune that music.

I wish I wouldn't get so angry, because that's not who I am. The anger is caused by feeling helpless about my pain. It's horrible. I can't stand it. I'm trying to get better, and I've been doing a good job, but just recently I lapsed back into a cycle of it.

DaveKerwin · Jan 30, 2003

try physical excersize. you would be surprized what a 15 minute walk would do for you.

OracleX · Jan 31, 2003

Dave is right. Many times when people get angry or into a rage they are pumped full of adrenalin. This needs to be dealt with. I use to punch things like pillows or something like that. Although in my early stages of dealing with rage I would punch my leg. It actually was effective, not saying it was a good thing to do though. But the adrenalin would be used to deal with the pain in the leg. I am not recommending that you hit yourself, but if it the choice of hitting someone else and yourself ...

Unfortunately while experience rage you don't really thing or care about those things. To effectively deal with rage you must plan ahead.

DaveKerwin · Jan 31, 2003

if you made a habit of walking for a few minutes a day, it would give you time alone to think, and also time to pray. And it would be physcical excersize which is good for the body, but also a way to get rid of some of your rage. If you need to, run until you are tired and all that energy will be gone. I say it's worth a try.

Caedmon · Jan 31, 2003

It's hard to keep doing exercise like that. First, when you do it, you're usually not mad, so you really don't get the point, so you don't do it. But then, when you are angry, you can't get access to it. Or if you actually do manage to start exercising, after a while you don't get angry as much, and you think you're ok, so you stop. It's crazy stuff.

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