Hi everyone 
Im new here and decided to join because I need some advice for my current situation. I'm 19 and pregnant with my first child. I'm not in school, although I wish I was, and I'm working full time. Right now I'm 26 weeks pregnant, about 5 1/2 months along. I just had my first ultrasound yesturday and found out I'm having a boy. I couldn't tell you how secretly happy I was because I've always wanted my first child to be a boy.
But unfortunately this pregnancy was not planned and for the last 5 months I was seriously considering an abortion. I definitely would have gotten it but I couldn't afford it. Knowing that its against God, I just didn't know what else to do. I hated the fact i was pregnant, hated looking at myself, and i secretly tried to harm the baby hoping that it would die. I was ashamed of it and ashamed that I wasn't more serious about using protection. I admit that I've been avoiding this situation and not caring about the health of the baby at all
I've been very selfish.
I'm not financially prepared for this and neither is my boyfriend but ive decided to accept the fact that I am very pregnant. Surprisingly, even after everything ive done over the past 5 months, I found out that my baby is healthy. Seeing him yesturday and hearing his sturdy heart beat I couldn't deny him anymore. I was so emotional i cried. Now I want to do everything I can to make sure he comes into this world.
The only dilemma is I have to finally break the news to my mother. I live with her and we also work together. I also live with my 16 year old sister. Neither one knows about my little secret. I've been terrified to tell anyone. Only my boyfriend knows and my doctor. I've been trying to think of a way to tell my mom since I left the ultrasound and I'm completely lost. My mom and i never were too good with communication, and she wasnt good with her mother with it. Weve never talked about sex or relationships or anything on that personal level. It makes telling her so much more difficult. My boyfriend is afraid to tell his family also but we both want the baby (he's wanted it from the beginning).
But unfortunately this pregnancy was not planned and for the last 5 months I was seriously considering an abortion. I definitely would have gotten it but I couldn't afford it. Knowing that its against God, I just didn't know what else to do. I hated the fact i was pregnant, hated looking at myself, and i secretly tried to harm the baby hoping that it would die. I was ashamed of it and ashamed that I wasn't more serious about using protection. I admit that I've been avoiding this situation and not caring about the health of the baby at all
I've been very selfish. I'm not financially prepared for this and neither is my boyfriend but ive decided to accept the fact that I am very pregnant. Surprisingly, even after everything ive done over the past 5 months, I found out that my baby is healthy. Seeing him yesturday and hearing his sturdy heart beat I couldn't deny him anymore. I was so emotional i cried. Now I want to do everything I can to make sure he comes into this world.
The only dilemma is I have to finally break the news to my mother. I live with her and we also work together. I also live with my 16 year old sister. Neither one knows about my little secret. I've been terrified to tell anyone. Only my boyfriend knows and my doctor. I've been trying to think of a way to tell my mom since I left the ultrasound and I'm completely lost. My mom and i never were too good with communication, and she wasnt good with her mother with it. Weve never talked about sex or relationships or anything on that personal level. It makes telling her so much more difficult. My boyfriend is afraid to tell his family also but we both want the baby (he's wanted it from the beginning).
Does anyone have any advice or suggestions on how I can finally let my mother know she's going to be a grandma in about 4 months? I want her to know so badly. I know once she knows I can finally relax and not walk around the house on egg shells. I've been hiding my belly and staying in my room for so long and Im tired of feeling ashamed of my baby. I feel trapped and scared. My mental and emotional health is extremely unstable. I just want my mother to be happy and supportive, which I'm sure she will be eventually but I really need help getting over this milestone. Its causing me stress and I know stress can harm a baby.
Can somebody please help me! I don't know what else to do. I've tried praying but I feel like my prayers aren't being answered. Im ready to get past the embarrasment and take responsibilties for my actions but i can't find the words to say. Once my mom knows, then I can get past telling everyone else (my boss, other family). I just need to tell her first, and soon!
Can somebody please help me!
I don't know what else to do. I've tried praying but I feel like my prayers aren't being answered. Im ready to get past the embarrasment and take responsibilties for my actions but i can't find the words to say. Once my mom knows, then I can get past telling everyone else (my boss, other family). I just need to tell her first, and soon!
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and blessings 
on your baby boy!
CONGRATS on your baby boy!! 
PLEASe keep on posted and let us know how you are doing and your baby Gavin is doing as well. You are a HUGE blessing so is your bundle of joy! ((((((((((((BIG HUGS))))))))))))))))
