Our church is small and the leadership is weak (including the pastor who has never pastored a church before and was just put as pastor in January.) I and the others of us have all had visions of what God wants but all lack the experience and mess up it seems like non stop. I am youngest of all the leaders. Over me are my in-laws they are the youth pastors and my hubby and I are in training to take that ministry over. I don't know what to do. My mother in law is very bi polar and always has one problem or another with the rest of the leadership and is always causing problems and I always end up in the middle of them. This time it is just another stupid church drama. Our church is painting pieces to go on a float for an upcoming parade. They have been having to use our youth room to do it. I have had no problem cleaning up for 15 minutes before Youth group on Sunday and Tuesday but she has taken great offense to this whole thing "Youth means nothing to our church" "our leaders are lazy and ignorant" Now before I continue please know this is a woman who's heart is always in a different place from her actions/words. At least they have been for the past 2 or 3 years. She has changed so much and has little to no impulse control. I my self have only been attending this church since September and have very little relationship built with the pastor yet. I somehow have gotten dragged into the whole mess and people from the float ministry used me as a mediator to see if they could paint in our room today. When I tried to communicate this to her she freaked out and called my father in law and told them that they are not willing to work with us and that the float is more important to them than the youth and on and on.... the thing is I told her they were willing to delay the painting if need be. She just wants to fight about everything. This is really stressful for me when she gets like this so I called the pastor and said hey. This is what's happening and I'm so confused as to how to handle it. She's stressing me out and is now saying she is leaving the church over this issue and it's not a big deal. He replies by pretty much shutting me down and was kind of stern. I don't know how to read him at this point but he seemed angry with me, I don't understand how I'm the one everyone involves in everything and then why the pastor won't just offer me the advise or wisdom or prayer or ANYTHING I went to him seeking! I'm just so confused on how to handle this situation! I ended up asking my pastor if my husband and I could just go ahead and still have youth tonight if my MIL decides to cancel. He abruptly said no! This leaves me so unsure of what to expect. He wants to meet on Thursday but in the mean time I have a ranting and raving MIL and no one to talk to that has more experience than I do. I am not sure where any ones heart is any more at this church??? I just want to serve! Why all the drama over nothing! It's really no big deal!