In your 40s, with young children!

RedTulipMom · Mar 2, 2012

I don't look my age either. Everyone always guesses i am in my early or mid 30's and are quite shocked when they find out about my 23 yr old son. They mostly see me with my 3 younger ones running around. Most people wouldn't expect a 42 yr old to have a baby, but actually i have quite a few friends that have had babies in late 30's to early 40's. It seems to be more common now that people are waiting till 25-30 to get married.

pinkfuzzies · Apr 4, 2012

I am 42 and have a 3 year old daughter. She has totally changed my perspective of life!

sjam · Apr 18, 2012

every body is diffrent when it comes to kids . . . i seen how other parents r with there kids . . then my kids look at me say why cant u just do ur own thing . . i just say i want to b involved with u . . some parents dont . . . i do jump into what ever they r doing . . ..i have always been very hyper . . . into every thing . . so i usely tire out my kids . . i love bing a father and a grandfather . .wooden change or give it up 4 any thing . . . . god bless . .

gav1nzdad · Jun 18, 2012

Hey. I am 42 with a 5 year old girl and a 8 year old boy. It is certainly trying! I think they do tend to keep me young. Although I admit, I'm no where as young as I used to be.

sjam · Jul 25, 2012

goodmorning . hope all is well with u and kids . . . my name is matt . . . hoping we can talk and share notes . .

LoriPinkAngel · Jul 29, 2012

Hello -- I'm 49 with a 12 yr old son, yet my younger sister of 42 has 5 grandchildren already. Her youngest child just turned 21. I also don't look my age, plus my son has passed me by in height and weight. I may be less anxious than younger 1st time moms. This could be due to already having a house, car, savings, job with insurance -- some things younger families are still working toward.

BigMomma · Jul 29, 2012

I've got 8 kids, 18 years to 4 and I'll be 42 this year. The teens keep me up late at night and the young ones are up early! Where does one find time to sleep lol! However I do love my kids and I do think they keep me young. I parent differently than I did in my 20's. I don't sweat the small stuff

justD · Jul 30, 2012

BrazilianGenX said:
especially my youngest, who is a 9 year old going on 15

lol

justD · Jul 30, 2012

I'm 40 with a 4yo, 6yo, 9yo, 11yo, 12yo and 3 teens.

We're currently collecting "stuff" to build a made-of-rubbish, self-propelled car. Basically my shaver broke and the kid in me decided it'll be more fun to build something together rather than throwing it away. Did the kids change me? Not sure, they may just have given me a reason to let the kid in my come out more often.

BigMomma · Jul 31, 2012

Oh that sounds fun, justD! Secretly I think all men have boys inside them

And women have little girls in them too

I think kids keep us young. But when the first grandchild comes along I'm going to need therapy ;-)

morethanenough06 · Nov 12, 2012

I am 43 and my youngest is 3. But my oldest is 19! and we have 4 more in between. I also look young for my age so people don't seem to know the difference... honestly I get more of a reaction when people see me with either of my oldest 2 who are 17 and 19 and 6 feet tall! Most people can't believe they're mine! Energy wise I can't say I notice much of a difference. I am healthier now, I eat better, exercise more, have less stress, and definitely don't sweat the small stuff like I did in my 20's! But physically I notice the difference. My back can't handle as much! But when you have 3 big teenage boys that doesn't matter so much either, there's not much lifting I need to do with them around.

BigMomma... my kids are just the opposite... my 3 year old keeps me up till 11 or 12, and I'm up at 6:30 to send my older kids to school!! Either way, I agree... it's hard to get enough sleep!

TheOtherHockeyMom · Nov 18, 2012

Just joining this thread, 45 with a son recently turned 4 and an 8 year old as well! Hi all!

HisGrace32 · Dec 8, 2012

BlueWildflower · Feb 1, 2013

I'm 45 and would still like to have a child, if I'm able.

QueenMommy · Mar 4, 2015

Wow, so I am back after a brief hiatus - so funny I have rediscovered this thread

So I am 46 now, my kids are now 10 and 7, and I have let go of the dream of adoption.

Here is the kicker, though: I work part-time in Treatment Foster Care. I was working directly with the kids, but now I am working with the foster parents. I think the knowledge I have gained in learning about issues that come up for foster parents and foster children (attachment issues, bonding, etc.) has really been eye-opening.

Also, I remember talking to someone about my desire to adopt a daughter from Haiti, and she was quite blunt in saying that international adoption is narrowing due to concerns about human trafficking - and that many international kids "up for adoption" already have mothers and family....(she asked me, "would you really want to take one of those kids away from their families? Because that's what you'd be doing." Well, of course not.)

I appreciate the responses and discussion this thread generated...sorry I didn't respond for *gulp* several years! (Grad school.)

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