ViaCrucis
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I'm a Christian and I don't consider myself a prude. I'm comfortable with my sexuality and neither feel guilt for being a sexual person.
That said, I'm not particularly sure how it's helpful to judge other people's sexual lives by referring to some as prudes. It would seem to me that how one wishes to express their sexuality as per their own conscience is primarily up to them.
Do I think your example of two grown adults feeling weird about holding hands surprise and confuse me? Yes. I've never been part of a religious environment where hand holding is considered scandalous.
However I think culturally we have a double-edged sword. On the one hand sex is considered so utterly "naughty" that many do feel guilty for simply being sexual animals; on the other hand because sex is so utterly "naughty" it's often denigrated to self-gratification.
That's a toxic environment either way.
I don't think many people even consider that those who may choose to dedicate themselves to celibacy are, in fact, expressing their sexuality the way they think is best. Celibacy is a way of expressing one's sexuality. It's not rejecting one's sexuality to be celibate (or, on the lighter side, be abstinent); that is how someone may choose to express their sexuality and no one should be judged as a prude for doing so.
People throw words like "sl*t" and "prude" far too easily.
I believe Christianity has a sexual ethic that is healthy by reminding us that it's not all about ourselves. Sexuality doesn't just happen in me, it happens in every one, and my sexuality and my sexual expression and my sexual needs are not of a greater priority to everyone else. This falls into the larger Christian ethic of love where my ego is tamed and I place myself at the service of others because as a Christian I am to be a servant to my fellow man.
Thus a Christian's sexual ethic should fall into the same area as all other areas of ethics in Christian life, and that is in Christ's Great Commandment: "Love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, with all your mind and with all your strength and love your neighbor as yourself."
-CryptoLutheran
That said, I'm not particularly sure how it's helpful to judge other people's sexual lives by referring to some as prudes. It would seem to me that how one wishes to express their sexuality as per their own conscience is primarily up to them.
Do I think your example of two grown adults feeling weird about holding hands surprise and confuse me? Yes. I've never been part of a religious environment where hand holding is considered scandalous.
However I think culturally we have a double-edged sword. On the one hand sex is considered so utterly "naughty" that many do feel guilty for simply being sexual animals; on the other hand because sex is so utterly "naughty" it's often denigrated to self-gratification.
That's a toxic environment either way.
I don't think many people even consider that those who may choose to dedicate themselves to celibacy are, in fact, expressing their sexuality the way they think is best. Celibacy is a way of expressing one's sexuality. It's not rejecting one's sexuality to be celibate (or, on the lighter side, be abstinent); that is how someone may choose to express their sexuality and no one should be judged as a prude for doing so.
People throw words like "sl*t" and "prude" far too easily.
I believe Christianity has a sexual ethic that is healthy by reminding us that it's not all about ourselves. Sexuality doesn't just happen in me, it happens in every one, and my sexuality and my sexual expression and my sexual needs are not of a greater priority to everyone else. This falls into the larger Christian ethic of love where my ego is tamed and I place myself at the service of others because as a Christian I am to be a servant to my fellow man.
Thus a Christian's sexual ethic should fall into the same area as all other areas of ethics in Christian life, and that is in Christ's Great Commandment: "Love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, with all your mind and with all your strength and love your neighbor as yourself."
-CryptoLutheran
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