Can you meet girls at church?

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I'm not really talking about picking up women. I just want to meet women. Its not really a sexual pursuit for me like meeting someone in a bar, more of an emotional one. I don't really want to have sex till marriage. I don't really care. I just look like an idiot now. I wish I never posted this.
I didn't think you were looking for sexual experiences. but i do think you're attempting to use the church in a way it wasn't intended to be used to fill a void in your life. And thats what bothers me.

I do apologize for hurting your feelings. you don't look like an idiot. but i do think you need to reprioritize your stance with the church. If you are saved, you're here to serve the church, not use the church to serve you.
 
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lol semantics, but I understand what you're saying; you're just being difficult for the sake of being difficult now :p

Clearly, being single in this instance is being only one half of the common relationship of man and woman; therefore, being 'single' no matter how many friends, acquaintances, or otherwise, is still a factor of personal derivatives towards the previously stated end result.

Me difficult? I don't think you know me...
 
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You can meet women just about anywhere, but if you go to church with the sole purpose just to meet women, people will figure it out soon enough.

Well, that's not the only purpose I'd go. I never said that. I'd go for communing in general.It probably is some antiquated thing. I shouldn't have bothered asking.
 
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I didn't think you were looking for sexual experiences. but i do think you're attempting to use the church in a way it wasn't intended to be used to fill a void in your life. And thats what bothers me.

I do apologize for hurting your feelings. you don't look like an idiot. but i do think you need to reprioritize your stance with the church. If you are saved, you're here to serve the church, not use the church to serve you.

oh ok. I'm not saying I expect the church to be some type of dating service for me. Its complicated. I don't really care to explain.
 
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Well, that's not the only purpose I'd go. I never said that. I'd go for communing in general.It probably is some antiquated thing. I shouldn't have bothered asking.


good. the way you worded it in your OP sounded very much like you were only considering church because of the possibility of meeting women. If we were wrong and you want to go for other reasons, then don't let us stop you from that.
 
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good. the way you worded it in your OP sounded very much like you were only considering church because of the possibility of meeting women. If we were wrong and you want to go for other reasons, then don't let us stop you from that.

oh ok. Yah, I was just curious about if it presents those types of social opportunities in a more wholesome way. I was hoping people would give me some examples of how they met their wives or fiances there or whatever. Its a sensitive subject for me. I shouldn't have asked on the internet because of the emotionless and sterile aspect of it, but I'm uncomfortable asking people in person things relating to relationships and such.
 
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you won't hear alot of those stories here, most likely, since most of us are single ourselves. I would ask in the courting forums if any of them have met their significant others in church. I know it does happen though. people serve together, pray together, worship together, and bonds form. both romantic and friendship.
 
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you won't hear alot of those stories here, most likely, since most of us are single ourselves. I would ask in the courting forums if any of them have met their significant others in church. I know it does happen though. people serve together, pray together, worship together, and bonds form. both romantic and friendship.

oh ok, thank you
 
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Don't go finding girls at church. They....have issues (i.e., single for a reason).

Go find girls in the outside world, like friends of girlfriends. Usually they've been in relationships before, they have the skills, and even though it's still a matter of taste, it's easier to find someone you'd work with.
 
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I'm not really talking about picking up women. I just want to meet women. Its not really a sexual pursuit for me like meeting someone in a bar, more of an emotional one. I don't really want to have sex till marriage. I don't really care. I just look like an idiot now. I wish I never posted this.

Cheer up m8. You've accomplished quite a bit here by weeding out the nasty ones that you wouldn't want in the first place, that is, unless you're into that sort of thing (not judging).
 
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Don't go finding girls at church. They....have issues (i.e., single for a reason).

Go find girls in the outside world, like friends of girlfriends. Usually they've been in relationships before, they have the skills, and even though it's still a matter of taste, it's easier to find someone you'd work with.

Hmm, you have a point. I'll keep that in mind. My dad met my mom in a church, but that;s probably really rare. I've avoided church's in the past just because of the kind of gossip that goes on and the arrogant attitudes. Its prob not in all church's, but its pretty common.
 
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Cheer up m8. You've accomplished quite a bit here by weeding out the nasty ones that you wouldn't want in the first place, that is, unless you're into that sort of thing (not judging).

lol, nah I'm not. There's some girls I'm soooo glad I didn't date. I know for a fact I'm way happier single than if I was with them. People in general have issues. Its not just women in church. I have these episodes like this where i turn into a sentimentalist though. It could be said I have issues too XD. I try to remain somewhat reflective about them, at least I'd like to think so anyway.
 
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Don't go finding girls at church. They....have issues (i.e., single for a reason).

Go find girls in the outside world, like friends of girlfriends. Usually they've been in relationships before, they have the skills, and even though it's still a matter of taste, it's easier to find someone you'd work with.

I am insulted by such foolish, idiotic nonsense. As if single women who go to church have never been in relationships before. (And even for the ones who haven't, how would that alone effect whether they would be a good match for someone or not?) As if they all have issues and lack any skills that would make them good girlfriends. And of course, you have the right to make such blanket judgments of women. YOU...a young man who is practically still a child, who is hurt and bitter, who judges and loves women based on their physical appearances, who has little to no experience dealing with women, and who doesn't even possess the guts to ask one of them out.

Such trash makes me sick.
 
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