Can you meet girls at church?

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I've never had a gf, and I'd really like to have someone to spend time with and hold hands with. I've held this assumption that just being friends is the best tactic, but all I end up getting is a bunch of "galpals", as someone has derided me for in the past. I've been told I don't get past the friend zone. I try not to worry too much about perception from other's though, but it can hurt. Maybe I'm meant to be single the rest of my life, but I'd rather not. Anyway, I don't go to a church, but is it a good place to meet women, or is that some antiquated thing that doesn't really apply in the modern world anymore?
 

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I've never had a gf, and I'd really like to have someone to spend time with and hold hands with. I've held this assumption that just being friends is the best tactic, but all I end up getting is a bunch of "galpals", as someone has derided me for in the past. I've been told I don't get past the friend zone. I try not to worry too much about perception from other's though, but it can hurt. Maybe I'm meant to be single the rest of my life, but I'd rather not. Anyway, I don't go to a church, but is it a good place to meet women, or is that some antiquated thing that doesn't really apply in the modern world anymore?
You can, but I think it's a pretty poor reason for going there.
 
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I've never had a gf, and I'd really like to have someone to spend time with and hold hands with. I've held this assumption that just being friends is the best tactic, but all I end up getting is a bunch of "galpals", as someone has derided me for in the past. I've been told I don't get past the friend zone. I try not to worry too much about perception from other's though, but it can hurt. Maybe I'm meant to be single the rest of my life, but I'd rather not. Anyway, I don't go to a church, but is it a good place to meet women, or is that some antiquated thing that doesn't really apply in the modern world anymore?

Church is a great place to meet women...if you're a man who's there for the right reasons and one whose faith is genuine. We ladies can sense when men attend or join solely for the purpose of meeting women.
 
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Yes, go meet them at your church :preach: and then, while everybody else is focusing on praising God, wink at them, give them cheesy pick-up lines, and often make yourself an Alpha Male :p jk. Idk, maybe, maybe not... wouldn't know, I've never been to one for more than one day in the past two decades.

But, I suppose if you're looking for somebody whom is Christ orientated that'd be a good place to start; just don't seek too hard or you'll come across as desperate and that'll always stop you before you even start.

Do what you've gotta to stay out of the friend-zone, make your intentions clear and concise from the near get-go (that you're interested in getting to know them as something more than friends, but not in words [actions buddy, it's all about actions and having the confidence to go after what you want]). If you want some hints or suggestions on how to get a lady's attention, let me know... I don't want to toot my own horn or anything, just have gone through enough ladies that I've got a wealth of experience on how to get 'em, and lose 'em if necessary.
 
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sorry. we do really suck at helping men manipulate and pick up church girls. we'll try to work on that.

THATS NOT WHAT IM TALKING ABOUT. ITS NOT!! I hate to type in all caps, but you have no idea how much that hurts and infuriates me.You really don't. My dad once told me that my grandmother told him to meet a girl in church. That's where he met my mother, who he's been married to for years. That hurts me in a very extremely deep way.
 
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THATS NOT WHAT IM TALKING ABOUT. ITS NOT!! I hate to type in all caps, but you have no idea how much that hurts and infuriates me.You really don't.


sorry, but what else do you really expect? You say you only want to go to church to meet girls. We tell you thats a bad idea, you post that you are displeased with our responses. What else can I assume except you're looking for someone to tell you its ok to use church to pick up women?

if you want to meet a girl you can do that anywhere. literally. there's very few places you can go where you won't find women. And some of those places are designed specifically for you to pick them up and start relationships. Church is not one of them.

Can you meet someone there to start a relationship with? yes. but that is not the purpose. the purpose is to find true fellowship with other believers, engage in worship with other believers, submit yourself to the teaching and edification of that church to challenge you and grow you as a child of God, and to give you real opportunities to minister to your brothers and sisters in Christ as well as the dying world around you. If you meet your wife in the midst of that, awesome. But don't use the church for specific reason.
 
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sorry, but what else do you really expect? You say you only want to go to church to meet girls. We tell you thats a bad idea, you post that you are displeased with our responses. What else can I assume except you're looking for someone to tell you its ok to use church to pick up women?

I'm not really talking about picking up women. I just want to meet women. Its not really a sexual pursuit for me like meeting someone in a bar, more of an emotional one. I don't really want to have sex till marriage. I don't really care. I just look like an idiot now. I wish I never posted this.
 
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I'm not really talking about picking up women. I just want to meet women. Its not really a sexual pursuit for me like meeting someone in a bar, more of an emotional one. I don't really want to have sex till marriage. I don't really care. I just look like an idiot now. I wish I never posted this.
You don't look like an idiot, I understood your OP.
People just misinterpreted you.
 
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I just look like an idiot now. I wish I never posted this.

You can meet women just about anywhere, but if you go to church with the sole purpose just to meet women, people will figure it out soon enough.
 
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How can single(s) be single?

lol semantics, but I understand what you're saying; you're just being difficult for the sake of being difficult now :p

Clearly, being single in this instance is being only one half of the common relationship of man and woman; therefore, being 'single' no matter how many friends, acquaintances, or otherwise, is still a factor of personal derivatives towards the previously stated end result.
 
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