...in that case they are not really your parents, so in truth there is nothing to "honor".
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we can honour only what is honourable. Where parents are abusive they have dishonoured their own parenthood. In such circumstances it is important to keep bitterness away, and in many cases continue with some contact, but no so as to expose yourself to further abuse. While they won't accept their wrong behaviour you can never feel really good about them, and this is OK.
John
NZ
.... An erosion of the spirit occurs with abuse, sometimes slow and sometimes shockingly fast. Getting away from that is the best thing you can do to save yourself.
You honor because they gave you birth, but they have deserved nothing to earn respect.
...my mom sent a small bible highlighting all the passages that said I had to honor my parents. At the time of course I hated them.
However, we can honor others that are sinful, by accepting them as beings, created in the image of God, but not accepting their sinful behavior...
I know, it's tough when they have OCD towards attacking you when and where they feel safe to do so. It isn't necessary to be friends with your parents.
I am experiencing exactly what you are saying -- I have been telling myself if I have faith in God, I can handle it -- however after every contact I feel like another piece of my soul has gone missing --
...the pain sometimes overwhelms me too...
I have heard it said that unforgiveness is like drinking poison and hoping the other person dies -- sometimes that poison comes in the form of alcohol. Sadly when we turn to it, the only ones we hurt are ourselves and in a way it perpetuates the abuse.
Faith in God helps but since none of us are made in stone, most will falter a bit eventually. This is why I think God would want a person to leave if they are able. To preserve what he thinks is good and for you to be the best you can be, which doesn't coincide with being abused and slowly destroyed. Hope I made sense?