I would slightly disagree, split hairs...maybe....nevertheless....to talk of the person trying to listen and understand being paramount is sort of the conventional wisdom that Im saying can create so many problems. The speaker should share the burden, and if they can adjust their manner of speaking to accommodate the listener just a little it goes a long way.
See the conventional wisdom is the men are bad listeners, we just "dont get it"....yet men have designed and built the most complicated things, computers and space stations and robots and such, and these are PRECISE things. A communication issue would definitely show up. The do fine....ruthless efficiency, to borrow from Monty Python....well, why not keep that in mind a little, respect it as a valid and useful and equally legit mode of communication, and put half the pressure on the speaker and the other half on the listener....thats REAL communication across genre and gender