Remarrying your ex.

my grandparents did this they got divorced and then married again and then got divorced again lol they were not good for each other obviously =]

good luck though I hope you an resolve your issues and that it will work out this time around just don't get caught up in the moment and forget about what got you there in the first place take care of that =]

Congratulations and I hope things go well for you and your hopefully soon to be wife!

Communication I think is very important.

My husband and I were married for a few years then divorced and have been remarried for 6 years now.

Before we got back together we discussed our differences and how we could resolve them respectfully and peacefully.

I learned that listening was actually more important than just talking.
I mean in listening to each other we were not trying to formulate in our minds what each of us would say while the other was talking or feeling defensive by butting in, but with heart and mind and soul really listening to each other. It opened up a whole new world for me and helped us both understand each other in deeper ways.

May love be your guidance and God be your light.

My BNL/SNL did it and they both say they "settled" for less than they wanted
seemed to me they did it rather lazily; like it was easier than starting over & building a new life. They have 2 children B&G and the Boy is rather bitter about it (says "they did not do him any favors by staying together") Boy: who's the oldest says it seemed like he was always in the "middle" of something he wanted no part of.

Seems sad rather old hat-Hope you and yours work for a TRUE reconcillation, not just a make the best of a bad situation.

That all depends on the situation. If you and your ex are both still single, and not remarried to others than I would say go for it, carefully, and with Godly advice. If either of you is remarried, stay away from each other. Pursuing rebuilding your former relationship would be adultery...

dbhost said:

That all depends on the situation. If you and your ex are both still single, and not remarried to others than I would say go for it, carefully, and with Godly advice. If either of you is remarried, stay away from each other. Pursuing rebuilding your former relationship would be adultery...

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This.

I had an uncle that did that.

He married, divorced, and remarried the same lady like 6 times.

Every couple of years he'd go off to work - then come home to find his house emptied out. She'd hock everything to be able to go out and begin anew and file for divorce. Then a few years would pass - she'd contact him again - they'd reconcile - and end up remarrying.

That kinda tainted my impression about "reconciliation".

If it's a true one - and like others have said not just making the best out of a bad situation (meaning - "Wow - I really hate dating and being alone") - then by all means. But - if it's a reconciliation borne out of frustration and/or insecurity - probably best to keep looking to newer/greener pastures.

dbhost said:

If either of you is remarried, stay away from each other. Pursuing rebuilding your former relationship would be adultery...

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According to Matthew 5:32, 19:9, Mark 10:11,12, Luke 16:18, the second marriages for either of the spouses is adultery because the original marital bond was not broken by the divorce. It is adultery by staying in the marriage that is not honored by God.

If I may add- adultery in any form can be classified sin, however it is my understanding that there is only one sin that may not be forgiven; and
adultery is NOT it.