I know that we are too love other as ourselves, and love our enemies. My biggest struggle with that is my mother in law. I want to love her and do loving kind gestures for her, but I fall flat on my face and fall short every time. She is very hard to get along with, and she does things that really annoy me. God says that I should love her regardless. I feel like such an evil person. I am trying to recommit my life to Jesus after ten years of backsliding, and this is the one area I know I can work on. That is to love others more, my wife, me child and my mother in law. She spends a few days a week over our house, I make it a point to pray in the morning that I will be more loving to her. I feel like the Holy Spirit is not in me to help me love her. I know that it is only through Jesus that I can make these changes. Please pray that God will enable me to love my mother in law. I keep saying to myself, how can you not love her, you are a wicked sinner that didn't deserve any love, but God loved you anyways. I feel so wicked and condemned.
Loving your enemies.
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God Bless you. Some people can rub us the wrong way and it is hard for us to love them in our natural selves. We must learn to Love them through the Love of God. Let the Love of God come into your heart for that person. The sin of Pride sometimes prevents us from loving others. Also Jealousy is another thing that get in our way of loving others.
Now you have to figure out which may apply to you and your mother-in-law. You Pray for the Holy Spirit show you what you are to do about this. I am Praying with you.
Now you have to figure out which may apply to you and your mother-in-law. You Pray for the Holy Spirit show you what you are to do about this. I am Praying with you.
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BondiHarry
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We should keep in mind that the love we are called to have for our neighbor is not an affectionate love (phileo) but to love in a moral (agape) way. I look at it as being kind and respectful, unwilling to be hurtful to in word or deed and being forgiving (just as Jesus loved us while we were still in our sins). We make a mistake if we think we must have an affectionate love for our neighbor (or enemy) and we will drive ourselves nuts feeling we are failing to 'love' as we are called to by our Lord if we think we must have an affectionate love for them.
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INTJ-F
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You can love her and have compassion for her but that does not mean you have to like her. People have different personality types and just do not get along regardless of how hard they try. This is because they communicate differently and are misunderstood.
Do some research on myers-briggs or MBTI and you may discover things about yourself and your mother in law that may help you understand each other and get along better. You may also discover why it is hard for you to get along with some people and yet hit it off with others. Studying personality types has helped me grow as a person and has helped me to understand others (my type is INTJ - and is the user ID I chose because I'm so horrible with thinking up user names)
Praying for you daily.
Do some research on myers-briggs or MBTI and you may discover things about yourself and your mother in law that may help you understand each other and get along better. You may also discover why it is hard for you to get along with some people and yet hit it off with others. Studying personality types has helped me grow as a person and has helped me to understand others (my type is INTJ - and is the user ID I chose because I'm so horrible with thinking up user names)
Praying for you daily.
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Treating her with respect IS loving her, even in the absence of 'loving' feelings.
Stop beating yourself up,and beware of scruples; the evil one will use that to keep you from the Lord and build discouragement!
Stay rooted in prayer and the rest will follow.
Praying for your peace
Stop beating yourself up,and beware of scruples; the evil one will use that to keep you from the Lord and build discouragement!
Stay rooted in prayer and the rest will follow.
Praying for your peace
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Stephanie7
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Praying that you will be able to show respect and kindness to your MIL whenever the opportunity arises, In Jesus Name, Amen.
All you can do is try to do your best and pray that God will do the rest so your heart will follow, In Jesus Name, Amen
All you can do is try to do your best and pray that God will do the rest so your heart will follow, In Jesus Name, Amen
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Ya some people are just hard to get along with plain and simple. And you might as well just accept that fact of life. I've known people like that. That doesn't mean you have to secretly hate them and or hate yourself. Just love them, love yourself and if you can't get along with them, don't worry about trying to go the extra mile. Maybe they don't like you. That's life. What I'd do in that situation is just try to spend as little time as possible around them. You can't keep kicking a dead horse, and expect it to get up, and you can't blame yourself if it doesn't okay. Dear lord help them to get along amen.
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Here is the Strong's concordance for agapaō
1) of persons
a) to welcome, to entertain, to be fond of, to love dearly
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BondiHarry
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You're looking at the wrong word. G25 is the use of 'agapaō' and in my Strong's Concordance it translates as "to love in a social or moral sense' as compared to G5368 phileo. More on agape love: Agape, Love: What is Love? What is Agape? What Does the Bible Say About Love?
It is clearly absurd to be fond of or love dearly our enemies and those who ill use us. However we can love them as God loves us, doing good to them and doing them no evil.
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Looks like that definition comes from the NEW Strongs concordance. Wonder how many differences there are from the old and the new concordance.
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