Looking for Old Friends...

MsJL · Apr 24, 2011

Luvmy5grls said:
It's worse than I originally understood. She wasn't sharing everything with me at first. She should be on her way home today so that's good. I have been texting her off & on all week just to make sure she is okay.

I feel bad for all those who worried about me for so many years. It's tough...thing is she was one of those who worried & even did an intervention of sorts with me so many years ago.

But I know better than most I guess that she has to be ready to let go. All I can do is pray.

I think you're doing a lot more than that, Cass. Good for you. She's blessed by you.

That's the thing, though, what you said - how hard it is for women to let go. Those dreams that they can't let go of... Heartbreaking stuff.

I truly think, though, that a lot of what keeps women stuck is the refusal of realistic thought about abuse. Think about it: The very organizations and institutions that insist she should leave are the same ones who make it impossible for her to do so. I just dealt with a case this past week where the woman was initially denied an OTP in spite of some bright red flags (and a lot of already-happened abuse - can't get into particulars), and had to file an appeal.

This culture is disturbed. I can't imagine our Father looks down on His daughters and feels pleased about how we've been treated.

Got to get ready for work. I'll be looking for an update that she's home safe. :prayer:

CoolMom6 · Apr 24, 2011

MsJL said:
Bet I missed you more.

(I'm so excited to see you all, that I'm just messing up all over the place.)

I have 2 email addresses - one on my blog, and I also use it at the Cafe - that's my business address. The other one is on my profile here. Use whichever one you want, and we'll exchange info. (Same for the rest of you here, by the way, if you ever want to get connected outside of CF.)

I favorited both. That way when I have a little more time I can check them out. I can't believe this thread has as many pages as it does already. I am so not used to CF anymore...

CoolMom6 · Apr 24, 2011

MsJL said:
Bet I missed you more.

(I'm so excited to see you all, that I'm just messing up all over the place.)

I have 2 email addresses - one on my blog, and I also use it at the Cafe - that's my business address. The other one is on my profile here. Use whichever one you want, and we'll exchange info. (Same for the rest of you here, by the way, if you ever want to get connected outside of CF.)

MsJL said:
Jane, Cass... I'm here (with coconut almond fudge ice cream ) reading all you've said, and I'm actually talking out loud to each of you as I read.

Grasp the mental picture of me raising my hand and waving it, yelling "OOOH! OOOH! I have to say something...!"

Can I kind of go through some of what you ladies said, share my thoughts with you? I know I wouldn't have asked that a few years ago, but we've all been apart for a while, and I don't want to assume that you want my input, either. It's just that I'm (relatively newly) on the other side of the things that each of you are dealing with - but I don't want to come in here and be annoying, if you know what I mean... So, let me know. It's fine to say "MYOB".

Other than that, I'll just say, you are amazing women, and I'm so very glad to be here again.

And I'm here just reading along...

I seriously have lost the last 6 brain cells which I believe I had back before I got remarried.
LOL
Be reading along more...then I'll pipe in when the brain cells kick in.....

CoolMom6 · Apr 24, 2011

MsJL said:
HAPPY EASTER!

"As for me and my house, we will serve the Lord."
Joshua 24:15

(Love that verse.)

The same and more blessings to you, my friend, and to all our brothers and sisters in Him~

MsJL · Apr 25, 2011

CoolMom6 said:
And I'm here just reading along...

I seriously have lost the last 6 brain cells which I believe I had back before I got remarried.
LOL
Be reading along more...then I'll pipe in when the brain cells kick in.....

CoolMom6 · Apr 25, 2011

MsJL said:

Hey you~

and

!!

I've got to try to clean a little; been on strike for a long time until hubby and I got some things squared away.
Now, I'm trying not to be lazy.
I think I've truly become lazy.
It was way too easy...

MsJL · Apr 25, 2011

Hey, I know about that. Truth be told, I wouldn't mind a little down time right now.

I just got back from a gathering of business people at a local lounge. A meet-and-greet thing. I didn't exactly get a lot out of it. :o I really am a social zero, you know?

Happily so, however. I'll never get the hang of this self-promotion stuff.

MsJL · Apr 28, 2011

Ohmygosh, I had the best day yesterday.

It was absolutely gorgeous here, and I did a ton of yard work and gardening - put down new mulch, planted a bunch of caladiums, and then took the leap and put in two peach rose bushes in front of my house.

Seeing as I have a brown thumb... :prayer:

My flowering dogwood (planted it last week) has BUDS on it! I think it's going to make it. I've wanted a pink flowering dogwood for as long as I can remember - I planted it right outside my bedroom window.

Happy Spring, everyone! (We certainly waited long enough here in New England.)

Luvmy5grls · May 5, 2011

Sorry I haven't been around much...I'm battling stress & depression. Will it ever end?

I’m still at that stage somewhat…the one where I need to let go of the past, the what ifs, what could have beens, walking down a lonely street of maybe when reality is the street is called never gonna happen.

I still find myself looking back WAY too much. And it’s very frustrating to me. I want to go forward in life but it’s hard to do when I’m having such a hard time letting go of the past.

I haven’t spoken to, text, or over the phone…to Mike since March 28th. That is a step forward to celebrate. I was finding reasons to text/call him all the time…at least once a week sometimes more. I still find myself thinking about texting/calling him. I still find myself rewriting history w/memories to being much better than they were…and longing for what never was…if that makes any sense. In order to survive that chaos…that extreme hurt I had to numb myself to it all & I also had to lie to myself & let myself believe that it was good…when it was really seriously evil.

Slowly I am seeing Mike for who he really is. It’s far too slow though! It’s crazy because I can remember Mike & I spending time with friends & family & thinking we had a great day…and hearing from my friends & family later that they were devastated at the way he talked to me, treated me, etc. What they experienced & what I experienced were totally different & yet we were all together. It’s maddening.

I’m still feeling ugh…but I’m proud of each day that goes by that I WORK at letting go of the fantasy life & grasp onto the real life ahead of me which is much better than what I can even imagine at this point. I’m divorce now for nearly 6 months & I’m just now starting to realize what my counselor, friends & family have been saying about how I need to see things for how they REALLY were & how they REALLY are & how they REALLY will be.

I know I was literally drug from that horror kicking & screaming the whole way. So I am not being punished…God is not showing favor on Mike…I don’t know what He’s doing with Mike but I do know God promises that He will avenge those persecuted. So I trust He has something powerful in mind for Mike…and I will most likely never know what that is. Since He instructs me to pray for & love my enemies…I pray that whatever it is it will cause Mike to turn to Him…to fall on His knees humbly before Him & to have eternal life & life on this side of heaven filled with peace that can only come from God.

His plan for me? It’s to prosper me…to give me hope & a future. Every good thing in my life comes from Him. I have no reason to doubt that one day I will be completely set free from the evil Satan meant for me in my marriage.

One day very soon I will feel the complete peace of God’s love & provision & I’ll be able to let Mike go forever.

Until then I just work through this one day at a time with God's help.

CoolMom6 · May 12, 2011

"His plan for me? It’s to prosper me…to give me hope & a future. Every good thing in my life comes from Him. I have no reason to doubt that one day I will be completely set free from the evil Satan meant for me in my marriage.

One day very soon I will feel the complete peace of God’s love & provision & I’ll be able to let Mike go forever.

Until then I just work through this one day at a time with God's help."
That's exactly right, and I'm so glad you see it even if you don't yet feel it.
Look at how much I'm blessed now.
Remembering where I was, brings it all home.

CoolMom6 · May 12, 2011

MsJL said:
Ohmygosh, I had the best day yesterday. It was absolutely gorgeous here, and I did a ton of yard work and gardening - put down new mulch, planted a bunch of caladiums, and then took the leap and put in two peach rose bushes in front of my house.

Seeing as I have a brown thumb...

My flowering dogwood (planted it last week) has BUDS on it! I think it's going to make it. I've wanted a pink flowering dogwood for as long as I can remember - I planted it right outside my bedroom window.

Happy Spring, everyone! (We certainly waited long enough here in New England.)

Lucky!! Hehe!!
We stay brown here, and no sooner do the little flowers in our front garden bloom, then do they shrivel up and die because it's SO stinkin' HOT. *sigh* It's the desert, what do I expect?
Photos, so I can drrooollll??

Shesjr · May 18, 2011

Hi Jenna...hope you are doing well. And how in the world is everyone else doing? I'm doing well, still at the same job, still with the same husband (yikes) and just hanging in there. I will check back soon. :wave:

CoolMom6 · Jul 1, 2011

Stopping by because of extreme boredom; one night of it, that is! Usually, the teens got me hopping, running, or buying something...
Anyway, I miss the days when we all were chatting regularly.

CoolMom6 · Sep 5, 2011

Looking for Jenna!! Jenna, I have been thinking of you...I never get on here often enough! Please msg. me and I will give you my email and phone number. I have something to tell you. Hope all is well, and lots of love!!

JC4Dude · Sep 21, 2011

Wow, haven't logged onto CF in ages, and saw this thread in the profile area.

Hello to everyone!

Not sure what to update on - basically have the same life stuff, but working on self improvement. Busy with church, small groups, and the amazing ride with JC.

Would you believe, I am not really 'arguing' / debating theology stuff much these days? Haven't really in years. In fact while I do go to forums most every week, they are mostly secular interest ones.

Well, ttfn!

CoolMom6 · Sep 27, 2011

JC4Dude said:
Wow, haven't logged onto CF in ages, and saw this thread in the profile area.

Hello to everyone!

Not sure what to update on - basically have the same life stuff, but working on self improvement. Busy with church, small groups, and the amazing ride with JC.

Would you believe, I am not really 'arguing' / debating theology stuff much these days? Haven't really in years. In fact while I do go to forums most every week, they are mostly secular interest ones.

Well, ttfn!

Dude!!!

Hey!! Looking for you and for others on Facebook!! Can you PM me if you have a profile on FB? Some of the group who started on FL forums are trying to re-up with some old friends and I'm sure that they'd love to see you!!

Let me know, please consider!
Love and hugs!!
Barb

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