I'm so overcome by fear lately. I'll try to start from the beginning but it will take a while. I had a fear long ago that I was supposed to stay single or that lots of things I did would mean I was making a vow to God not to get married. Well I was in church one day and thought that if I took communion it would mean that (I know what communion really symbolizes) but I did it anyway feeling like I was resigning or agreeing finally to a vow. Well I met this guy who I'm now engaged to who is a Christian and very good to me, but I had been plagued about whether or not I should be with him and feeling often like I shouldn't and always being afraid to say he was given to me by God because of everything. His family likes me and my family likes him pretty much and everything. I actually knew one of his aunt's and her family when we were young. But I saw things before I met him about how sometimes God's plan for us is carried out better with us single and so sometimes I wonder if that was meant for me to see. I often see things as signs, you know because we are always told everything happens for a reason. And I always worried about being with him but he is so good to me and I had also read something in my Bible once that was talking about being unequally yoked (which doesn't apply to us since we are both Christians) but it said that if you date someone who isn't a Christian then eventually you will have to tell them you are leaving because you love God or you will have to tell God "sorry but I love this person" and I'm sometimes afraid that being with this guy will mean that I'm saying that. But he's a Christian. There is a lot of anxiety in our family and recently I tried to get off my medicine for OCD and got on something natural. I started weaning off my medicine in Nov. of last year and then got on the natural med at some point. Big disaster...I was student teaching at the time and sometime I would break down, even in the school, but the semester was terrible. My grades were good but I was miserable and afraid. My poor fiance was stressed out because of it and was starting to doubt us because I was so afraid that God didn't want me with him. He was patient though and even when he was frustrated, he would come back and tell me he would stay with me. My mom tells me that I'm sabotaging my own happiness (she may have said she thinks it's because I don't think God wants me to be happy). Well I got back on my medicine but still felt bad. I started getting a little stable but still worried about disobeying God. Well I just started my period for the month two or three days ago and right before until now the fear and the doubt and confusion? started again so badly. I keep crying and feeling flushed and panicked. And when I'm not worried about whether I can be with him, I'm feeling that I don't want to be with him. I feel like I keep hurting him and I feel like he would be better without me. I even read something lately about laying down your life for your friends which makes me feel like I should leave him so he might be better. I'm so upset. I'm crying right now lol. I feel nervous looking at my Bible and reading it and even sometimes looking at churches (my sister says this is because of the OCD).
One of the days it started most recently I woke up and was feeling anxious. Later I thought about reading the Bible with my fiance (I don't think we read it together enough). Well I wanted to read in Psalms because it is calming and encouraging sometimes but I thought that we should read in Matthew and Daniel suggested chapter 8. It talked about how Jesus told a disciple to let the dead bury the dead and to come follow him. Basically He was telling the disciple not to bury his dead dad. Well I felt bad because when I read that I felt like I would be mad if I was told that and what right do I ever have to be mad at Him for telling me something like that, which , combined with what I'm about to tell you, made me worry abotu being with Daniel again. I then asked my fiance if he thought that when Jesus said ot give up things does He just mean to be willing to and he said yes, give up things if Jesus asks us to. That made me start crying again. How do you know if something is OCD or if God is talking to you? I want to think of him as a gift and I did pray that if God doesn't want me with him that he will break up with me, but then I had this thought that maybe God was trying to tell me that He doesn't want him to break up with me, He wants it done this way. Also, thinking about marriage and seeing things about weddings terrifies me and even though I enjoy being with Daniel I wonder if it is fair to be with him if I'm scared of thinking about marriage. Is it fair to go ahead and set the date that he suggested for March of next year when I'm afraid? I have recently even thought that I don't want to be alive...But I don't really want to die though I guess. Any advice? And please pray for me.
One of the days it started most recently I woke up and was feeling anxious. Later I thought about reading the Bible with my fiance (I don't think we read it together enough). Well I wanted to read in Psalms because it is calming and encouraging sometimes but I thought that we should read in Matthew and Daniel suggested chapter 8. It talked about how Jesus told a disciple to let the dead bury the dead and to come follow him. Basically He was telling the disciple not to bury his dead dad. Well I felt bad because when I read that I felt like I would be mad if I was told that and what right do I ever have to be mad at Him for telling me something like that, which , combined with what I'm about to tell you, made me worry abotu being with Daniel again. I then asked my fiance if he thought that when Jesus said ot give up things does He just mean to be willing to and he said yes, give up things if Jesus asks us to. That made me start crying again. How do you know if something is OCD or if God is talking to you? I want to think of him as a gift and I did pray that if God doesn't want me with him that he will break up with me, but then I had this thought that maybe God was trying to tell me that He doesn't want him to break up with me, He wants it done this way. Also, thinking about marriage and seeing things about weddings terrifies me and even though I enjoy being with Daniel I wonder if it is fair to be with him if I'm scared of thinking about marriage. Is it fair to go ahead and set the date that he suggested for March of next year when I'm afraid? I have recently even thought that I don't want to be alive...But I don't really want to die though I guess. Any advice? And please pray for me.