Is there a stereotype for older woman to marry a younger man?

eh7 said:

I am curious to find out if there is anything wrong or is there any stereotype for older woman (by around 5 years, perhaps) to marry a younger man? Is there any Christian out there has the same experience?

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I don't see anything wrong with it.

when your 29, 5yrs either way really isn't that big of a deal. now if you were 18-21, then you could possibly claim couger.. but even then +5yrs I don't believe is old enough.

lol...that reminds me of this girl who is in pharmacy school that said "I love you" to me...

she was 27....i was 21.

The main problem between older women and younger men is that some women find it more difficult to submit to and respect a younger man unconditionally. As long as she is willing to fulfill the role of a Christian wife, no, there is no problem with it.

I think it's ok, especially if the age difference isn't excessively large and if both people in the relationship are ok with it. It depends on the situation.
Women do outlive men by several years on average...

People usually think I'm younger than I am. I would jokingly say it's because I'm still a virgin, exercise, and eat healthy.
Just recently, I met a guy who is two years younger than I. If he hadn't said how old he was though, I would have guessed that he is older than I. He was already balding and in general looked older.
If he had rejected me merely because I'm slightly older, it would have seemed a bit ridiculous to me.
(Just for the record, he's taken, and we wouldn't consider dating each other. But age isn't the reason.)

No, that's definitely against the stereotype. The stereotype is for women to marry an older man.

That being said, there's nothing particularly wrong about it. There are some younger men who would be much better husbands than some older men and there are some younger men who are simply too immature. It's really a case-by-case thing.

You might be called a cogar or something like that. But there is nothing wrong with it as long as you can respect him.

At that age, that's a very small difference. You're both still close enough in age to share many of the same classic TV shows, fads and bands from your grade-school days. Even if you were 24 I'd say that isn't too bad of a difference.

In an age when the man doesn't necessarily have to be the main financial supporter, women don't need to be around 18 to have a good chance at successful childbirth, and hopefully women aren't required to be subservient to their husbands, I really don't see why it would be any problem.

Of course for a serious, equal relationship both partners should be on a similar level of maturity. And if you want a long-term commitment, both should consider how compatible their life expectations will be in 10 years time.
But that is a problem for large age gaps in both directions, and only for large gaps (say 8 years or more).

I was an idiot at the time I posted this.

5 years is not a big deal once you are passed the teen years, in fact, its probably not even noticeable. There is nothing wrong with age gaps (even larger ones) in relationships so long as both people are happy and compatible, and that can only be determined on a case by case basis. My girlfriend is much older then me but age has never caused an issue nor do people even really notice. I click with her in a way I have not been able to with anyone else. I'm an old soul, our interests are similar yet different enough to keep life interesting, she is a little girl at heart, and we have tons of fun and a deep affection for each other. There isn't much else you can ask for in a relationship.

The only issue where age gaps can come up is with regards to children. In my case I don't want kids and neither does she so it doesn't matter. If one partner wants kids and the other doesn't or can't, that's where complications could occur.

I am 3 years older than my husband. Age has never been an issue for us. In fact, most people think my husband is the same age or slightly older than me.

They are called cougars

There are a lot of hot older women out there. If I were a 20-something male and Susan Sarandon came on to me, I don't think I'd object.

That said, not all older women who go after younger men are all that hot. IMHO, a 'cougar' should be moderately well-preserved, young at heart, but still dignified. Some of the older women I see trying to pick my (platonic) male friends out at bars look like they've been ridden hard and put away wet - they are not cougars despite the age gap; just really desperate.

FWIW, I'm 3.5 years older than my man-friend. Honestly, it's all about maturity - I never really found myself clicking with an older man. I act like a shallow, superficial, self-absorbed, melodramatic 17 year old half the time, and he acts like he's the one in his mid-twenties. It works out quite well. I really wish there were a better term for younger men besides 'tadpole' though.

eh7 said:

I am curious to find out if there is anything wrong or is there any stereotype for older woman (by around 5 years, perhaps) to marry a younger man? Is there any Christian out there has the same experience?

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I think there is no problem with it. Even our senior pastor is married to someone older than him but I can see they love each other. They are not the perfect couple, they have fights but they still live in harmony because God is in the center of their relationship. And as long as God is in the center of your relationship, then I don't see anything wrong with it.

Mrs.Slocombe said:

Some of the older women I see trying to pick my (platonic) male friends out at bars look like they've been ridden hard and put away wet -

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