found inappropriate content on internet...NEED HOPE

"and when hes not at home anoint his pillow with oil."

Sounds rather superstitious, and IMO if someone I was married to was spending all day ogling other women, I think I would put garbage (trash-can contents) on the pillow instead. . .and then ask him "if you do not like burying your face in trash physically, why do you do it mentally?"

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. . .IMO if someone I was married to was spending all day ogling other women, I think I would put garbage (trash-can contents) on the pillow instead. . .and then ask him "if you do not like burying your face in trash physically, why do you do it mentally?"

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Amen.

never neww inappropriate content was that bad

It is.

Originally posted by Susan
"and when hes not at home anoint his pillow with oil."

Sounds rather superstitious, and IMO if someone I was married to was spending all day ogling other women, I think I would put garbage (trash-can contents) on the pillow instead. . .and then ask him "if you do not like burying your face in trash physically, why do you do it mentally?"

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LOL... Or do that..

lisa-just wanted to post and say that i know exactly how you feel-i went through this w/ my husband last year-i kept finding it on the internet, under the bed, on tapes that looked like they were blank. i told him how hurtful it was to me, and he kept saying he would stop but he didn't so it made me feel like he was ignoring my feelings. eventually, he finally saw what it was doing to our marriage and why it is wrong and has thrown it out, and at least to my knowledge has kicked the habit. it may not feel like it now, but things WILL get better. prayer definitely helps, but i'm sure you already know that

there was a post earlier about how men would not feel the need for inappropriate content if their wife was doing her duty, i and just wanted to say that i disagree (i disagree nicely of course) it has to do w/ lust and self control which i think has already been discussed. plus, the majority of women are the ones who are not satisfied by their husbands, yet they do not necessarily look to other men, whetherit is pictures/videos or an actual man, for satisfaction

I pray that things have gotten better for you cnlisa. I have endured the same struggles and I know how hard it is to regain that trust again.

Thank God we do have a man who is 100% pure. Jesus.

God Bless. Mixee.

You know men aren't the only one who has a problem with inappropriate content. I've had a problem with it for almost the past 20 years. It's easy to pass judgement when you don't know what a person with an addiction goes thru. And it is an addiction. I was exposed to it at a VERY young age. I struggle with it, everytime I choose to go on the net. I am proud to say that I haven't willingly checked out a inappropriate content site in about a year now. And I say willingly cox the other day I came across a site by accident, and I tell ya, I was tempted. But I walked away. It was really hard, but I did it. I guess what I'm trying to say is, don't judge a person to harshly. Cos you never know what they go thru until you experience it yourself.

Lisa,

I must agree with Zyon. It is VERY hard to get rid of this problem. First of all because as Zyon some of us were exposed to hardcore material at a very young age and it becomes a habit, just like the need to sleep or eat. It is a true addiction and please people don't treat this subject as some stupid relation problem, because it is not. I disagree with the point of view that states that men look at pron because the wife is not sexually active, C'MON!

I tell you cnlisa Hang tight to God. Forgive sister I know its not easy, but you know what If my wife wouldn't have been a spiritual warrior I would be still be rolling in that mud. She first of all forgave me and endured the pain of knowing of my addiction until she could handle a face to face confrontation. Me on the other hand suffered from this addiction since very young and when I accepted Christ it went away for a while but then I started struggling with it years later and believe me as a Christian man I felt Horrible, because I knew God could save me and I prayed everyday but it was really strong. Let me describe you what I felt so you know how hard this is... It's completely irresitible like when you are totally thistry and need a glass o water. My body temperature would drop when I was in the comp. watching pron as my heart beated at a tremendous rate. And when you are through, it is just Horrible, you feel like Adam when he found himself naked before God. And then you start to get depressed and feel horrible (like gollum in LOTR). Its like a Dr. Jackyl and Mr. Hide, best described by paul...

(Romans 7:15)
"I do not understand what I do. For what I want to do I do not do, but what I hate I do"

Now, is your husband a devoted Christian? If he is not you need to pray twice for him so that the Lord acts in his life. If he is, pray and don't feel horrible please, becasue that's like handing the victory of your battle to the Devil. Love him, he has a problem greater than him. But have faith.

Back to my experience, one day I prayed to God that I be caught, for I would never confess my sin to my wife because I felt so ashamed. And after a week she caught me. I left some traces on the browser and since then she went ahead and got a little internet spy software (Thank God for that!) and I couldnt argue when she showed the proof. And I cried and cried. And that was the first step.

So it is a daily battle for me, I pray to God because:
(Romans 7:29) "What a wretched man I am! Who will rescue me from this body of death? Thanks be to God--through Jesus Christ our Lord!"

Sister, fight this battle with him, not against him. Use software if necessary. Love him. Pray for him and most importantly he must recognize this as a problem and lift this matter to God the author and helper of our lives, the one and only that has the power to breathe LIFE into us.

God bless you. If you need help with this issue, e-mail me at luigi028@hotmail.com and my wife will for sure help you on a personal basis on how to deal with this.

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