My mother is now dying :-(

Praying for you both.

Praying for you and for you to find peace. It is always hard when the bond is just not there through no fault of your own. My mom died 17 years ago and still when I think of her, I stifen up - not very warm fuzzy feelings.

I prayed for her.

Sorry. I just went through this myself. I understand your pain.

If I might ask, from the way you describe her as constantly angry and distant, it really strikes me as her being unsaved. I was wondering if there was anyone near there, a church perhaps, you could contact and see if they will make a few visits to her.

SpiritPsalmist said:

Thank you Faulty. I believe she is saved. She just needed help in some areas that she never really learned to trust the Lord for. There is probably some medication that would have helped her as well, just in those days the church just was not as accepting of that as now.

Thank you to everyone who has responded.

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Ok. You would know much better than I would for sure.

My mother, who passed last week, was comforted when people from the church came to visit. Was wondering if such visits would be comforting to your mother as well in this hard time for her. Just something to think about (as if there wasn't enough already).

SpiritPsalmist said:

We have never been close. She was abusive. She moved to MT (My sister and I are in KS and my brother is in Arkansas) over 20 years ago telling us she did not need us and neither my brother or me have seen her since. My sister did go to visit her once but the time was not a pleasant one. My mother was a very angry person.

Anyway, I'd say for the last 5 yrs or so we have been in contact. So now, she's in the hospital. She had breast cancer about a year ago and had a breast removed and was going through chemo but she never went back for the followup. She was taken to the hospital last week with breathing problems and they found a large (10" in diameter) mass over one of her lungs. When they did surgery they are unable to remove it and it is cancer....carried over from her breast cancer. She is on a breathing tube.

I was able to sit in by phone on a meeting they had with her where they explained they could do radiation but the only difference it would make would be to make her more comfortable until she passes. She wants them to do all they can do to extend her life.

Today, her social worker connected us via Skype and I was able to see her and her me. It is very sad for me to see her in this way. I'm unable to be with her physically and so is my brother and sister. She did write on paper for the social worker to read to me that she is not suffering. I'm glad.

So, all that said, I desire your prayers. It will be a year next month that my dad passed.

Thank you

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Bless you sister, be encouraged, your friends here are with you.

My thoughts and prayers are with you. ((((hug))))

I am so sorry to hear that. Sorry for your relationship too. Will pray for you during this time.

So sorry to hear that sis . Prayed for you both

I am very sorry.

Praying for your mom, for you, and for your whole family.

My prayers are with you.

I have prayed for your mom now! That God heals her from this cancer!

may God bless and comfort both you and your mother.

My wife's and my prayers are with you and yours.

You and your mother will be in my thoughts and prayers

We have never been close. She was abusive. She moved to MT (My sister and I are in KS and my brother is in Arkansas) over 20 years ago telling us she did not need us and neither my brother or me have seen her since. My sister did go to visit her once but the time was not a pleasant one. My mother was a very angry person.

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I'm so sorry. Is she a Christian? I'm sure she has given her family a lot of thought recently and regrets her life. She may not be able to tell you this, but when it's on the line, the particulars seem small.

If there is anyway she can hear or read what you would "say" to her, she needs to receive Jesus and be reconciled to God.

If she is already born again, if she carries bitterness within her, she needs to make the choice to forgive (whoever). If she does not, she will not go to Heaven.

God has taken so many with shattered lives who are in hospitals and honored His Word when they turn to Him and takes them to Heaven, where they make a fresh start.

Besides from giving her your love, the greatest thing you can give her is the Word of God. She absolutely must forgive to be forgiven. She can use her will, but if she obeys God and forgives, God will receive her in glory and the whole family will be greatly encouraged.

God honors prayer and people even in comas can still hear and receive ministry. Move with strong faith and love.