I think it's great that you did that, but for us Christians, it's about much, much more than just tradition. Marriage symbolizes the relationship between Christ and the Church, Christ represented by the husband, and the Church represented by the wife.
In Christianity, wives take the husbands name as a symbol of the Church's submission to the authority of Christ.
i am a traditionalist sort of person. i want to take my husbands name and then have our children and live happily ever after however thats not the set up we have. the kids are already there.
this is the exact reason i ask... i wouldnt want to appear disrespectful towards my husband, but is not taking his name disrespectful. i will submit to my husband i do all the wife duties that is expected of me. does taking his name matter all that much? it is only a name after all. (and he is not attached to his second name its not his family name it is his ex step fathers)
i would take my to be husbands name in a heartbeat. its a name i like and i personaly like it more than my maiden name.
i dont want to force a new surname on my children they are 5 and 2 yrs old and will be 7 and 4 yrs old when we get married so they will be well old enough to know there surname and as my husband had his surname changed by his step dads arrival he doesnt want to do that to my kids as he hated it when he was a kid and he would have been the same age as my eldest will be.
i dont want to have a different surname from my kids either. my elsest son has already been though a name change as i gave him his fathers name when he was born and changed it when his father left which was before my youngest was born so was able to give him my maiden name when i regestered him.
in scotland under 16 you can only change your name once (you can chnage it again through depol) but really my eldest son cant change his name again untill he is 16.
and finally my other reason is i want the same name as my husband "Mr and Mrs"
so to sum up..
i want the same name as my kids
i dont want to force a new surname on them
i want the same surname as my husband.
it only seams logical.
the only other option i have is to double my surname and have both. but im not sure how legal that is.
Error: You are using scripture to defend a western cultural tradition.
There are many Christians in other cultural traditions that don't have the wife change her last name.
I think if he's ok with taking her last name, then thats fine, but as a normative women should usually take their husband's last name.
I agree with Bro_Sam on this.
The western tradition of this stems from roots in Christianity. It is indeed a sign of submission for the wife to assume the man's name and this practice is appropriate for Christian married couples to engage in.
I agree with Bro_Sam on this.
The western tradition of this stems from roots in Christianity. It is indeed a sign of submission for the wife to assume the man's name and this practice is appropriate for Christian married couples to engage in.
My wife's family's tradition was that girls weren't given middle names so that when they got married and took their husband's last name, their maiden name became their middle name with no hyphenation. I was happy to carry that on with our three daughters, none of whom have a middle name.
We once had a neighbor couple who took each other's last name and hyphenated, so he was John Doe-Smith and she was Jane Smith-Doe. They had one child and I was too polite to ask what her last name was, Doe-Doe-Smith-Smith? Smith-Doe-Doe-Smith?