Would you date someone you're not attracted to...?

Stravinsk said:

Would you fault the man you've been married to for 30 years if that is what he thought every time he looked at you in the morning when you're 52?

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Hopefully he wouldn't lose his attraction to me. And my family ages pretty well, so I plan on looking 40 when I'm 52

To be honest, I have never really dated a guy I've been physically attracted to. I always got to know them based off the interest they expressed in me. Over time, they became attractive. I have since decided that I may start to consider looks. I know for a fact that all of my ex's were attracted to me before getting to know me. I sometimes think it's only fair that I also be initially attracted to a guy. On the other hand, I might feel kind of bad doing this. Even though I feel that way, I'm not sure if a guy that doesn't find me attractive will ever approach me. So now I'm back to the whole if they find me attractive it's only fair that I feel the same way about them. I have recently turned down a guy that I didn't find attractive although that wasn't the sole reason. Of course if a guy is attractive and not very nice, I wouldn't be interested anyway. So although I haven't considered looks in the past, I think I will start to consider them but not as heavily as other important things such as Christianity.

Sometimes you hope that the person grows on you, because you like everything else about them.

First of all, I don't date. I form friendships, and then I enter into a relationship if I think I might want to be with the person for the rest of my life. I'm DEFINITELY not clingy--actually, I'm quite independent--but I've never been into the whole dating around for fun & free dinners/drinks thing.

So having said the above, I would never enter into a relationship with someone I didn't find attractive even in the least bit. Even if I don't find someone physically attractive at first, he becomes attractive to me if I really like him. So if I can't find even a hint of something desirable after I've already gotten to know the person, then something's off both physically and emotionally.

Would I date someone that I think is "average" or just completely non-extraordinary on the outside? Someone who's physical appearance didn't do anything in particular to make me go "Wow!" Absolutely.

Would I date someone that makes me want to cringe or gag when I look at them? No.

This question makes no sense to me. Why would I date someone I wasn't attracted to? I don't even spend time with people who don't attract me on some level.

my answer is such... by attracted to do you mean merely physical appearance?

cause in my opinion being attracted to someone is how you feel about them, it's not just about looks but also about personality. After all beauty is in the eye of the beholder....

me i would not date someone i was not attracted to in any fashion because that would mean not just that they appeared ugly but they had an ugly personality, and that it was for reasons such as they were rich or something, so no i would not...

me i find 90% of how i feal about a girl to be the personality and beliefs... if those are ugly then i find the person ugly, but if they are good then i find the person to be beautiful... am i making any sense at all?