Needing an Online Accountability Partner

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Hi I am a 21 year old Christian seeking some help.
I have the hold of deep sexual sin in my life that keeps reoccurring and it has been years. I hate it. I hate myself. I really want to be free. I would like to talk to someone and would like to hold myself accountable. Please let me know if you could help, it would be very much appreciated
 
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Ok thanks for your input. I honestly don't have anyone around me that would be appropriate to uphold me in that way. Have just recently moved to a new area - everything here is great in that I have found a great church to be a part of and I feel very much at home. I just don't feel comfortable sharing myself in this way with these new people that I have just met. It would be weird I think. Thats why I thought maybe online could be a way to go.
 
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Ok thanks for your input. I honestly don't have anyone around me that would be appropriate to uphold me in that way. Have just recently moved to a new area - everything here is great in that I have found a great church to be a part of and I feel very much at home. I just don't feel comfortable sharing myself in this way with these new people that I have just met. It would be weird I think. Thats why I thought maybe online could be a way to go.

You see maybe it's just me being abit of skeptical about people in general, but I've never figured out how advertising online for a stranger to talk about masturbation with...

is ever going to attract anything but creeps and wierdos, and other such shady folk.
 
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my mentor for the setting captives free thing was pretty good.

it's gender segregated.

bella, if you're not comfortable as of yet in your new community,
don't keep it to yourself,
do that course, and apply for the accountability partner.
if anything, they would at least be praying for you.
 
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my mentor for the setting captives free thing was pretty good.

it's gender segregated.

I recommend staying away from these people myself. Had a bad experience with them. Besides, they'll tell you that your online partner/mentor whatever isn't adequate.
 
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I recommend staying away from these people myself. Had a bad experience with them. Besides, they'll tell you that your online partner/mentor whatever isn't adequate.

lol

one little bump in the road closes the highway does it?
 
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Hi I am a 21 year old Christian seeking some help.
I have the hold of deep sexual sin in my life that keeps reoccurring and it has been years. I hate it. I hate myself. I really want to be free. I would like to talk to someone and would like to hold myself accountable. Please let me know if you could help, it would be very much appreciated
I just joined this site and tried to private message you, but apparently I need 15 posts first, so post 1. I would be willing to be your accountability partner for reasons I would like to talk about in private chat not on open forum..
 
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Blind post: What I have (sadly) witnessed on CF is that there have been virgins on here who came here looking for support and ended up having opposite sex people seduce them (online AND in real life) -- I know of 3 seperate instances of this. So yeah, I don't think online accountability is wise unless it is with someone of the same sex. Talking about sex or masturbation with someone who is the opposite sex is just asking for trouble when you're already struggling with self control. And sadly, there ARE "Christians" who will take advantage of it.
 
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Accountability partners only work if they humiliate you. You behave yourself properly at work, or around other people you know (and may keep your private life secret from them) because you don't want to be humiliated, criticized, or degraded by them. The threat of being embarassed keeps people's irregular passions in check.

If you find an internet "accountability partner" who is anonymous, not directly involved in your life, unable to actively degrade you and snoop in your business regularly, you refute the whole point. If you want someone to hold you "accountable", go enlist the people who you would feel least comfortable confessing to, and embarass yourself soundly right there in front of them, face to face. You probably don't have the guts to do that (maybe for good reason), which also means that you probably don't actually want the accountability partner.
 
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I couldn't disagree more Howard. Embarrassing yourself by confessing it all doesn't necessarily help. I did that a few years back, and nothing really changed for me with my sexual tempations. If anything it only served to alienate myself from others, contributing to me falling back into inappropriate content. Sure it worked for a while, but if that person stops asking or if you stop talking to them or simply lie to them about your habits, BAM, you're back to what you were doing before.
 
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