Society sees separation and divorce as a solution to a problem, but I think finding out the root of the problem so that it doesn't happen in first place may be more important, since the cause should be solved rather than just the symptom.
I previously asked about one possible factor that destroys love, though it probably sounded too complicated, so I will ask in a more simple way:
Do you think that the idea that one has more options and someone better out there is the reason why people are unable to build, forgive and productively solve their issues in existing relationships?
Do you think that being social with the opposite sex is the main ingredient that leads to thinking bad about one's existing relationship/marriage, and thus strive for "better"?
God is love, and I think a lot of ideas would go against that, in the sort of way that Solomon suggest cutting the baby in two... or how a spouse can threaten separation to see if that they really matter to the other people, to get evidence of their value to that person.
That can be as simple as a test.
But there is also the component of faith with tests. For instance, the Israelites cried in the desert under tests, while Moses simply shrugged off the actual tests, but saw in the people they did not and was frustrated at that.
In those tests you see such things as God raising up Pharaoh and his army... the people going into the desert without food or water... and a continual dehydration problem on water. It really ends with Moses hitting the rock instead of speaking to it - a very odd request if one thinks about it - and claiming, instead of "The Lord says", "Me and Aaron will make water come out of this rock". For which error - lack of trust, as God said - Moses failed to reach the Promised Land... yet "because of the people testing him".
Love is higher than people, as a youth is lower then the parent they will become.
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As for people intruding and throwing around varying ideas about the relationships of others, throwing in varying advices under the guise of being a friend... often these things are themselves blocks to relationships, an attempt to divide rather then join.
Judgments, condemnations made on others... on others business... instead of people focusing on their own lives and considering the realities of their own relationships.
Love has a mind of its' own, no wonder Solomon spoke of the way of a woman with a man as one of the greatest mysteries in existence.
And because love always finds a way against all adversity, this means it is far smarter then flesh... for flesh can not find its' way out of the impossible mazes of meaning words and their variety of possible meanings can throw up as blocks to the end goal of love.
Fleshly desires and selfish instincts simply do not have the resources nor motive love does to solve any problem... any knot or maze... presented to it... and in this way the puzzles of life are made so severe that love and only love can find its' way through.
So that love might be seen clearly as superior and righteous and the way to life.
Don't you think, maybe?
But I don't know. I am really not very smart or spiritual.
