I thought it was time I asked for some christian advice.
I came from a family that had a lot of conflict, emotional blackmail, blurred personal boundaries and when my husband got posted to another city (meaning I was finally free of my family) in 2002 inwardly I swore that I would make sure that I would keep the distance as great as possible. Very unchristian and unloving I know.... and very convenient having a husband who has to be posted all around the country every couple of years.
At that time my family had just fallen apart because of my mother's affair with her now husband and I was completely burnt-out from having to suppress all my feelings to appear supportive to her (so my father didn't become physically violent towards my mother).
Now I want to be able to see my sister in another city sometimes but that means I would probably have to see my mother as well as she has recently moved to that very same city. At the end of the year we will be moving interstate and even further away from that sister's city.
I don't know what to do about the situation. Any good advice would be greatly appreciated.
I came from a family that had a lot of conflict, emotional blackmail, blurred personal boundaries and when my husband got posted to another city (meaning I was finally free of my family) in 2002 inwardly I swore that I would make sure that I would keep the distance as great as possible. Very unchristian and unloving I know.... and very convenient having a husband who has to be posted all around the country every couple of years.
At that time my family had just fallen apart because of my mother's affair with her now husband and I was completely burnt-out from having to suppress all my feelings to appear supportive to her (so my father didn't become physically violent towards my mother).
Now I want to be able to see my sister in another city sometimes but that means I would probably have to see my mother as well as she has recently moved to that very same city. At the end of the year we will be moving interstate and even further away from that sister's city.
I don't know what to do about the situation. Any good advice would be greatly appreciated.