How do you feel about dating a person with children in your early 20s ,and how will your parents react ?
As an older person...
When I was in my early 20's, I did not even consider this an option. Although I've always been attracted to guys a bit older than me, I did not see anyone on the horizon who had children at that time and I have never dated anyone with children. I also never wanted to have children in my 20's anyway (and yeyyy, never did
). As I got older, I became more comfortable with and
called to adopt children -- ie. loving and caring for children I, myself, did not carry with me for 9 months and doing so as though they were my own flesh and blood. So, I became more aware and open to this concept, albeit cautious. Still now, as a non-20-something, I would be very cautious of this. Although drama and such is not exclusive to those with children (and sometimes, not so much because as tempting as it is to believe, not everyone is a walking stereotype), I do take care to consider the relationship had or missing with the biological mother. If it is a toxic situation, I would refrain. I also would take care with how many children are involved. I, personally, find more than 2 overwhelming. But who knows, if God called me to such a life, I would be prepared for it. As far as parents are concerned, I guess I thought more of their acceptance and whatnot when I was in my teenage years, not a whole lot in my 20's as I became just naturally inclined to desire the type of man they would want for me anyway. I think there would be major concerns over being with someone who was
married previously, but again, I would naturally feel less-inclined to date someone who's been married before anyway. But again, who knows.