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I've been having a hard time lately. For many years I've had two best friends and many other friends in high school. Now that I'm in college I have nothing in common with my high school friends. My two best friends turned out to not be the people I thought they were. One of them cursed at me demeaning my belief in God and ending our friendship over it. My second best friend has been really distant and all she cares about is her fiancee.

I feel really alone, I try to understand God's will for me right now. I just feel really lonely and confused. I would appreciate people's input and encouragement.

Thank you,

Julia​
 

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It happens through life - friends grow in different directions and a new friendship group is formed. Some may hang on over the years but your closest friends are usually those at the same life stage. Now is the time to make some new friendships and while you could maintain the others, it sounds like they may be less significant relationships at this point. That could change again in future though. :)
 
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I've been having a hard time lately. For many years I've had two best friends and many other friends in high school. Now that I'm in college I have nothing in common with my high school friends. My two best friends turned out to not be the people I thought they were. One of them cursed at me demeaning my belief in God and ending our friendship over it. My second best friend has been really distant and all she cares about is her fiancee.

I feel really alone, I try to understand God's will for me right now. I just feel really lonely and confused. I would appreciate people's input and encouragement.

Thank you,

Julia​

I had tons of friends and the day I went to become a Reverend, I found out who my True Friends really were. The others scoffed and ridiculed me, even others came back to me and were nice enough to tell me what some others even said about my Faith, my post as a Reverend and my Beliefs. Then when I get home, I have another friend whom I have known all my life ask me if I dated any nice girls, I said of course I dated some really nice Christian girls, but none of them worked out. His first question after that was, "Did you have sex with any of them?" Now, first I have never done such a thing, second I was angered by him even asking such a stupid question when he knew me his entire life and third, I have lived my life for Jesus since I can remember. After I scorned him about his stupid question, he has never come around since. And he was once a really good Christian. Guess people change and they fall away, they get sucked into sin and anyone who is against sin or what they believe in is not their friend. So friends come and go. I make new friends every day. Some I hang out with at a BBQ, others I don't. So when you lose one friend, or end up having no friends, look for Christian friends who have the same Faith and interest as you do and you will have tons of Friends. In Church alone, everyone is a friend and how many times I get asked to do things with some of them I can't count. So maybe its time to make some more new friends. It is as easy as riding a bicycle. God Bless.
 
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I had tons of friends and the day I went to become a Reverend, I found out who my True Friends really were. The others scoffed and ridiculed me, even others came back to me and were nice enough to tell me what some others even said about my Faith, my post as a Reverend and my Beliefs. Then when I get home, I have another friend whom I have known all my life ask me if I dated any nice girls, I said of course I dated some really nice Christian girls, but none of them worked out. His first question after that was, "Did you have sex with any of them?" Now, first I have never done such a thing, second I was angered by him even asking such a stupid question when he knew me his entire life and third, I have lived my life for Jesus since I can remember. After I scorned him about his stupid question, he has never come around since. And he was once a really good Christian. Guess people change and they fall away, they get sucked into sin and anyone who is against sin or what they believe in is not their friend. So friends come and go. I make new friends every day. Some I hang out with at a BBQ, others I don't. So when you lose one friend, or end up having no friends, look for Christian friends who have the same Faith and interest as you do and you will have tons of Friends. In Church alone, everyone is a friend and how many times I get asked to do things with some of them I can't count. So maybe its time to make some more new friends. It is as easy as riding a bicycle. God Bless.

Wow, thank you for taking the time to write about my post. I appreciate your story, its really devastating when Christians give into sin and become totally different people :(
 
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Sorry to hear that. Unfortunately, your problem sounds pretty normal. And from what you said, you're the innocent party in all of this. That just happens sometimes.

As has been said before, you're in college now. That means you have a golden opportunity to meet new friends. I would start with a campus ministry at your college. You'll meet other Christians there, and at a good one they'll be good friends, you will be challenged to grow in your faith, and there will be lots of opportunities for good, clean fun.
 
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That's unfortunate, and it's often a side-effect of going of to college or otherwise transitioning (like, say, your other friend who is engaged). You may have to make new friends, which is, thankfully, not terribly difficult in college, though it can be tricky.
 
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