Stress...

septemberskies · Jul 1, 2010

I don't think I'm dealing with stress too well right now. I had a major melt down today. I took my break, got into my car, and start crying and screaming on the phone to my mom. I frantically drove off to a gas station scared to go back to work... I had to call and let them know I was not coming back from break.

I'm burning out and I feel trapped on this job. I'm holding on because there is not much out there but the stress in literally physically hurting me. Today (or yesterday rather) it felt like someone was grabbing me by the back of my neck and was squeezing me... the pain went to my shoulders and upper back. Freaked me out because I never experienced that. Then people seem to be crowding me and there was no space, my heart was pounding, legs were weak, and i felt disoriented... I know what the meaning of a true panic attack is after today. Now of course I can't sleep, stomach is upset, i'm hungry, and experiencing random pains...

How do you deal?

Nom De Guerre · Jul 1, 2010

With horrible stress, I usually sleep, cry if I need to, be angry at myself for a bit; reach out to God, then I usually get back into bed and sleep some more.

I tend to feel better, but not good, after sleeping and then I'll try to figure out all the great things God has provided for my life.

I'm sorry you feel so bad, I'd give you a hug if I could; believe me, those work wonders when you're feeling like this.

Grace and peace be upon you Sis.

lostaquarium · Jul 1, 2010

Poor thing :hug:

Why do you think you feel so stressed at work? I'm sorry if it's a stupid question, but please bear with me. Is it because you're expected to over-achieve? Is it because your coworkers treat you badly? Is it because it's fairly boring and you want to do something else?

lostaquarium · Jul 1, 2010

septemberskies said:
How do you deal?

Surprisingly, I no longer get very stressed, because I figured out the cause of my stresses. In the past, I pressured myself to over-achieve, because subconsciously I was relying on my works for my salvation. I wanted to do really well in my studies because I wanted God to be proud of me. And unless I came top in every class (which I didn't) I got very down on myself, and much of the time I was incredibly, incredibly depressed.

Now I got it all sorted in my head - God doesn't love me for anything I do or don't do. It's all free. Now I work out of joy and gratitude. I feel free and happy and productive.

Typical stress-relievers (e.g. hot baths, long walks, massages) help to relieve tiredness. But if you're truly stressed, if there's something desperately unhappy about your life/work, then you have to look for the root of it.

Mrs. Luther073082 · Jul 1, 2010

septemberskies said:
I don't think I'm dealing with stress too well right now. I had a major melt down today. I took my break, got into my car, and start crying and screaming on the phone to my mom. I frantically drove off to a gas station scared to go back to work... I had to call and let them know I was not coming back from break.

I'm burning out and I feel trapped on this job. I'm holding on because there is not much out there but the stress in literally physically hurting me. Today (or yesterday rather) it felt like someone was grabbing me by the back of my neck and was squeezing me... the pain went to my shoulders and upper back. Freaked me out because I never experienced that. Then people seem to be crowding me and there was no space, my heart was pounding, legs were weak, and i felt disoriented... I know what the meaning of a true panic attack is after today. Now of course I can't sleep, stomach is upset, i'm hungry, and experiencing random pains...

How do you deal?

Is your job in the mental health field? When I did my internship, my professor explained to me that I might feel my reactions to some of the things I was exposed to in my body (backpain, heart pounding, etc). Most of the time I liked interning, but sometimes there were things that were disturbing and I had that pain in my neck and shoulders, too. I usually put a heating pad on that area and it helped me relax.

septemberskies · Jul 1, 2010

surnamednicholas said:
With horrible stress, I usually sleep, cry if I need to, be angry at myself for a bit; reach out to God, then I usually get back into bed and sleep some more.

I tend to feel better, but not good, after sleeping and then I'll try to figure out all the great things God has provided for my life.

I'm sorry you feel so bad, I'd give you a hug if I could; believe me, those work wonders when you're feeling like this.

Grace and peace be upon you Sis.

Thanks hugs always help

lostaquarium said:
Poor thing

Why do you think you feel so stressed at work? I'm sorry if it's a stupid question, but please bear with me. Is it because you're expected to over-achieve? Is it because your coworkers treat you badly? Is it because it's fairly boring and you want to do something else?

Let's put it this way, I work for a very popular online university. I've been there now going on 4 years and i'm considered ancient because most people were fired or quit. There are people who've worked for the prison systems who were hired and they quit after 2 weeks citing "It was better in the prisons!!!"

It's a hostile work environment, admission reps are allowed to scream at you, undermine your expertise even though i'm the one that has the degree and you need a degree to be an academic advisor. People are always in your face (literally). They are talking to you when you are on the phone... I hardly can take a bathroom break without harrassment.

The company dangles carrots and tell us to chase after it and it's not an acheiveable goal. They have us competiting against each other for us to win *drum roll* a chance to keep our jobs! You don't even get to keep the trophies they give you (Indian givers). I train, I'm always in meetings, and I have to fight just to have my PAID holiday off.

I could go on actually and it gets worse....

lostaquarium said:
Surprisingly, I no longer get very stressed, because I figured out the cause of my stresses. In the past, I pressured myself to over-achieve, because subconsciously I was relying on my works for my salvation. I wanted to do really well in my studies because I wanted God to be proud of me. And unless I came top in every class (which I didn't) I got very down on myself, and much of the time I was incredibly, incredibly depressed.

Now I got it all sorted in my head - God doesn't love me for anything I do or don't do. It's all free. Now I work out of joy and gratitude. I feel free and happy and productive.

Typical stress-relievers (e.g. hot baths, long walks, massages) help to relieve tiredness. But if you're truly stressed, if there's something desperately unhappy about your life/work, then you have to look for the root of it.

The root of the stress is the organization is a joke....

Melissa1208 said:
Is your job in the mental health field? When I did my internship, my professor explained to me that I might feel my reactions to some of the things I was exposed to in my body (backpain, heart pounding, etc). Most of the time I liked interning, but sometimes there were things that were disturbing and I had that pain in my neck and shoulders, too. I usually put a heating pad on that area and it helped me relax.

It's a university but it's description and behavior of the people that work there could easily be confused for an insane asylum. I know for sure I am mentally burned out. It's scary.

lostaquarium · Jul 1, 2010

septemberskies said:
Thanks hugs always help

Let's put it this way, I work for a very popular online university. I've been there now going on 4 years and i'm considered ancient because most people were fired or quit. There are people who've worked for the prison systems who were hired and they quit after 2 weeks citing "It was better in the prisons!!!"

It's a hostile work environment, admission reps are allowed to scream at you, undermine your expertise even though i'm the one that has the degree and you need a degree to be an academic advisor. People are always in your face (literally). They are talking to you when you are on the phone... I hardly can take a bathroom break without harrassment.

The company dangles carrots and tell us to chase after it and it's not an acheiveable goal. They have us competiting against each other for us to win *drum roll* a chance to keep our jobs! You don't even get to keep the trophies they give you (Indian givers). I train, I'm always in meetings, and I have to fight just to have my PAID holiday off.

I could go on actually and it gets worse....

The root of the stress is the organization is a joke....

It's a university but it's description and behavior of the people that work there could easily be confused for an insane asylum. I know for sure I am mentally burned out. It's scary.

That sounds so awful. I really sympathise

If I were in that situation I'd try my hardest to find another job. It's not easy in this climate though.

Mrs. Luther073082 · Jul 1, 2010

I would try to find another job, too.

septemberskies · Jul 1, 2010

lostaquarium said:
That sounds so awful. I really sympathise If I were in that situation I'd try my hardest to find another job. It's not easy in this climate though.

Melissa1208 said:
I would try to find another job, too.

I'm working on it... I would even take a pay cut to get out

LadyL · Jul 1, 2010

Sending much hugs and love, sis. That is a tough situation.
I once worked in a very stressful environment and God helped me to deal with it. I ended up going to the ER because I had gotten so stressed out, it caused my allergies to flare all over my body. :sorry:

Don't want that for you, so let's all pray for peace and endurance in the meantime, until God opens doors for you elsewhere.

Hang in there.

Inkachu · Jul 1, 2010

Start doing everything you can to de-stress your life outside of your job. That will make you better equipped to deal with the stress OF your job. Start drinking more water, cut out caffeine, keep the sugar and fat to a minimum, eat plenty of fruits and veggies, get more quality sleep (if you're in bed for 8 hours but you're tossing and turning, that's no good), take a walk or some other form of exercise every day, keep reading your Bible and praying, and if you have a friend or relative that you can vent to, use them!

If you keep having panic attacks, you should call your doctor and ask to be referred to a counselor. There is no reason to let stress rule your life, and there is plenty of help out there.

:hug:

septemberskies · Jul 1, 2010

LadyL said:
Sending much hugs and love, sis. That is a tough situation.
I once worked in a very stressful environment and God helped me to deal with it. I ended up going to the ER because I had gotten so stressed out, it caused my allergies to flare all over my body.

Don't want that for you, so let's all pray for peace and endurance in the meantime, until God opens doors for you elsewhere.

Hang in there.

Thought I was passing out... was scared that they would have to call for help for me (the ambulance is no stranger to my job... people go out on a stretcher a few times a term). I tried to get to my best friend's cube but it felt like a thousand miles away so I went to my car, screamed at my poor mother who couldn't for the life of her understand me, and drove off to a nearby gas station.

I'm going home to visit my parents today.... couldn't go back there. Don't want to lose my job all together because I can't simply hold it together.

It's good to know that other people understand. Thank you

.Vicky. said:
Start doing everything you can to de-stress your life outside of your job. That will make you better equipped to deal with the stress OF your job. Start drinking more water, cut out caffeine, keep the sugar and fat to a minimum, eat plenty of fruits and veggies, get more quality sleep (if you're in bed for 8 hours but you're tossing and turning, that's no good), take a walk or some other form of exercise every day, keep reading your Bible and praying, and if you have a friend or relative that you can vent to, use them!

If you keep having panic attacks, you should call your doctor and ask to be referred to a counselor. There is no reason to let stress rule your life, and there is plenty of help out there.

I'm not opposed to the counselor... I might have to start going seriously. Thanks for the hugs. Means a lot

YoDude · Jul 1, 2010

I muse a lot, and ponder my life often. The summary of my life is a rollercoaster of wrestling demons and reaching out to God, along with monumental worldly highs and lows; currently at age 43 have less fear than I have had my whole life. I feel like a true Pheonix from Ashes, I have nothing to lose, I find this life to be something of a dream, and a temporal journey in a temporal vessel.

This, of course, all comes from the Lord. I have been in transition from Rage about the way the world is to Wisdom in only a few short months, I have sprouted shallow roots many times, but I believe I am finally on fertile soil. I am now finally back in the Word and reading my favorite sections, the Gospels and Proverbs. Without God, I struggle and never find wisdom, or cannot apply it geniunely; With God, I am transformed (wisdom/maturity) at an otherwise impossible rate.

The culmination of all my life experiences are brought together into a single unified and wise understanding of this world, and who I am, through the power of His Holy Spirit and Word. I now seek Wisdom more than any other worldy riches or temporal worldy substitute, none of which can satisfy long term.

Stress, to me, is a product of Fear; we can endure and are capable of so much more than we think. Obviously we have physical and mental limits in this human vessel, but God can strengthen us to endure, overcome, and succeed in life. And, it can happen very quickly, he can transform us instantly, we have to submit, and give our lives to him continually, and become empty vessels for Him, then he can do something with us, otherwise we Fail.

ulu · Jul 1, 2010

I hope it's not one of those online "universities" where the more you pay the "higher" the grades you get.
That would stress anybody with any sense of right and wrong.

BoarderDave · Jul 1, 2010

I dont have an answer for stress aside from the generality that we have to all place all of our trust in God. He will bring you out of this. In the meantime, I suggest any of the things that relax you. Watch a movie, read a book, go to a park, do something that is calming to you.

Nature is what calms me down.. so when Im finding things are really stressful, I start going for bike rides, running, walking, anything I can do that puts me outside and in Gods creation.

Im hoping the best for you! Please keep us informed on how you are doing and know that there are people out here that care about you. God will take care of you, just keep your spirits up! :hug:

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