How do you cherish your wife?

Take time to do things for her, random cards, gifts, etc. listening to her, date nights, we both love PDA so we're really touchy feely with each other, because touch is one of our top love languages, being considerate of one another, she makes it really easy to love her, she always has. we have the same time alllotted for lunch breaks at work so i go over to the daycare every day to eat lunch with her, i bring subway or chinese or something if we dont pack a lunch, etc, etc. and every friday night is date night,

Lot's of little things , and big things too. He does things like, sit so the sun blinds him instead of me at a restaurant. I would never expect that of him, it's just something he does. He likes to open doors for me and such. He gets me flowers pretty often, sometimes for no reason. There are many, many other things too.

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When he buys me a cd or movie I like (he's not a flowers-type person and that's OK!) or brings home a cappuccino the odd times. Even doing dishes without me saying anything.

Now, if only I could get him to do all the laundry for me.... I'd feel super cherished! lol

He shows me he cherishes me in many ways, but when I think of this question certain things stand out in my mind. He worries about me constantly, (for some reason??), thinks he has to protect me from the dangers of the world. He tells me he loves me constantly and kisses me on my head whenever he's in the same vicinity as I. And he takes care of all the dirty, nasty and/or uncomfortable kinds of things that come up in life willingly, with no discussion, all the time.

dorig59 said:

He shows me he cherishes me in many ways, but when I think of this question certain things stand out in my mind. He worries about me constantly, (for some reason??), thinks he has to protect me from the dangers of the world. He tells me he loves me constantly and kisses me on my head whenever he's in the same vicinity as I. And he takes care of all the dirty, nasty and/or uncomfortable kinds of things that come up in life willingly, with no discussion, all the time.

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Yeah, the bolded part is true Of my husband as well. That doesn't mean he tries to control everything I do, but he definitely worries, and protects.

My husband is an "acts of service" loves languages type of guy, so doing things, including working very hard at his job, is the primary way he shows he cherishes me (and our son as well)

He's also worked on my "love language" which is touch and quality time (sometimes an acts of service person can think..."work to be done!" above all else...after all, there usually IS something more to do in a home.) I need the touch and time together and he understands that more now and has really worked hard on it.

I appreciate it all very much.

Helping out around the house, spending time talking and listening and really connecting with me, cuddling me, praying for me and reading with me, showing respect for my feelings.... One of the biggest things he does is paying attention when I mention a change I think would benefit our relationship and then he takes active steps to help change that thing.

These are all great points!!! Seems I have been doing this for years and not realising it. I do dishes, set the table setup coffee and make sure all is ready for when she starts each meal (she loves to cook). When she goes shopping or is out I am usually doing something around the house to make her load lighter. I may be looking for some sort of reward or acknowledgement where is was not really warranted. Thanks for showing me I am doing something right.

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He hasn't been doing a great job at that lately. I'm hoping by me taking the guess work out of it and just telling me the ways he can do so, that will help some. I know he loves me, but it's nice to feel cherished in a marriage.