I'm 28, never even been out on a date, not even one kiss. I am SO horny ALL the time, and God hasn't answered my prayers to do SOMETHING about this. It just keeps building and building...again, what am I supposed to do?
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Hi Circa, thanks for your honesty. I think that a lot of Christian singles are probably in the same boat. I don't have the answers either, but will pray for you as well.
A sister in Christ,
Jess
A sister in Christ,
Jess
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I'm the same way and I'm 30
gosh I wish I knew what I could do too. there are some things I try to abstain from (like watching movies and tv shows which there could be any intimacy in them whatsoever...not any kissing even) and only listening to love songs that are not dirty. or I refrain from entering discussions on forums that talk about boyfriends/girlfriends/sexuality, etc. no way does it eliminate loneliness, but giving into any of those things I mentioned NEVER helps me that's for sure. I guess in Christianity it's not about what is the "easiest" solution but the "least painful."
I'm suffering a lot too from this, and I'm 30.
so yes, we are in the same boat...sort of.
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If it helps, it isn't what you are expecting. Seriously sometimes if you have a partner, the idea of sex just feel bothersome, like some kind of duty to remain normal couples. And I guess this is why Paul mentions that living alone is better then to be married. Because even sex is vanity. And if you miss a partner, try to focus on building a friendship with mutual interests and ideas of life, I've seriously screwed up when it comes to relationships earlier and it hurts more then wanting a new relationship. Hope some of my thoughts from my perspective in this, were of some help. Said a prayer for you to find love.
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You won't get anyone by waiting for a 'magic carpet' delivery. God created us with the capacity to both seek His will and to make responsible, informed decisions. Be a whole, interactive, grounded guy who is good company and make an effort to connect with a suitable woman. There are so many lovely, single women who have real standards looking for guys who can match them. Get out there,and make someone's day.
John
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John
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Hey there!
I agree with Johnnz. Instead of waiting, try to undertake something. Fro example, a close friend of mine participated in volunteer work for school and got acquainted with his future wife! Dont Stop!
I will keep praying for you!
I agree with Johnnz. Instead of waiting, try to undertake something. Fro example, a close friend of mine participated in volunteer work for school and got acquainted with his future wife! Dont Stop!
I will keep praying for you!
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People need to be much more proactive. You can pray all you want for the job but if you don't bother to; look around, call up, go to the interviews or fill out an application form... Guess what, you probably ain't gonna git dat job.
The same goes for dating. It is amazing how the passive ones pray for years, dare I say for decades and yet feel depressed when nothing happen. Some actually blame God. Hey don't blame God if you don't get a job when you are sitting home all day
The same goes for dating. It is amazing how the passive ones pray for years, dare I say for decades and yet feel depressed when nothing happen. Some actually blame God. Hey don't blame God if you don't get a job when you are sitting home all day
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But what am I supposed to do about sexual tension? If masturbation is a sin, what do I do with the lustful thoughts that just build and build, how else do I get rid of them?
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Circa,
"No temptation has seized you except what is common to man. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can stand up under it." - 1 Corinthians 10:13
It's doubtful that God will take away your sexual temptation, but He HAS given us ways to stand up under it. Whether we utilize them or not is up to us. A few quick tips:
Not dwelling on lustful thoughts (aka 'bouncing' your eyes and thoughts) is a helpful technique. Cut off access to things that cause you to stumble, find an accountability partner to help you in this battle, and of course staying prayer and God's word is essential - with Him ALL things are possible.
I highly recommend Setting Captives Free online course on sexual purity:
Way of Purity - Setting Captives Free
And I'm praying for you!
"No temptation has seized you except what is common to man. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can stand up under it." - 1 Corinthians 10:13
It's doubtful that God will take away your sexual temptation, but He HAS given us ways to stand up under it. Whether we utilize them or not is up to us. A few quick tips:
Not dwelling on lustful thoughts (aka 'bouncing' your eyes and thoughts) is a helpful technique. Cut off access to things that cause you to stumble, find an accountability partner to help you in this battle, and of course staying prayer and God's word is essential - with Him ALL things are possible.
I highly recommend Setting Captives Free online course on sexual purity:
Way of Purity - Setting Captives Free
And I'm praying for you!
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God helps those who help themselves. I would suggest visiting a Christian Singles night event. It will help you meet and connect with others who may be in the same boat you are.
God Bless
God Bless
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Circa, why no date all this time? Are you shy? I'll think outside the box with this one. Concentrate on finding a girl, cause at 28, most are marriage material. It's a good time to be "on the market." lol
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I've never had an opportunity. There never was anyone my age in my neighborhood, I went to special Ed schools since the third grade, there never was any girls who were undamaged enough to relate to, and I am disabled, so I can't work. I've also never had any luck at any of the many churches I've been to. Same with friends. I'm so lonely.
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