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Sometimes I just get this overwhelming urge to share things that I have been struggling with or thinking about, so sorry if this seems a bit rantish. This is particularly for the ladies who have experienced insecurity in a relationship, but it can apply to anyone.
It seems like I see/read/hear about someone who is insecure about their boyfriend/fiancee finding other women attractive. As women, we are naturally protective and want our men to have eyes only for us, and when we are confronted with the cruel reality that men still find other women attractive we become jealous or insecure about ourselves. But what I really want to say to these people is, "He's with YOU, not them." There is NOTHING to feel insecure about. When he doesn't want to be with you is when you should start feeling insecure.
Believe me. I've been that girl that he would like to "be with", but not necessarily commit to and it's not fun. It only makes you feel even worse about yourself. So, there's no reason to feel jealous about those girls your guy may ogle at because ultimately they are just an object to him. Nothing more. He doesn't see them as whole people like he does when he looks at you. He doesn't respect them like he does you. So, stop feeling insecure about yourself and start feeling empowered by the fact that YOU are the woman he has chosen to be with, to devote his life to. You are the one to envy in this situation.
It seems like I see/read/hear about someone who is insecure about their boyfriend/fiancee finding other women attractive. As women, we are naturally protective and want our men to have eyes only for us, and when we are confronted with the cruel reality that men still find other women attractive we become jealous or insecure about ourselves. But what I really want to say to these people is, "He's with YOU, not them." There is NOTHING to feel insecure about. When he doesn't want to be with you is when you should start feeling insecure.
Believe me. I've been that girl that he would like to "be with", but not necessarily commit to and it's not fun. It only makes you feel even worse about yourself. So, there's no reason to feel jealous about those girls your guy may ogle at because ultimately they are just an object to him. Nothing more. He doesn't see them as whole people like he does when he looks at you. He doesn't respect them like he does you. So, stop feeling insecure about yourself and start feeling empowered by the fact that YOU are the woman he has chosen to be with, to devote his life to. You are the one to envy in this situation.