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What is it you are looking for in a life partner other than someone to do away with your loneliness?
Someone who I can lift up and encourage to be a better person as well as a stronger Christian, and someone who can do the same for me.
Also, someone who can put up with my complete and totally random mind. It's rather strange, so it'll take a certain special person to be able to handle it. ^_^

What is it that you think you will gain in a relationship with someone other than companionship?
I never really look at relationships as something I "gain"... usually when I'm in a relationship my mind switches over to mostly focusing on them first, and me second. Not to an unhealthy level, mind you, just to where I think about them before I think about me.

Good questions. :thumbsup:
 
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What is it you are looking for in a life partner other than someone to do away with your loneliness?

What God wants for me and what my family (namely, my parents) want for me -- and hence, what I want for myself. I've discovered that these tend to be the same thing, which is funny because for so long, I thought they were different. Not so.

What is it that you think you will gain in a relationship with someone other than companionship?

So much more than I can even think of right now (both positive and not-so-positive things). Relationships are a balance between the comfortable and the at-times uncomfortable; the things worth fighting for and the things worth giving up the fight over.
 
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What is it you are looking for in a life partner other than someone to do away with your loneliness?

What is it that you think you will gain in a relationship with someone other than companionship?
Those seem to be rather defensive questions :confused:

I think that what I was looking for/hoping for in a relationship was lots of different things. The big picture is that I wanted someone to do life with and the details were all worked out by God when He gave me Nathan. Nathan is everything I never knew I wanted or needed in a relationship.

I think people can make lists and probably should make lists of the big things that are dealbreakers but other than that, leave the details to God. He knows best :)
 
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I'm not "expecting" anything per se, but what I would like is someone who can know all the odds and ends of me and still love me (or love me even more because of that). Someone who can put up with me because he certainly needs to be patient to deal with me. Someone who can just understand me and not hold anything against me. If I ever find that person a nearly impossible miracle would have been performed.
 
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I'm expecting a mix of caustic personalities resulting in a whole lot of arguments, shouting and slamming doors.

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Answering seriously. I don't know. My brain still can't get to grips with the concept of living with anyone outside of a friend/housemate situation.
 
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What is it you are looking for in a life partner other than someone to do away with your loneliness?

What is it that you think you will gain in a relationship with someone other than companionship?

Whether I'm single or married, I won't be lonely, I don't reckon. Marriage isn't about what you want or what you can get but what you have to give. But I want to make just one bloke in this world the happiest man alive! I'll be the crown on his head, the joy of his youth, and do nothing other than good to him for all the days of my life! :clap: And if I ever do marry, God help me, but it'll mean that I'll be the fire in his bed as well. :blush: Crikey!

But there are some things that I know will be a benefit in my life. For me, I'll overcome the biggest obstacles in my life that have been a nightmare for so long. I'll have found someone I can trust wholeheartedly where his strength is my resting place. And I'll learn some things about life that I know I can't otherwise learn.
 
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What is it you are looking for in a life partner other than someone to do away with your loneliness?

What is it that you think you will gain in a relationship with someone other than companionship?

I always hate how ppl think that being in a relationship makes you less lonely. You can be in a relationship and feel even more lonely than someone who is single.

Anyway, other than companionship, I don't know lol. It seems that everything I can think of is related to companionship.

I really would like to be with someone who laughs at the same jokes as me tho :sorry:
 
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What is it you are looking for in a life partner other than someone to do away with your loneliness?
Someone to raise kids with. I don’t just want a wife/gf, I want someone to have children with. And I want to be a dad.

What else...
I want someone to better help me understand ME. There are a lot of things, both good AND bad, that I just can’t see in myself, because I’m coming at it from the viewpoint of me. It just is the way I am, and I don’t think about it. I want someone who can show me those flaws and merits so I can become a better or at least more knowledgeable person.

I want someone to help me stretch the edges of my comfort zone, keep me trying new things, keep me from forgetting things I love/loved, to keep me from being complacent.

I want someone to share my sense of humor with ALL THE TIME. All those jokes and puns and whatnot I think of on the spur of the moment, some are with people, some are alone and I can’t share em.

And I know all of these things are ‘I wants’ and can make it sound like I want or need a slave, but the person I wind up wanting overall will be a natural foil to me in these areas. And I a natural foil to her.



What is it that you think you will gain in a relationship with someone other than companionship?

Kids. New outlooks on life and myself. Less wasted time. Becoming cleaner (I tend to be more clean if I have someone to yell at me to clean up, even if they don’t clean up my mess themselves. Case in point: college dorm rooms. They were much better when i was living with a roomie than when I had a single.)

A richer, fuller life.

And kids.

Metherion
 
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Someone to raise kids with. I don’t just want a wife/gf, I want someone to have children with. And I want to be a dad.

What else...
I want someone to better help me understand ME. There are a lot of things, both good AND bad, that I just can’t see in myself, because I’m coming at it from the viewpoint of me. It just is the way I am, and I don’t think about it. I want someone who can show me those flaws and merits so I can become a better or at least more knowledgeable person.

I want someone to help me stretch the edges of my comfort zone, keep me trying new things, keep me from forgetting things I love/loved, to keep me from being complacent.

I want someone to share my sense of humor with ALL THE TIME. All those jokes and puns and whatnot I think of on the spur of the moment, some are with people, some are alone and I can’t share em.

And I know all of these things are ‘I wants’ and can make it sound like I want or need a slave, but the person I wind up wanting overall will be a natural foil to me in these areas. And I a natural foil to her.





Kids. New outlooks on life and myself. Less wasted time. Becoming cleaner (I tend to be more clean if I have someone to yell at me to clean up, even if they don’t clean up my mess themselves. Case in point: college dorm rooms. They were much better when i was living with a roomie than when I had a single.)

A richer, fuller life.

And kids.

Metherion


i just wanted to say that i adore the fact that you want to be a father so much.
i understand completely.
if i am a loving wife & mother one day, i will have considered myself successful.
 
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