Hi all,
I have a conflict that is frustrating me for quite long. I am a very emotional person. I get attached to people very easily and love them to the extent of worship. I suffered from this problem a lot till very lately that I started to get balanced and feel a little bit independent (emotionally I mean).
Sometimes, whenever I start to get attached a bit to someone (more than the expected level I mean), I find anything random happening that makes me get away from him/her. For example, I find the other person repelling for no reason, or find him very busy in personal issues, anything of that sort. I kept wondering why this is happening to me? Why am I everybody's best friend but nobody's lover? People allow me to get near them to a certain level, then they start withdrawing. I thought it's God's message to me not to be so dependent emotionally on people so He can draw my attention to Him.
Then here comes the question that is frustrating me: how are we supposed to live among people? Shall we love them deeply? But this way I get attached. Shall we love them in a superficial level? Then how come God allows us to get married? Marriage relationships contain so much emotional dependencies between the couple. Am I supposed to love God alone (I mean love with emotions) to stop getting attached to people and annoying them and myself?
Please tell me what u think.
Thanks a lot for ur time.
I have a conflict that is frustrating me for quite long. I am a very emotional person. I get attached to people very easily and love them to the extent of worship. I suffered from this problem a lot till very lately that I started to get balanced and feel a little bit independent (emotionally I mean).
Sometimes, whenever I start to get attached a bit to someone (more than the expected level I mean), I find anything random happening that makes me get away from him/her. For example, I find the other person repelling for no reason, or find him very busy in personal issues, anything of that sort. I kept wondering why this is happening to me? Why am I everybody's best friend but nobody's lover? People allow me to get near them to a certain level, then they start withdrawing. I thought it's God's message to me not to be so dependent emotionally on people so He can draw my attention to Him.
Then here comes the question that is frustrating me: how are we supposed to live among people? Shall we love them deeply? But this way I get attached. Shall we love them in a superficial level? Then how come God allows us to get married? Marriage relationships contain so much emotional dependencies between the couple. Am I supposed to love God alone (I mean love with emotions) to stop getting attached to people and annoying them and myself?
Please tell me what u think.
Thanks a lot for ur time.