Disrespectful treatment

Willseeker

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I need advice...

The place i work at is filled with a lot of spiritualists and unbelievers, in which case i feel that i'm called to be a witness to the Glory of God in Christ...

I dated a guy who also work here a few months ago, but due to his unbelief and following of most things that leads a person away from God, our relationship didn't work out. I feel lead to pray for him, while setting an example by letting Christ's love shine through me...

Lately he's treating me in an extremely disrespectful and rude manner concerning matters pertaining to work (since we don't really interact on a personal/social level anymore) But how do i handle this???

What do i do to stop him being rude, obnoxious and derogatory in all our interactions? Ignoring him or returning the treatment crossed my mind, but somehow i feel it's not an accurate representation of Christ's character...

Any advice/help/suggestions?:confused:
 

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I have dealt with many people who treated me disrespectfully in the past, even members of my own family. This is how I handled it:
God tells us to love everyone, pray for our enemies, and let God's light shine through us. It sounds like you're doing a great job and following the right path so far. God also tells us that if we have a problem with our brother to go to that person in a loving manner. I suggest you pray and see if you feel led by the Holy Spirit to talk to him about his treatment of you...
His reaction is not your responsibility. You are showing him love by talking to him; by trying to resolve a problem with another of God's children. I would suggest starting by telling him the things you like about him as a person and pointing out his behavior in a very nice way in case he is not aware of it. Be as positive as possible. You don't even have to bring up God, just be the example. Then ask what you can do to make eachother more comfortable at work. You will either shock him by your niceness or you will get his hackles up. Either way, you'll be dealing with this problem the way God instructs us to.
This has worked with me most of the time. Other times I've had to endure the mistreatment. In those cases, a lot of the time my prayers have been answered by the person not being able to continue mistreating someone who shows them kindness.
I hope this made sense as I'm sick and not feeling well. You're in my prayers!
 
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I dated a guy who also works with me

Just for advice sake, never date your co-workers. However, thats not for me to decide; in an office environment, professionalism, dedication and profitability are the keys to success. The Father has placed you in that environment for the Son's Glory. Women generally make this mistake as they are "looking for a husband". Let the Father provide you with a mate. If you are taking in Bible Doctrine on a daily basis, praying and leading the Christian Way of Life, the Father will provide you with the man you need to be with.

Regarding his ill treatment of you - accept it - and respond with Christian love, regardless how awful that treatment may be (unless it is violent). Comments can (and will be) hurtful. Respond with love for Christ.

In Christ,
Brother Mark
 
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God calls us to love no matter what. Pray and ask God for his advice on how to handle the situation. Maybe somewhere deep in his heart he knows you are right, but he's scared and doesn't know how to handle being near you so he's rude to you. Also, we must leave room for God to judge the wicked. So, forgive him and let God handle the rest.
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Thank you for your responses to my puzzlement... I think the Holy Spirit lead me to feel that showing God's love is the way to go, but somehow, spending too much time considering what the world says ("do not show love to an ex boyfriend!") left me confused.

Thanks for bringing the guidance and confirmation...

God bless!
 
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