Snooping in your kids stuff,Do u think it's okay,Or not?

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My philosophy is, and my son has been told this while still in elementary school, that his space is his space as long as he doesn't give me a reason to go looking through his stuff. He doesn't have a MySpace or Facebook yet but our computer is in the living room and he already knows I look over his shoulder when he is using the computer from time to time.

I would rather have a kid hate me because I went throgh his stuff when I suspected a drug, alcohol, sexual, or bullying problem than to have a kid who thinks I am the best but is dead.
 
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I don't think it's o.k to go snoop through your child's things, unless you really suspect something wrong is going on but not because they are growing up and don't want to share as many stuff as they did with you when they were younger.

My mom used to snoop in my room in my personal belongings alot and the more she did it the less I trusted her and the less I told her.
 
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It's my house, so if I feel that I need to go through one of my kids' stuff, I will. If they don't give me any reason to, I won't. If they're acting suspicious, I will. It's my job to take care of my kids and to watch out for them~ and since God will be asking me why I did this or didn't do that... I better have good answers. ;)
 
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My kids are young. Their stuff is my stuff. As they grow, I might choose to respect some privacy for the most part -- but I'll probably snoop if I have suspicions, or just as a 'spot check'. I won't make a big deal out of anything I find out though, unless it really warrants it. I wouldn't try to speak directly to the small issues that such things usually centre around.
 
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I will have passwords to all social networking sites and emails. If I suspect anything is off with my child, I will not hesitate to go looking. The people I know who got into the most trouble as teens were the ones whose parents did not adequately supervise them.
 
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Snooping in your kids stuff,Do u think it's okay,Or not?I talking about there personal letter,Journals,Or personal space.It seens tacky to ,me to do it,But what would make it,Or not.Thanks!
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Absolutely.
Without a second hesitation.


They are in my care and I'm not, firstly, their friend. I need to know what's going on and if there is anything harmful that can be prevented. They can thank me later when they have their own children.

I really hope that I can be a parent that they can come to about anything, at any time. It's a fine line in trying to establish a line between "trustworthy parent" and "friend". So, I would hope I would never feel the need to go through their stuff, but I'm not against it. There's just too much "evil" out there these days that draw our kids in. I don't want to be one of those parents that wish they had known what was going on in their personal lives. Nothing against the other view and my heart goes out to anyone who's been in that situation, but that's why I stand where I do, on this.
 
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I wouldn't 'snoop', because that implies sneaking behind their back... I am planning (and hoping it works out) that we will have a policy of sharing information, and we will have email passwords etc. My kids will not have a lot of privacy, so I will not have to snoop.

I would not read a private journal without permission, unless I thought they were truly at risk and it was a serious situation.
 
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