Should I let go & Let God?!?

AmeriLovesJesus · Mar 30, 2010

Lately Ive been clinging to everything & everyone in my life & I cannot live my life & grow right holding on. Ive become obsessive & extremely depressed. I am having a very hard time letting go of the past... Ive lost some dear to me to death & had some seriously traumatizing experiences... I want to get better & live my life...

Lately however Ive been very very clingy to everything in my life.. & I wont let go. I am afraid if I let go I will never see these people again. Something terrible will happen to them & I wont be there to be with them... Its only destroying my relationships...

Social Networking is where I stay in contact with them & on and off these past few months Ive debated on deleting it because I feel this clinging Im doing is stunting my growth... & only making me feel worse.. I am stuck..

I have someone in my life who is in and out of my life.. I need to let him go right now.. Hes such a great person & very compassionate.. but like I said before Im afraid of losing people.. I cannot talk to him about this..

Id prefer to just remove my page & Let God handle the rest... There are a lot of family members on there who I dont want to part from but Ive lost myself through this obsession that I need to really for awhile distance myself from them & put my life back on track with God...

Im fighting for constant attention & seeking constant advice from people.. that there is no room for me to hear God..

im terrified of coming off rude but I think I already burned some bridges right now... That the proof of any kind of positive change in my life would be action & not words...

I just need this time with God.. but Im terrified of being alone..

Christsdaughter · Mar 30, 2010

Not too long ago, I struggled with what you are now struggling with. I decided to shut my computer off except for at nighttime and maybe once during the day (during my kids' naptime). The social network is my main connection to other people because I live alone with my 1 yr old and 3 year old. I am married but my husband is deployed to Afghanistan and I have no friends. I mean I do have my family, but I still feel so alone and struggle with wanting to be accepted. Keeping the computer shut down really helped me bc then I wasn't constantly distracted with wanting to walk by the computer to see if I had any verifications in my email. As a result, I spent more time in prayer with God bc I was going to Him instead of to Facebook when I felt lonely or down AND I spent more time with my kids! It was great! Now I don't feel obsessed with it. I still get on once maybe twice a day to see what ppl are up to since that is how you find out anything about anyone these days (even family members). You might try that, too!

heron · Mar 30, 2010

People will understand if you just phase out a little, and you're not on it every day. If they don't understand, then they are more dependent than you.

It's okay to be light on yourself when you've gone through losses. It is normal for the body and mind to react that way -- preparing for another potential loss after enduring one. That is how we are wired.

Christians tell each other they should be stoic (not in those words), when there aren't scriptural rules for being that hard on yourself.

Jewish mourning practices took months (and still do), and family was even allowed a year to mourn the loss of a loved one. They didn't have that social pressure of "aren't you over that yet?" because they built that respect for people they loved into the practices.

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But as Christsdaughter said (she's always full of good insight), it's good to have time with God. Sometimes we miss out when we fill our minds and time.

There will be times when people will need you, for real. Remember how you are feeling right now, and use the memory to help other people get through.

AmeriLovesJesus · Mar 31, 2010

Thank you both of you!

I really think I am going to delete it or at least have my sister deactivate it & change the password for me so only she has it... Then when Im ready to go back on I will.. I will give it the night to think about it...

Ive been mourning for a year now.. Its been hard getting over it my family was pressuring to get over it & with all the other changes that went on... I went through a period where I was questioning life & became extremely fearful of death... Like terribly fearful... I had no one to really talk to about it.. I wasnt working either so it wasnt easy to just snap out of it.. At least with work I could occupy my mind or something..

I have a lot of stress on my mind... & not much support from people I live with..

I really want to get through this & have my life back & have a positive outlook on my life.. instead of waking up everyday with this doomed feeling.

Thank you for your advice!!

I do hope I get better... soon..

annrobert · Mar 31, 2010

AmeriLovesJesus said:
Lately Ive been clinging to everything & everyone in my life & I cannot live my life & grow right holding on. Ive become obsessive & extremely depressed. I am having a very hard time letting go of the past... Ive lost some dear to me to death & had some seriously traumatizing experiences... I want to get better & live my life...

Lately however Ive been very very clingy to everything in my life.. & I wont let go. I am afraid if I let go I will never see these people again. Something terrible will happen to them & I wont be there to be with them... Its only destroying my relationships...

Social Networking is where I stay in contact with them & on and off these past few months Ive debated on deleting it because I feel this clinging Im doing is stunting my growth... & only making me feel worse.. I am stuck..

I have someone in my life who is in and out of my life.. I need to let him go right now.. Hes such a great person & very compassionate.. but like I said before Im afraid of losing people.. I cannot talk to him about this..

Id prefer to just remove my page & Let God handle the rest... There are a lot of family members on there who I dont want to part from but Ive lost myself through this obsession that I need to really for awhile distance myself from them & put my life back on track with God...

Im fighting for constant attention & seeking constant advice from people.. that there is no room for me to hear God..

im terrified of coming off rude but I think I already burned some bridges right now... That the proof of any kind of positive change in my life would be action & not words...

I just need this time with God.. but Im terrified of being alone..

Hi there,

God understands pain and He cares.
I am sorry to hear the suffering you have been through.
Time alone with Jesus is wonderful and Jesus gives us strength and comfort and healing.
However I do not think you need to part from family members,to take time with Jesus.You can reduce time with them for awhile as you seek Jesus face and help.But I do not think you need to part with them.
You are not coming off rude here,at all, just looking for help.
I hope you receive lots of help here and I pray Jesus comfort and heal you.

annrobert · Mar 31, 2010

AmeriLovesJesus said:
Thank you both of you!

I really think I am going to delete it or at least have my sister deactivate it & change the password for me so only she has it... Then when Im ready to go back on I will.. I will give it the night to think about it...

That is a great idea if you need that,and take as long as you need.

Ive been mourning for a year now..

As long as you need to,allow yourself time to heal.

Its been hard getting over it my family was pressuring to get over it & with all the other changes that went on... I went through a period where I was questioning life & became extremely fearful of death... Like terribly fearful... I had no one to really talk to about it.. I wasnt working either so it wasnt easy to just snap out of it.. At least with work I could occupy my mind or something..

Sounds like you have been through much grief and sorrow.I hope you find someone you can talk to,or a therapist possibly to help you.

I have a lot of stress on my mind... & not much support from people I live with..

I really want to get through this & have my life back & have a positive outlook on my life.. instead of waking up everyday with this doomed feeling.

Thank you for your advice!!

I do hope I get better... soon..

I hope you get well soon.

wayfaring man · Apr 1, 2010

Grace & Peace in Christ ,

As people we can only do so much for each other , and none of us is going to be around , ( in our current habitation ) for long . This trial came upon us ( humanity ) because we doubted God and His Word , which led to believing the serpent's lie . But through Christ we now have the opportunity to experience genuine faith and forgiveness , which brightens our future so profoundly that we become more affected by what shall be , than we are by what has been - this is the nature of our Salvation . Rejoice and be glad . Sing praise and give thanks . For Christ has redeemed you and your Heavenly Father has confirmed His undying love for your soul .

Spend more time meditating on God's Word + less time mulling over the remarks + comments of everyone else .

And May The Lord Be Pleased to Bless & Inspire !

wm

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