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Thanks for your thoughts.

Do you feel that any of the romantic ones desire intimacy, if not for sex? Other forms of physical touch like kissing, cuddling, et cetera?

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From what I hear, yes. I can summon one if you like to explain the difference between the aromantics and the romantics.. they don't see that stuff as especially sexual.

Do the varied misconceptions about asexuality irritate you?

Yeah, but the worst part is that you have to hide it because nobody REALLY believes you.
 
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This question was already kind of answered, so I'm sorry if this is redundant, but I'm curious, so: is it strictly the sexual stuff or is it just romance in general? Like... could you conceivably have a relationship with someone or is that not really within possibility?
 
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Yeah, but the worst part is that you have to hide it because nobody REALLY believes you.

I believe you and I feel that I can better empathize because at one point I thought I was asexual. However my lack of a sex drive was due to medical reasons. I'm not saying its the same thing at all. What I am saying is I know exactly what its like to have no sexual interest in your partner or anyone else.
 
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This question was already kind of answered, so I'm sorry if this is redundant, but I'm curious, so: is it strictly the sexual stuff or is it just romance in general? Like... could you conceivably have a relationship with someone or is that not really within possibility?

Yeah, I'm pretty stable emotionally and laid back, I've had girlfriends before.

New years? Nothing. :p
 
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I also felt asexual for a very long time. I never felt any "spark" until I was almost 25. Even then it took awhile for me to get over the "icky" vibes and feel at all comfortable with the idea of sexuality, affection and vulnerability. There were a lot of things I considered kind of boring or gross at first. And it was really scary to be dating someone.
Eventually all that passed, because I loved him and do love him, but if we end up going our separate ways (god forbid...) I think it's possible I would have the same issues all over again.
Anyway, I think sexuality is a very broad category and think that asexuality does exist in varying degrees. Romantic v. aromantic, people who are repulsed by sex and people who are indifferent to it....I also think many people can learn to enjoy it with somebody they love, but are totally turned off by the idea of doing it with strangers or people they don't care about (I would fall in this category). I am very comfortable with my SO now, but the thought of sex with other people brings back the old "ew" thoughts. I can find people physically attractive, but have no sexual desire towards anybody but my bf.

OP, do you think you will ever want to "experiment" with your (a)sexuality? Do you wonder if it is possible you might find someone you would feel comfortable having sex with? Or do you think your sexuality (or lack thereof) is firmly set at this point?
 
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Become a great thinker! You are not distracted by what others fall prey to!

Heh, if humans spent half the time they spend on sexual appeal on actual work, we would have a renewable, low cost gasoline substitute and the solution to global diplomacy.
 
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Become a great thinker! You are not distracted by what others fall prey to!

Heh, if humans spent half the time they spend on sexual appeal on actual work, we would have a renewable, low cost gasoline substitute and the solution to global diplomacy.

Existential good for nothing, I love it!
Good idea.
 
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Ooh, what a wonderful thread! Bless you for making this. Hopefully people aren't too rude; I run a general LGBT support group on another site, and one of our mini-sisters is an asexuality group, and whoo...some of the things that get posted in there nearly knock me over. P:
 
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How do you know you're asexual? I'm not questioning that you are, just wondering how someone/anyone comes to realise that they're asexual.

Do you not imagine yourself having sex, but can still get turned on by inappropriate content etc.? I mean, do you feel a basic sexual urge but still don't want sexual intimacy personally?

I feel a bit bad asking, so sorry if these are rude! I'm just wondering more than anything else because I reckon I can relate.
 
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