I need some advice!

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hello. :wave:
i was just needing some opinions.
this boy at my church is always staring at me..
i have only been saved for about 4 months, but even before that he would still look at me.
now that i am saved, he stares at me more & doesn't really look away if i notice him like he would do before.
our pastor has been preaching on the right way to go about getting married, and he says that you shouldn't let the girl your praying about know that you like her because you could end up defrauding her.
we don't really talk because you can't really be friends with a boy without it leading to something else.
i really like this guy, and i was just wondering if you all think he likes me?
if you need more details just ask me.

thanks,
Brittany! :pink:

 
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hello. :wave:
i was just needing some opinions.
this boy at my church is always staring at me..
i have only been saved for about 4 months, but even before that he would still look at me.
now that i am saved, he stares at me more & doesn't really look away if i notice him like he would do before.
our pastor has been preaching on the right way to go about getting married, and he says that you shouldn't let the girl your praying about know that you like her because you could end up defrauding her.
we don't really talk because you can't really be friends with a boy without it leading to something else.
i really like this guy, and i was just wondering if you all think he likes me?
if you need more details just ask me.

thanks,
Brittany! :pink:



If he stares at you all the time, he definitely likes you.

Why not go to talk to him.
 
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He likes you. If you're interested in him then smile at him when he stares. If you don't want anything bad to happen in a relationship, then set up boundaries. You don't have to NOT enter any relationships to avoid trouble though! Or you'll be miserable your entire life.
 
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i'm afraid that if i start talking to him and it turns out that he does like me, that it will lead to something not good.

i guess that sounds kinda weird. LOL!
:D

Reality is love is meant to be two ways and eternal.

One has to be focused on that and not the flesh: it is about a relationship and kids and a life together. That is where the real deepness of romance comes from. People destroy it when they get into the flesh about it and throw all of that - and each other, and their future - away.
 
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Reality is love is meant to be two ways and eternal.

One has to be focused on that and not the flesh: it is about a relationship and kids and a life together. That is where the real deepness of romance comes from. People destroy it when they get into the flesh about it and throw all of that - and each other, and their future - away.

that is so true!
thanks for the advice :)
 
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hello. :wave:
i was just needing some opinions.
this boy at my church is always staring at me..
i have only been saved for about 4 months, but even before that he would still look at me.
now that i am saved, he stares at me more & doesn't really look away if i notice him like he would do before.
our pastor has been preaching on the right way to go about getting married, and he says that you shouldn't let the girl your praying about know that you like her because you could end up defrauding her.
we don't really talk because you can't really be friends with a boy without it leading to something else.
i really like this guy, and i was just wondering if you all think he likes me?
if you need more details just ask me.

thanks,
Brittany! :pink:

Why do you like the guy? Just curious
 
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Yeah he likes you. Perhaps you could send a smile his way the next time you find him staring at you. I don't suppose your church has youth activities that you can both go to, where you can just have fun and not worry. I recommend reading by Joshua Harris, when I first read it, probably around your age, I didn't really like the no dating part but it did make a lot of sense.

pastor has been preaching on the right way to go about getting married, and he says that you shouldn't let the girl your praying about know that you like her because you could end up defrauding her.

By the way, I'm not really sure what this means :confused:
 
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hello. :wave:
i was just needing some opinions.
this boy at my church is always staring at me..
i have only been saved for about 4 months, but even before that he would still look at me.
now that i am saved, he stares at me more & doesn't really look away if i notice him like he would do before.
our pastor has been preaching on the right way to go about getting married, and he says that you shouldn't let the girl your praying about know that you like her because you could end up defrauding her.
we don't really talk because you can't really be friends with a boy without it leading to something else.
i really like this guy, and i was just wondering if you all think he likes me?
if you need more details just ask me.

thanks,
Brittany! :pink:



Yes, sounds like definitely.

Go and talk to him.

Sounds like he is shy.


Guys at that age can often be shy and need a more aggressive female to just go and start a conversation. Just starting conversations and friendship is all you need to do.

(As you both clearly like each other.)

Don't worry about where the road will end up. You have no idea. Tomorrow is another day, one never knows. Such fears are based on assumptions of what tomorrow will bring and can prevent one from doing what is right.



EDIT: the server was messed up last night, and none of the other threads appeared.

Hence, my double post... why this was dregged up from two months ago, I am not sure.
 
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Not doing anything will be (I feel) more destructive. He is a distraction right now and I don't see how you can concentrate on the service with him acting like that. It would be better to approach him and find out why he keeps looking back (he may not be looking at you, don't read too much into it).

you shouldn't let the girl your praying about know that you like her because you could end up defrauding her.
^ that absolutely makes no sense.
 
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