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Ladies, how would you feel about this?
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Interestingly enough, I have little problem with depictions of nudity or sex in non-photographic works. But the instant I can see that it's real actors and not just a drawing or painting, I do start having issues with it.
I think it's because I generally don't care for the sorts of movies that dabble in that heavily in the first place, whereas other types of media I consume do feature it at a fair rate - and since that largely comes by the animation/live action divide, I can often look past it in animation (not to mention the fact that being attracted to cartoon characters is creepy and so there's an automatic mental block in place there that I can't ever imagine myself crossing or even getting close to crossing). Not to say I'm desensitized to erotica, because I'm not, but I see quite a huge difference in how far one has to go to fall into that trap - animation or not.
I think it's because I generally don't care for the sorts of movies that dabble in that heavily in the first place, whereas other types of media I consume do feature it at a fair rate - and since that largely comes by the animation/live action divide, I can often look past it in animation (not to mention the fact that being attracted to cartoon characters is creepy and so there's an automatic mental block in place there that I can't ever imagine myself crossing or even getting close to crossing). Not to say I'm desensitized to erotica, because I'm not, but I see quite a huge difference in how far one has to go to fall into that trap - animation or not.
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latteda
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It bothers me. It's not even so much a moral issue as the fact that I know that he can't see that and *not* be turned on by it. I am uncomfortable with my boyfriend being turned on by women who are meant to seduce. Obviously that will happen unintentionally at times but I'd prefer it not to happen if it can be avoided. I have never asked him not to watch a movie with nudity in it, but if we watch a movie together that does in the past we have turned away and talked to each other instead. If he is seeing it alone or with other guys, it would save me some hurt if I knew he would turn away on his own.
That may not be the "confident" female response, but that is absolute truth for me personally. It probably will never NOT bother me to some degree.
That may not be the "confident" female response, but that is absolute truth for me personally. It probably will never NOT bother me to some degree.
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I don't know. I really dug "The 5th Element". Not rated R (I think), Milla Jojojojojovich(sp) is almost nude in it, and that scene had nothing to do with my opinion of the movie.
Take that scene out and the movie still works for me.
Just an example. I mean, we can't make a broad assumption about all movies just due to a few scenes.
And if I remember correctly, Braveheart had nudity in it. Still a good movie despite the weiners.
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Tamara224
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This.
I hate it when a good movie is ruined by a gratuitous sex scene or nudity. I'll still watch the movie, and like it, but it always leaves me feeling disappointed. And, I avert my eyes or fast forward.
I would have a lot of respect for a man who averted his eyes, too. Not because I asked him to but because he is being careful about what he looks at. That's a mark of maturity and class in my books.
FTR, I don't like movies with a lot of violence in them, either. If I had to choose between a movie with a sex scene and a movie with a guts and gore, I'd choose the sex scene. There are several movies that people have told me are wonderful that I have no desire to see because I know they're violent (e.g. Inglorious Basterds).
But generally I stay away from R rated movies these days. I used to not care but more and more lately I realize that I just don't want to see it, it doesn't entertain me.
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welshman
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This is what God thinks...
Psalm 101:3 "I will set no wicked thing before mine eyes: I hate the work of them that turn aside; it shall not cleave to me."
I would have major problems with my other half watching movies that had nudity or sexual scense and being okay with it.
I understand totally many films that are excellent have some nudity in them. If that is the case, that means skipping the sexual stuff in the film. The Lord wouldn't want me to look at that stuff. I don't buy into this "tasteful" sex scenes or nudity at all.
I wouldn't watch a film that had needless gore in it either. That is just as damaging to take in as a child of God as sexual scenes.
Psalm 101:3 "I will set no wicked thing before mine eyes: I hate the work of them that turn aside; it shall not cleave to me."
I would have major problems with my other half watching movies that had nudity or sexual scense and being okay with it.
I understand totally many films that are excellent have some nudity in them. If that is the case, that means skipping the sexual stuff in the film. The Lord wouldn't want me to look at that stuff. I don't buy into this "tasteful" sex scenes or nudity at all.
I wouldn't watch a film that had needless gore in it either. That is just as damaging to take in as a child of God as sexual scenes.
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This.
I hate it when a good movie is ruined by a gratuitous sex scene or nudity. I'll still watch the movie, and like it, but it always leaves me feeling disappointed. And, I avert my eyes or fast forward.
I would have a lot of respect for a man who averted his eyes, too. Not because I asked him to but because he is being careful about what he looks at. That's a mark of maturity and class in my books.
FTR, I don't like movies with a lot of violence in them, either. If I had to choose between a movie with a sex scene and a movie with a guts and gore, I'd choose the sex scene. There are several movies that people have told me are wonderful that I have no desire to see because I know they're violent (e.g. Inglorious Basterds).
But generally I stay away from R rated movies these days. I used to not care but more and more lately I realize that I just don't want to see it, it doesn't entertain me.
I have no problem with nudity in movies, or other people seeing nudity in movies. Realistically, most nude scenes are not more than a few moments and are not graphic enough to get turned on (e.g. Quills, The Reader, even Titanic). While female nudity is generally more "acceptable" than male nudity, I've seen movies with male nudity in them. I certainly don't believe that nudity or sexual scenes in movies are cause for concern. It's not like it's a "gateway drug" that will lead the viewer to be a inappropriate content addict.
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I don't care - geez I like some movies with female nudity in them, what does that make me?
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What gets me is the double-standard when it comes to this stuff. When a man's genitals or backside shows on-film, it's a big to-do. When a woman's breasts are showing or a backside or several are shown, it's like 
or "here we go again.." 
or "wow... she works out, hrm" 
I get that the female body is beautiful and sensual and all that (I have one, too). But, it's like we view male's bodies as more utilitarian and take the beauty right out of it by demonizing its nudity or make ridiculous comments, even when we view it in art (in this case, in film). It's like they figure a lot more hetero men go to or view movies a lot more than anyone else. But I guess that makes sense considering the vast majority of nudity seen in movies these days is purely obligatory and has little to nothing to do with artistic expression, plot or sentimentality.
Sorry, that might be a bit of a tangent, but that irks me. I can't recall a perfect example of this at the moment, but I remember seeing a movie where there was some "love scene" and the woman - of course - was fully nude, but the man's lower body was totally covered!
Really?
or "here we go again.." or "wow... she works out, hrm" I get that the female body is beautiful and sensual and all that (I have one, too). But, it's like we view male's bodies as more utilitarian and take the beauty right out of it by demonizing its nudity or make ridiculous comments, even when we view it in art (in this case, in film). It's like they figure a lot more hetero men go to or view movies a lot more than anyone else. But I guess that makes sense considering the vast majority of nudity seen in movies these days is purely obligatory and has little to nothing to do with artistic expression, plot or sentimentality.
Sorry, that might be a bit of a tangent, but that irks me. I can't recall a perfect example of this at the moment, but I remember seeing a movie where there was some "love scene" and the woman - of course - was fully nude, but the man's lower body was totally covered!
Really?
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What gets me is the double-standard when it comes to this stuff. When a man's genitals or backside shows on-film, it's a big to-do. When a woman's breasts are showing or a backside or several are shown, it's like
I get that the female body is beautiful and sensual and all that (I have one, too). But, it's like we view male's bodies as more utilitarian and take the beauty right out of it by demonizing its nudity or make ridiculous comments, even when we view it in art (in this case, in film). It's like they figure a lot more hetero men go to or view movies a lot more than anyone else. But I guess that makes sense considering the vast majority of nudity seen in movies these days is purely obligatory and has little to nothing to do with artistic expression, plot or sentimentality.
Sorry, that might be a bit of a tangent, but that irks me. I can't recall a perfect example of this at the moment, but I remember seeing a movie where there was some "love scene" and the woman - of course - was fully nude, but the man's lower body was totally covered!
I hate to generalize, but I think that generally, women are more okay with seeing other women naked in a movie, then men are okay with seeing other men naked in a movie. Why is that? I don't know, but that seems to be the general opinion.
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As a guy, I'll agree with a few others in that I would only have a problem with it if she was lusting after someone particular in the film. Most romance and sex scenes in movies seem obligatory and fake to me and as such they are usually a minor annoyance.
Nudity doesn't bother me either - it depends on the context and how it's portrayed. For instance - watching nude people in a concentration camp doing forced excercise and medical examination in the film "Schindler's list" elicits more shame than anything - shame at the lack of decency and humanity.
When I read the OP one of the first things that came to mind was the movie "Boogie Nights" - which I watched as a young man in the theater. I walked in alone and quite a few people (couples, I'm guessing, it was dark) snickered. It's an "R" movie that takes a frank look at the inappropriate content industry of the late 70's early 80's that is about as close as you can get to X rated while not being.
By the end of the movie - I felt justified - and no one was snickering - because while there was plenty of sex scenes and nudity - it was just about the biggest turn-off there is insofar as sexuality was concerned. And - it was a good movie - not for the sex - but for the story and characters and jarring look at some of the lives people in this industry lead.
Nudity doesn't bother me either - it depends on the context and how it's portrayed. For instance - watching nude people in a concentration camp doing forced excercise and medical examination in the film "Schindler's list" elicits more shame than anything - shame at the lack of decency and humanity.
When I read the OP one of the first things that came to mind was the movie "Boogie Nights" - which I watched as a young man in the theater. I walked in alone and quite a few people (couples, I'm guessing, it was dark) snickered. It's an "R" movie that takes a frank look at the inappropriate content industry of the late 70's early 80's that is about as close as you can get to X rated while not being.
By the end of the movie - I felt justified - and no one was snickering - because while there was plenty of sex scenes and nudity - it was just about the biggest turn-off there is insofar as sexuality was concerned. And - it was a good movie - not for the sex - but for the story and characters and jarring look at some of the lives people in this industry lead.
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Women are more okay with it partly because we've had no choice but to deal with it. I think men will/should just get used to equal nakey time. A part of me loves it when I hear that a man's butt (or whatever) is shown in a movie because it seems more fair that way. I guess I'm all about equal opportunity nakedness.
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Tamara224
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It's because women aren't as visual. We don't store those images in our brains and have them pop back up later on. We aren't as much turned on or off by images.
Female nudity in a movie is going to ...er, excite... a lot of men but not many women. Male nudity in a movie is going to 'excite' a very small portion of men and not many women and will actually turn off a fair number of both men and women.
I don't think I'd call it a double standard so much as good marketing.
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white dove
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Historia said:A part of me loves it when I hear that a man's butt (or whatever) is shown in a movie because it seems more fair that way. I guess I'm all about equal opportunity nakedness.
Me, too! I feel like.. "there's a shot for all the females!"
Tamara224 said:
I respectfully disagree with those statements. Many women are just as visual as most men, especially in this day and age. However, I feel as though I've beaten that horse with you before, so...
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Honestly, I think this dual standard is because society is till male dominated.
And it has always been male dominated, and I am sort of suspicious that there are genetic/natural/etc reasons for this. You will find even dominant women here look for an even more dominant man.
Women spend a lot more time trying to please men in sexy fashion than guys to please women. On the otherhand, men spend a lot more time trying to be good providers while that is generally not even a factor in a woman's consideration in trying to win a man.
JM
And it has always been male dominated, and I am sort of suspicious that there are genetic/natural/etc reasons for this. You will find even dominant women here look for an even more dominant man.
Women spend a lot more time trying to please men in sexy fashion than guys to please women. On the otherhand, men spend a lot more time trying to be good providers while that is generally not even a factor in a woman's consideration in trying to win a man.
JM
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