Ultimate Conflict for a Mother

InHisSpirit · Jul 1, 2009

So here it is.

A mother has two children, one whom is special needs. Both under the age of 10. The mother has kidney disease and almost did not survive last labor. She had her tubes tied to prevent pregnancy. however, after a few years it seems that one of the tubes has grown back. This means she is pregnant again. Here is the dilemma my friend is having. Try to carry the baby and risk losing her and the child's life or terminate through a hysterectomy. The drs. said her kidneys would be gone by now and they are not, but it was the last birth that caused them to begin to fail. What do I tell her. What should she do?

desmalia · Jul 1, 2009

I am so sorry for your friend. That is a horrible heart breaking situation.
If I may ask, is she married? If so, this has to be a decision they make together. Obviously there are no easy answers. Also, does she go to church? Pastoral counseling is so important here.

-~Truth_N_Trust~- · Jul 1, 2009

great answer des, this is such a difficult situation where pastoral care is really needed. Is your friend a Christian?

So I guess to answer your question What should she do? Pray, seek spiritual/pastoral support, seek a second medical opinion, pray some more...

Auntie · Jul 1, 2009

InHisSpirit said:
So here it is.

A mother has two children, one whom is special needs. Both under the age of 10. The mother has kidney disease and almost did not survive last labor. She had her tubes tied to prevent pregnancy. however, after a few years it seems that one of the tubes has grown back. This means she is pregnant again. Here is the dilemma my friend is having. Try to carry the baby and risk losing her and the child's life or terminate through a hysterectomy. The drs. said her kidneys would be gone by now and they are not, but it was the last birth that caused them to begin to fail. What do I tell her. What should she do?

First, tell her to pray for God's mercy.
Second, tell her to carry the child as long as possible.

Tell me her first name and I will pray for her and her baby.
There is always hope.

InHisSpirit · Jul 1, 2009

She is married and his opinion is he wants her. He doesn't want to take the risk. He has reminded her she has children here who need her. Yes, she is a christian and that is why this is so difficult. Her pastor and his wife are great friends of hers and so far the pastor's wife has said she needs to remember especially the special needs child needs her. her name is Marie.

PreachersWife2004 · Jul 2, 2009

InHisSpirit said:
She is married and his opinion is he wants her. He doesn't want to take the risk. He has reminded her she has children here who need her. Yes, she is a christian and that is why this is so difficult. Her pastor and his wife are great friends of hers and so far the pastor's wife has said she needs to remember especially the special needs child needs her. her name is Marie.

it saddens me that both her husband and the pastor's wife seem to only focus on the children that are already born. Her child in her womb needs her as well.

She needs to put this in God's hands and continue her pregnancy, taking every precaution necessary to help take the pregnancy to term. With the medical advances we've been seeing, they can do a great deal to keep her stable and comfortable during her pregnancy. But it requires effort and a lot of work.

Floatingaxe · Jul 2, 2009

I believe that nothing takes God by surprise. He knows that baby intimately already. I believe that Marie and her husband are being tested in their faith. God is able to heal this entire situation for this couple He loves. This is one of those mountains that He will move by our faith.

I will pray for Marie and for this child.

Cris413 · Jul 2, 2009

praying for Marie and her family

-~Truth_N_Trust~- · Jul 2, 2009

Is her husband a Christian too? It sounds like such a difficult situation, I will definately pray for Marie and her family...

jax5434 · Jul 6, 2009

I would fully agree with all the advice given here. She and her husband need parayer and sound christian counseling. i would add one admonition. Once they make their decision, whatever it is, they should receive the full support of those around them. they are going to be deeply wounded in any case, and too many time we as christians kill our own wounded.please don't let this happen to them.

I will be praying for them

God Bless
Jax

Criada · Jul 6, 2009

Praying for this family.

CruciFixed · Jul 7, 2009

Does Marie and her husband realize she has 3 not 2 children dependent on her? There's a 3rd person living inside of her that depends on her even more than the 2 born children.

Izdaari Eristikon · Jul 7, 2009

jax5434 said:
Once they make their decision, whatever it is, they should receive the full support of those around them. they are going to be deeply wounded in any case, and too many time we as christians kill our own wounded.please don't let this happen to them.

Agreed. But beyond that, I don't know what they should do.

Praying for Marie and her family.

BelindaP · Jul 7, 2009

I totally agree that prayer and counseling is needed. I also think that getting a second opinion from a specialist in high-risk pregnancies is in order.

InHisSpirit · Jul 7, 2009

Thanks guys! God is so good. Right now, everything is going well. TY TY.

-~Truth_N_Trust~- · Jul 13, 2009

That is wonderful news InHisSpirit! Will still keep Marie and her family in my prayers...

deathduck · Jul 14, 2009

Make sure shes is constantly having medical tests done to know the state of her kidneys. If they start to deteriorate then she must follow the advice of a good doctor. It would be foolish to continue the pregnancy on faith alone, so I pray she receives good medical attention.

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