-I do recommend opening the forum as it was before temporarily for the purpose of Goodbyes... or creating a temporary sub-forum for that purpose.
-I would also suggest the age limit be no less than 19 to remain true to the teen forum name (IE: teens) and to recognize that there are 19 year old who are in High School or the first year of college for whatever reason.
+I do want to ask, also, why the age change is necessary in one respect: Any 14 year old on the site can go to the ethics forum and debate homosexuality or abortion with 50 year olds. Or any other forum. It seems odd that parent's suggestions are being allowed for one single forum that causes much damage... yet also doesn't change anything because if a perv was here, they could make an account saying '15' and post in the new forum anyway... or a legitimate 14 year old could go anywhere besides the age-limited forums. It doesn't make too much sense to me from that perspective.
I recommend combining a few of those forums into one main and several sub-forums. They all redundantly are around the same age group.
This is all entirely true. Even at my Church in real life, the College students are still hanging around with the Teens if they are at a local college.
As far as we can tell without an official word:
-Some unidentified parents complained that older people who were 20, 21, ect. were allowed to interact freely with 13, 14 and 15 year olds.
-If those parents are related to anyone in the teen section is also unconfirmed.
I always supported the Christian only identifier of that Forum and opposed the changes that took place a year or so ago when all rules were lifted and all the nether regions broke loose.
I don't see a need for the age limit for reasons I already voiced.
I will, however, promote a compromise at 19 or 20 if it is absolutely pre-determined.
Hi everyoneOk..I've got a crazy week and I don't want this to sit here with no one giving responses. dluvs is going to be helping in here answering questions and posting.
My point is, if the parents who are concerned about the teen section think this plan is going to cure everything they are wrong.
I hear ya and unfortunately, no There is no schedule. However, what I would suggest is PMing myself or meh or one of the other moderators that has been answering questions in this thread. That way you can ask your question(s) while it's still fresh in your mind and we can post them in the thread along with our answer when someone is able to be online.Is their going to be a schedule for when people can ask questions in this thread ?
It seems quite random as to when it's open / closed, and the ones that are effected by it may not be on the same time schedule as the ones opening & closing it over & over.
Is their going to be a schedule for when people can ask questions in this thread ?
It seems quite random as to when it's open / closed, and the ones that are effected by it may not be on the same time schedule as the ones opening & closing it over & over.
Yes- direct feedback/PMs were from parents who have kids on the board. Some of the parents were staff and some were not. Several comments were made that a 12 year old should probably not get the same advice from other teens that an 18 year old should get. Many parents were simply uncomfortable with the age range being so broad- 12 and under through 21. I can't speak as a parent because I'm not one. I can speak for myself and I also found it uncomfortable. Remembering back that far at age twelve or thirteen I do not recall ever hanging out (or whatever it's called now) with people in their 20's. Of course this was way before the internet. And I am not saying that people in their 20's have no value to the teen section or do not give appropriate advice or whatever. I'm telling you what some adults thought on the matter. So I agreed the age range seemed really, really broad. I can also say that at 17 in college I had way more in common with people still in high school and found it uncomfortable in college.
We are going to take into account the feedback and wishes of parents. They will not always co-incide with what the teen area members want. But the parents are your parents and actually raising people in the teenage bracket and they will be listened to.
The comments that teens can get approached by adults anywhere on the board is extremely compelling and valid. I'm also aware that there are probably already people on here saying they are a teen girl when in reality they are some 50 year old man.
I had more but I lost my train of thought. I'll be back later in the day to re-open if nobody else gets on first.
If...I'm saying if as it's just a suggestion or thought...if it ended up 20-21 or 21 had to leave the Teens area, would a new forum just for them make the transition easier? Like for 20/21-24?
* ages are not decided, nor a new forum. this is only a thought
If the purpose of the CFT forum is to help teens grow in their faith, the problem is not older members, it is those who bash Christianity.
If you want the young teens to become solid Christians, you need to keep us older members. We can guide them. Without us their questions about certain topics will end up being answered by other young teens, and that can lead to more problems for them.
If the issue is CFT's in not safe for young Christians, I'd suggest looking at keeping that forum Christian only instead of removing an integral part of Biblical knowledge held by people the young teens know, respect, and in many cases have befriended.
What parents probably see is some older CFT members who are also non-Christians debating the validity of Christianity, and instead of going to the advisers with the complaint of members bashing Christianity, they decided to take it out on the age group, which is completely unfair.
What I don't get is why you're punishing the older members. We have several younger teens in the forum who are Atheists. We get younger teens that bash on Christianity too. All I see is you people trying to appease these "parents" who complain about the site. If they don't like it, that's their problem. They can decide what they want their children on. Site-wide regulation isn't going to change anything. You know that as well as I do.
Allow me to interject for a second.Good point. It is good for younger teens to have their faith challenged. But it needs to be in a safe environment with those who want to see younger teens grow in their faith and have the best interests of the younger teens in mind. Non-believers, for the most part, do not have the best interests of younger teens in mind when they issue challenges and it often results in mockery.
Although I appreciate the gesture, it would do nothing to ease the frustrations and anger of the teens.
One of the irritating things for us has been that although we older people are being told "oh you can now post in the young adult section" the problem there is that there is not half the activity on that board as there is on the teens board. And like posted earlier I am in the crowed that seems to be more able to relate to the teens (will be 20 soon) then the young adults, who are careered, married, ect ect and just not quite in the same stage of life that i am. I do not see how an older teens forum would fix this.