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Braunwyn
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I had the same experiences with my folks and one of my step-parents but I disagree with you on "the natural bond of parents for their own offspring". My father is not my biological father but he raised me from birth until the divorce. It made/makes no difference that we aren't blood related. eta: I see you address this later in your post. OTOH, my step-father is just awesome. In a lot of ways, he has acted more like a father in my older years than my dad is capable. He has always relayed to me that I'm his daughter, that he loves me and he shows it. My relationships with my mom and two fathers are unique and precious. My step-mom is a wicked nut though.I give my personal story because it demonstrates a fundamental problem with families that are not intact, biological families. In my case, a fairly amicable divorce and subsequent remarriage of both my parents to different spouses led to conflict as each of my step parents always emphasized the role of my actual parent and de-emphasized their own role in any responsibilities concerning me. This demonstrates the natural bond of parents for their own offspring, and the innate jealousy and antipathy of step parents toward step children.
I agree with the first part, but the consequences of divorce on children and gay marriage are not the same issues. People with children that divorce probably should not have married to begin with. This won't be addressed by denying gays the right to marry.The only measured success for family units outside of the natural family is children adopted before their 15th month of age, as far as I have been able to discover so far. Every single child caught up in a gay parental situation is in a less than ideal situation from the start. This does not need to be encouraged.
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