It has much more to it than just socially acceptable sex. It's about being joined before God at altar.
Where were two people joined at altar in the Bible? Did man make that up too?
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It has much more to it than just socially acceptable sex. It's about being joined before God at altar.
Hmmm, maybe I should do that...I never shaved my legs for society. I shaved them for me to look more attractive because I had very nice legs.
For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh.
-Genesis 2:24
If he selects her for his son, he must grant her the rights of a daughter. 10 If he marries another woman, he must not deprive the first one of her food, clothing and marital rights. 11 If he does not provide her with these three things, she is to go free, without any payment of money.
On the third day a wedding took place at Cana in Galilee. Jesus' mother was there, and Jesus and his disciples had also been invited to the wedding.
-John 2:1-2
However, if they cannot control themselves, they should get married, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion.
-1 Corinthians 7:9
So, how much intimacy should be allow in a relationship? Some think that kissing someone your not married to, even though your in a relationship, is sexually immorally. Some think that its ok to do everything minus the actual act of intercourse.
Thoughts? Opinions? Arguments for either side?
There might not have been a formal ceremony here, but the two were considered husband and wife and were bound together by God. This is the basis for the marriage relationship.
Some Jewish marital rights are also defined in Exodus 21:9-10
Women were usually "betrothed," that is, their father would select a man for her to marry and once they were betrothed, they would be considered legally bound to marry.
Jesus himself attended a Jewish wedding in the book of John:
The apostle Paul indicates in his letter to the Corinthians, that the Christians there should abstain until they are formally married:
It's really a common thread throughout the text. No where in the bible is sex outside of marriage condoned.
Glad to hear that you are back together with your husband. Personally, I would view you situation as being a little different as you already were married and are now being reconciled. Maybe you could renew your vows just to make it official? Just a suggestion.
Best wishes.
Besides, your point contradicts itself since sex outside of marriage is, for the most part, acceptable by society's standards. Many non-religious people who get married simply look at it as a piece of paper.
one11 said:I never shaved my legs for society. I shaved them for me to look more attractive because I had very nice legs.
My opinion - legal marriage ftl.
Marriage in Gods eyes ftw
The Christian sub-culture is significant, and many members of that sub-culture regard those who engage in sex before marriage with suspicion and, in more extreme cases, disgust.
There's nothing about hairy legs inherently that makes them unattractive. It's part of our society. Other societies might consider hairy legs attractive.
For example, American society considers a slim women more attractive than fat women, all other variables constant. This is not the case in some African cultures, where it is exactly opposite.
I don't know what ftl and ftw mean?
Also, a biblical marriage is having sexual intercourse, consummation. Upon consummation, a man and a woman are married in God's eyes.
Not a piece of paper or a ceremony or a ring, or even a wedding dress to be white. The wedding feast was after the consummation happened because that was the marriage; it was now complete, and they celebrated. Marriage ceremonies can last a long time in some cultures. However, it is not "celebrated" until after the consummation of the man and the woman in some cultures, including the early Hebrews and Christians, too.
The Christian sub-culture is significant, and many members of that sub-culture regard those who engage in sex before marriage with suspicion and, in more extreme cases, disgust.
Do not conform any longer to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. "
-Romans 12:2
But, because of sexual immoralities, let each man have his own wife, and let each woman have her own husband.
-1 Corinthians 7:2
Know ye not that ye are the temple of God, and that the Spirit of God dwelleth in you?
If any man defile the temple of God, him shall God destroy; for the temple of God is holy, which temple ye are.
-1 Corinthians 3:16-17
Not true, I like bigger women.
MarkSB said:Personally, I wouldn't trust someone who called themselves a follower of Christ and engaged in premarital relations - and then going out and telling others their actions are according to scripture. They are only attempting to bend scripture to fit their actions. They will decieve to get what they want.
That's a pretty blurry and loose sentence that doesn't mean much until you define it and give examples.Nothing affects people spiritually more than sex outside marriage.
Society is deep with many different levels and parts. What is socially acceptable to one sub-culture is not socially acceptable to another.And when you say something is "socially acceptable," to most people that means it is generally accepted and even encouraged among most people. And in mainstream society, sexual immorality is practiced and in many cases encouraged. Loose treatment of one's body is of the world.
The LGBT isn't singing for it's lives. It's singing for benefits and reducing marriage TO benefits, which equals money.
That's how I see marriage now. I see marriage as benefits, and I don't need any benefits as far as health. I'm covered, and I don't have any benefits to offer my ex husband as far as monetarily. So why should I get married when there are no benefits?
Why do I need to get married when
1) It's just a man-made custom
and
2) The Bible was written by man and can't be trusted.
Certainly, not a ring. He gave me hundreds of rings. Beautiful rings, and one special ring.
Once we get socialized medicine here too, what's the point of being married?
I have wills and things and so does my ex-husband including large life insurance, so why do we need to get married? It's just a man-made custom and there are many who say the Bible can't be trusted or was all made up.
So *shrug* what do I need to get married for?
Nobody "needs" to.
Personally, I wouldn't trust someone who called themselves a follower of Christ and engaged in premarital relations - and then going out and telling others their actions are according to scripture. They are only attempting to bend scripture to fit their actions. They will decieve to get what they want.
Nothing affects people spiritually more than sex outside marriage.
And when you say something is "socially acceptable," to most people that means it is generally accepted and even encouraged among most people. And in mainstream society, sexual immorality is practiced and in many cases encouraged. Loose treatment of one's body is of the world.
In the end you will regret taking that path. Going along with the world is easy and fun in the short run. Following God might be difficult, but that doesn't mean we should just give up and make up our own rules.
If the act of sex means that you are married, then how can there be fornication (sex outside of marriage), and why did Paul implore people to get married rather than allow themselves to fall into sin (giving into temptation and having sex). That implicitly requires that marriage come before the act of consummation.
I do, however agree, that when two are joined as one flesh, even outside of marriage, moving on to another partner is spiritual divorce.
Sounds like they were sleeping around, dishonoring what the marriage covenant was, and Paul was telling them to make a choice of one person each out of all the people they were sleeping with.