Rppearso, I don't know if you have read my testimony yet. It's been a couple of days so I will share Part II with you. I do pray you will read this with an open mind and heart.
Brother, I was on my knees before the Lord for 6 months after my ex abandoned our marriage. During that time I was broken. In the long run, it was good for me. The Lord used that time to chasten me in my wrongness and encourage me in the things I was doing right. I also submitted myself to my pastor, some Godly men I could trust, and some Godly married couples that I knew would mentor me and hold me accountable. I am convinced this willingness to sit before Jesus contributed to my quick grief recovery. I wasn't perfect, brother. Far from it! I went through the wilderness experience and finally Jesus brought me out of it.
When I felt I was ready to date again, I found I was wrong. You see, I was ready in my soulish realm (mind, will, and emotions) but I was still lacking spiritual growth. As a result, I placed myself in a few bad situations with women who were not exactly sure of what they wanted in a man. Some of them had NO business putting themselves out there as they had MANY issues to still work through. Again, the responsibility for this foolishness was mine and mine alone. They were for the most part silly women, yes, but I chose to share in that silliness. I attracted unhealthy women because I was not yet healthy.
Finally, I reached a point where I was frustrated and hurt. I decided to finally set aside MY wants and desires and focus on what Jesus wanted for me. When I made the choice to lay aside my pride, THAT was the time that Jesus began to move on my behalf.
He led me to the wonderful, most Godly woman I am married to today. She is a breath of fresh air to me. A true biblical helpmate and a Proverbs 31 woman!!! We've been married several years now. Every day with her is a joy!!! She blesses me more than any other woman I have ever known. This is a work of God! Nothing to do with me .... everything to do with Him!
Brother, I feel in my spirit .... and I do believe this is from the Holy Spirit .... that you need to seriously slow down and smell the coffee. You are operating through the flesh. I know, because I can read the signs from you. Please give serious consideration to the points I shared with you in my previous post. You are skating on thin ice, brother. It's time to stop, sit at the Lord's feet, and reevaluate where you are heading. I don't want you to make the same mistakes I did.
PM me if you need to talk .... and may the Lord guide you!