She'll probably get some chocolate the day after Valentines Day...

Does this mean he'll be buying her double the amount?

I think it's sad. Does he not have enough money to buy her a box before Valentine's Day?

I'd be fine with it if I knew ahead of time. We don't make tons and tons of money, and we're in debt-reduction mode at the moment, so saving money to me is very important. Buying half-priced chocolates the day after seems reasonable to me, but...

I'd wanna know about it. I'd hate to get nothing on v-day with absolutely no explanation, that'd be a little disheartening I suppose. Even then, it's not all that important.. it's v-day, not my birthday. I'd get over it.

Hey, chocolate is chocolate! I love it regardless if it's full price, 1/2 price or 75% off!

My personal opinion is that Valentine's Day is just a Hallmark Holiday. We usually get each other cards and sometimes my husband will bring home flowers or something, but we don't make a huge fuss over it. Anniversaries and birthdays are much bigger occasions to us than some random day the greeting card companies have decided is the day to ramp up expressions of affection.

All that said, though, your friend - on appearances, based on what you have told us - seems to care little for his wife's feelings. The fact of the matter is that Valentine's Day is important to some people, and his attitude is lacking in respect for what the day may mean to his wife. Beyond all that, she might consider it a slap in the face to have him bring home the half price chocolate the next day, as if she isn't worth full price chocolate to him.

It sends a message, and the message is not a loving one.

I'm all for it, but I need to know in advance like MG

I wouldn't care (DH wouldn't do it though) if he got me chocolates the day after. Some holidays aren't worth spending much money. We normally go out for dinner the day before or after Valentine's Day. It all depends when we can get a sitter for the kiddo's

I'd rather not get anything at all. It's one thing to forget or not to celebrate it. But it's degrading to get something the day after when you know it's half price. I don't like being an after thought.

What he really should do is buy 12 boxes of half priced chocolates and give her one box a month. That would be appreciated.

Autumnleaf said:

My friend is a pretty good guy and his wife works where he does so she would know where it came from. I think he was just trying to get a rise out of his workers when he said that, and that is just what he got.

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I bet he did. He wouldn't have been able to walk normally if he said something like that at my workplace, which consists of all women.

If I had heard him say that, I would've said , "hmmm...I guess she is used to sloppy seconds."

I have to admit, Valentines is a weird thing for me. I don't just want some unthoughtful expensive gift thrown at me...nor do I want "nothing" because we're less than rich! To me, Valentines Day is about taking some time to be thoughtful of who I am, and how you care about me.

So I would be all for free gifts...like breakfast in bed, a message, or kisses all over. But some gift bought without thinking of me and just to shut me up... that's not cool!

This thread cracks me up. I'd be unhappy with hubby if he spent the inflated prices to buy full price chocolate that could be bought the next day for 50-75% off. He goes to a local chocolatier to get it and it's usually the same price (which isn't really expensive) but if I knew it would go on sale the next day I'd be upset for him paying full price, even if I were a millionaire! I'm always looking for a bargain. We buy cards at the dollar store or at the discount place (or I make them). I don't see how brand new chocolate could be considered "sloppy seconds" and I don't like buying into overly commercialized holidays so I guess I'm just an odd female. I hope my hubby realizes how lucky he is that I couldn't care less about such trivial issues. Getting upset over chocolate...silly!

It's the thought that counts.. buying half-priced chocolates a day after Valentine's Day just doesn't sound very thoughtful to me. I agree with FaithfulWife.. I will love getting gifts that don't cost money.. just don't give me half-priced chocolates (I rather not get anything at all).

Tell us how that works out for you... er, him.... AL.

Xinn, it's half prices chocolates, a day LATE too.

Million Pieces said:

Tell us how that works out for you... er, him.... AL.

Xinn, it's half prices chocolates, a day LATE too.

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Isn't that just the most romantic thing ever?

i know! Doesn't that just SHOUT "sacrificial love"! What a treasure of a guy!

can you HEAR my eyes rolling?

immersedingrace said:

This thread cracks me up. I'd be unhappy with hubby if he spent the inflated prices to buy full price chocolate that could be bought the next day for 50-75% off. He goes to a local chocolatier to get it and it's usually the same price (which isn't really expensive) but if I knew it would go on sale the next day I'd be upset for him paying full price, even if I were a millionaire! I'm always looking for a bargain. We buy cards at the dollar store or at the discount place (or I make them). I don't see how brand new chocolate could be considered "sloppy seconds" and I don't like buying into overly commercialized holidays so I guess I'm just an odd female. I hope my hubby realizes how lucky he is that I couldn't care less about such trivial issues. Getting upset over chocolate...silly!

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Haha I'm similar, and my husband is similar too! We make a much bigger deal out of our 'anniversaries' each month (yep, we celebrate every month) than we do with Valentine's Day. For V-Day we might make each other cards and have a special dinner with sparkling grape juice, or something like that. Financially we really aren't in a position to be spending money if isn't necessary.

Honestly I wouldn't mind if my hubby waited until the day after Valentines to get me chocolate and stuff. We have a tight budget and really don't have room for too many extras. So when we do get to do things together it's extra special.

That being said, even though we have a tight budget there is a little wiggle room for a few things. For example, I've been sick for over a week now. One day on his way home from work DH stopped by Wal-Mart and got me some cough drops and a heart shaped pillow that says Hugs and Kisses on it. Did I need the pillow? No. But it was the fact he took a little time out to stop and get something special for me.

I honestly don't know what my hubby has planned for V-day this year. I don't think we're going to be doing too much because he has to work. So we're probably going to do something before or after the fact. To me V-day is just another day. What really makes a day special is spending it with the person you love and doing something together.

As far as "Sloppy Seconds" go.... Chocolate is chocolate is chocolate. Just because it was bought the day after V-day doesn't mean it mysteriously went bad over night. It's still just as good the next day. So what if it was bought on sale. The fact that he went out and bought it should be something to make you happy in and of itself. I would actually prefer my hubby to wait a day and get it on sale.